Last name issues ....

[butterfly83]

Hello, just for some background DH and I each have a child from a previous rship, and we are expecting our first child later this year and would like to have another child together after that.

Recently I have been bugged because DD has her dads last name (he is no longer in the picture) and she is going to have a different last name than the rest of her family, I am thinking of changing her last name to DHs so we all have the same last name. Do you think this is a good idea or is it going to far?

She is 2 and i dont know if she would notice, to be honest I'm not even 100% sure she even knows her last name it doesnt come up much. :confused:

[Mummaholic]

I think it's up to you, you may encounter some legal issues though, as I think you need the father's permission unless he has signed away his legal rights.

She can be 'known as' another name though. Either that or carry both. Not meaning to be rude, but if you ever split with dh - would you then change it again? Food for thought.

Good luck with your decision.

[Loopy Linda]

in our family my eldest has a different surname ( his fathers) his father has not seen him in 7 years now. it doesn't bother him having a different surname. it doesn't really come up much, except maybe school calling up for Mrs XXXXXX and i am thinking huh?? but i got used to it.

the only time it came up in coversation recently was when 5yr old wanted to know why when choosing the boys names i made him and his little brother have the same name ( strange i know) i explained that you don't really choose last names you just use your dads name ( i know it isn't a rule but was good enough for this conversation) after a couple of minutes thought he came back why is jarrods name different....he never realised his brother had a different dad...very strange that day!

[MrsDribbleDrawers]

There are five of us in our family, and five different surnames ~rofl~

I kept my name, DD1 has mine and her dad's, DS has his mum and dad's (DH) hyphenated, DD2 has mine and DHs...

Both girls are known by my name, and while we'll have no problems changing DSs name (mum is deceased), we've decided to keep it...

Legally, as a pp said, dad needs to sign any change of name paperwork, but you can be known as tinkerbell if "authorities" are happy to fill their paperwork out that way!

[Ingrid79]

Hi!

My SD and SS have their step fathers last name as their mum got married and had a baby and now they all have thesame last name.

However DH is still a big part of their life and when we go on holiday the kids have different last names which doesn't bother me but my dh isn't very happy about it although he signed the change of name papers to keep the peace.

I guess if the father isn't involved in the kids lives change it!

[LusciousMummy]

My neice's daughter was given her mothers last name as the fathers parents didnt want anything to do with the child. Now my neice and the daughters father are looking to get married and it will mean that the daughter will have a different last name unless the father adopts her and has her name changed??? I guess it doenst matter what you do the kid will know who its real family is no matter what its last name is.