Crafty solution?!

[Briswegian]

Need to have a whinge.

I have had a frustrating 5 months. Heavily pregnant, hurt my back....managed to get it better but cannot lift heavy things or do housework like floors/baths.

DH does the floors two, maybe three times before the baby is born (he's five weeks). I think I broke down and cleaned the bath.

Now, The floor has been mopped once since the baby was born and my mum did that. I had a c section and am not supposed to be doing housework.

To make matters worse, DH's brother has been with us since Jan....and they seem to think that a tidy of the kitchen and taking out the bins is all there is to do. I am getting really really angry with my DH and his brother as his brother is not paying us anything and he's driving my car to do deliveries for work and now he's just using it as his own to take friends to the coast....smoking in it etc. I'm getting really resentful but it also DH that I'm angry with. All of this also in the midst of renovations which has made more filth that I cannot do anything about.

I just have to sit in this pig sty and tidy the bit that I can do. The thing that's upsetting me now is that I will cave and clean it and then that just reinforces that it's my job to do (along with everything else).

As if a newborn and a toddler aren't enough to contend with. I have the complete irrits as DH's brother is STILL ASLEEP and its half 1 in the afternoon!!!!

Ooooh, just had a good idea....will spend DH's 'play' money on a housekeeper!!

GGGRRRRRRR!
What can I do?
Danielle

[Biene]

You poor thing, you're doing well to have lasted this long, I would have flipped out ages ago. Its hard enough with a newborn baby but to have someone else staying with you and creating more work?!

I think you need to talk to you DH about the situation, he may not take it too well as its his brother, but its also not fair on you. Be calm think long and hard about how you want to broach the subject with your DH, as you usually only get one shot with men and then they think your nagging :banghead:

[Briswegian]

Thanks.
Needed to get that off my chest.
DH's brother is lovely really and he will do anything you ask him to do (well usually) but I just get sick of asking and I guess sick of being a little helpless.
Have come up with a plan. MIL is coming on sunday night so there are jobs to be divvied up so the place can get cleaned totally and then we can discuss a way to keep it clean that we can all live with without any need for me to jump up and down about how poorly they've been doing. Look to the future instead of whine about the past even though I feel totally justified!! LOL.
D