2 year old dd refusing to sleep

[joz]

my 2year old daughter has always been a bad sleeper but for the past 12 months has been really good up until now.
she is refussing to sleep in her own room or in her own bed she could be falling asleep on the floor in the lounge room but as soon she is placed in her bed and room all she does is scream her lungs out.
i have tried to sit in her room not looking at her she will go to sleep for 5 minutes but as soon as i get up she screams again. i thought she might be affraid of the dark and placed a night light in her room but that still hasn't help i am really at my wits ends because i don't want to get her into the habit of being nursed asleep or sleeping in my bed she even refusses to sleep in her bed and room thru the day so if any one can help me please it will all be helpful even if it is small i am really fed up and with little sleep in 3 weks now i am sure i will be bald by the end of the month

[Benji]

Would you consider putting her bed in your room?

You poor thing :hugs: I really hate it when they scream before sleeping, it tears my heart out.

How's the night time routine? Is it the same every night? I'm gathering it is, sounds like she's just in a bad habit of wanting her mummy at bed time.

[veve]

does she still have sleeps during the day?? might be best to start the battle there .. as a) its daylight b) you aren't as tired and c) the sleep is shorter .. THEN when day naps in the room are mastered .. try to alter night times ..

do you PLAY together in her room?? is there anything in her room she doesn't know/ understand?? for a few months DS1 wouldn't sleep .. it was because the smoke alarm had gone off .. and he was completely freaked that it would go off again ?? playing in there with her can make the room seem more comfy??

do you have a sleep time routine/? JAck is MUCH better at sleeping now .. we haev a routine .. daysleeps ALWAYS start at the end of Dr Phil (mummy isn't addicted much.. :laughing:) and a timer is set .. the timer takes the fight out of it for us .. as its not mummy saying when sleep starts and finishes .. its the timer .. so its no longer personal???

at night time we have a WRITTEN routine .. with drawings/symbols attached .. as he clearly is TWO and cant read yet :laughing: .. its teeth - 5 mins play out in the lounge (timer beeps) go to your room 10 minutes with the light on .. to collect stuff for the bed .. lol (timer beeps) light off .. daddy tells Jack a story .. and then he is by himself till he sleeps ..

it took a few days .. but the WRITTEN routine made a MASSIVE difference ..

I guess you need to work out if its SLEEP she hates .. or the ROOM?? would she sleep in your room?? or is it that she doesn't want to miss out on other stuff .. which would happen if she slept/?

I hope SOMETHING in this long rambling post helps .. :laughing:

xx
Jen

[joz]

i must say she is not one to want to sleep with me at all i ahve made that mistake with my son and promissed myself it will never be done again.
it has gotten to the point that she refusses it sleep at daytime she weaned herself off it so i have let her go.
Yes she has a set routine for everything always has been like that i never break that routine even if we are away from home . To my knowledge nothing has scared her from sleeping in her room i will admitt i have tried to get her to go to sleep with me in my bed when i was so exhusted but she still just screamed herself to almost vomit stage or for instance tonight she stripped right down to the nude and feel asleep on her floornear the door by the time i got to her she was stone cold got her dressed still asleep on the floor got her up into my arms and as soon as i placed her into her bed she just started again :hair:

[nugglyboysmum]

sorry i dont have any advice for you, but wanted to let you know that i am going through a similar thing with my DS who turns 2 next week. He has always been difficult with sleep, but was going really well for a couple of months and now all of the sudden for the last 3 weeks he refuses to sleep in his bedroom. I feel i have tried everything and nothing works, he just hysterically screams for hours. I have given in, i can't stand to see him so upset so he now sleeps with us in our bed. He still refuses day sleeps though and will not go to sleep inour bed unless everything in the house is turned off and we are in bed with him, sop he has very late bedtimes of late. I have called Parent helpline several times and they cant come up with a routine that will work either, so we give up it all too stressful.

I hope you can find a happy solution for your family, goodluck

[joz]

thanks ladies for all ur help so far the drs have helped me pin point why she is refussing to sleep and has now been diagnoised witha sleep disorder which is connected with her tonsils problems. All will be fixed very soon when she gets her tonsils and adnoids removed yay!!!!! just have to wait now

[Miss_Vicki]

my girl is Much the same :(

in the day she has to eat a certian amount an play a certain amount , then she will either pass out cause tired , or will be cause i give in an go for a drive , (she has been like this for ever lol ) At nite i have winde down time, then i tell her its bed time , she sleeps on a cot mattress on the floor next to my bed , most nites i have to hold her hand to get her to sleep , But least she is there , taken me 6 months of this to get her out of my bed (she was co sleep since birth , but then put her in her own bed once asleep but would always end back in )