Is your DH's last night home always hell?

[Myliam]

We seem to have spent the last 5 years that DH has been working away with his last night at home consisting of him being grumpy, me being :hair: that he's taking it out on me and neither of us getting a decent sleep.

However, this week we may have had a break through:yelclap:. We were given tickets to see "forgetting Sarah Marshall", not my type of film but there's something about watching a comedy in a crowded cinema that makes you laugh at everything. Any way it was the best last night we've ever had.

Does anyone have any other ideas for beating the last night blues??

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

no not yet...we are always ratty with each other...then I so sad the next day as he has to go and such a waste of the last night...
looking forward to seeing some ideas on here...we have 2 very little ones and no babysitter so cinema is out for us ;)

[TeamAwesome]

not hell but I'm usually grumpy at him and the kids ar a bit sooky as we don't want him to go.

This time we'll have DD2's baby dedicatoin and celebration the day before and DD2's 6m immunisations the day of that he'll be leaving so I don't think anyone will be happy.

Sounds like you find a good way to deal with the last night! ;) Might take it up but with a dvd as we're usually not able to get a babysitter.

[Kazamataz]

LOL we are the opposite, his first night back is usually a cranky one.

His last night is a great night, we make that whole day a totally family only day and we don't do any chores or run errons or do anything just hang out as a family.
And then once Asher is in bed we order some yummy take away and veg out together.

maybe thats something you could try.

[Myliam]

Well the babysitter thing wont be happining for a while. My sitter was my Mum and she's off over east for 2 months or more from last Wed. I feel like TV and takeaway is all we do, so I've talked him into cancelling Foxtel for a 3 month trial. Maybe then we'll spend some quality time together. (Dreaming, aren't I). Family only time could be a good idea. I think I'll see if he wants to go fishing on his last night next break. Weather permitting. I got a rod for christmas 4 years ago and still haven't used it. Hopefully doing something, anything, will be better than moping at home. I'll let you know if it works. I'm still hoping there might be a few other new suggestions out there too. I'm happy to try some new ideas.

[TeamAwesome]

Actually DH and I started this new thing last time he was home where we will sit on our bed after the kids are in bed with a towel and some moisturiser and give each other a foot massage while just chatting with some nice relaxing music on.

It can be a nice way to unwind with each other. When we had a bigger shower and bath a nice shower or bath together at the end of the day was also nice.

I do agree with the family day ideas as we used to go out to the park with some snacks and do a few nice things together but it's been raining the last few trips home DH has had so it hasn't worked out that way and probably also accounts for the grumpiness on everyones account from being stuck inside.

[Myliam]

Actually DH and I started this new thing last time he was home where we will sit on our bed after the kids are in bed with a towel and some moisturiser and give each other a foot massage while just chatting with some nice relaxing music on.

It can be a nice way to unwind with each other. When we had a bigger shower and bath a nice shower or bath together at the end of the day was also nice.

I do agree with the family day ideas as we used to go out to the park with some snacks and do a few nice things together but it's been raining the last few trips home DH has had so it hasn't worked out that way and probably also accounts for the grumpiness on everyones account from being stuck inside.
Oooooo I like the foot massage idea. Feels like we haven't done that in years.

[mrsfieldgun]

I just cry the last day, I am such a sooky la la LOL

[Myliam]

Is it weird that I don't feel like crying. Sometimes there's a sense of relief that I can finally get back to my normal routine. Dont get me wrong, I love my DH more than anything and wouldn't change him for anyone. But I guess I do enjoy being able to spread out on the bed, and I really dont miss his snoring.:sleeping:

[Kazamataz]

:iagree: I don't feel like crying at all.

Jesse wouldn't do it if I was like that.
I know not everyone but alot of people work in the mines because they can earn more than if they worked closer to home.

Jesse is different he trained to work in the mines. Mining is his passion, there is no other job he's done that make him happier.

I would more likely cry everyday if he went off to a job that I know he clearly didn't enjoy.

the only reason he works away at the moment is he's trying to get his skills up so we can move to a good mining town, not a woop woop town.

[Myliam]

I would have moved as to Karratha or such like in a heart beat so that DH could come home every night. My sister is in Nhulunbuy and loves it. But... my wonderful Dh is very good to his mother and as she is 78 he will not move to another town. Cant complain, she's actually a great mother in law.
When my 2nd was born my husband was away and I was left at home on my own with my 6yr old and a 2day old baby. My husbands family were Fantastic! They are always busy but when I lost my support system (I kicked my drunk sister out of my house and my mum went with her) on the day I got back from hospital they stepped up immediatly and had someone from the family visit me everyday for 2 weeks until I got over the upset of my own families falling out.
So I don't mond staying in Perth really. Besides I'm sooooo in love with my daughters school.
hope Jesse has good luck getting the place you want.

[Kazamataz]

I would have moved as to Karratha or such like in a heart beat so that DH could come home every night. My sister is in Nhulunbuy and loves it. But... my wonderful Dh is very good to his mother and as she is 78 he will not move to another town. Cant complain, she's actually a great mother in law.
When my 2nd was born my husband was away and I was left at home on my own with my 6yr old and a 2day old baby. My husbands family were Fantastic! They are always busy but when I lost my support system (I kicked my drunk sister out of my house and my mum went with her) on the day I got back from hospital they stepped up immediatly and had someone from the family visit me everyday for 2 weeks until I got over the upset of my own families falling out.
So I don't mond staying in Perth really. Besides I'm sooooo in love with my daughters school.
hope Jesse has good luck getting the place you want.

:yelclap: Thats awesome you have such loving an supportive inlaws!

I refer to mine as the monster inlaws. The names says it all really.

I like being in Perth but ideally I would prefer to have Jesse home every night. Even if it means we have to live in a little mining town.

Some mining towns are just a bit better than others and thats what we are holding out for :fingerscrossed:

[Myliam]

:fingerscrossed:Good luck Kazamataz.

It's only 4 more sleeps till DH comes home. Yay!
It's too cold for my fishing idea so if anyone has any other ideas for a cold night. Besides the obvious :o. I really feel we need to get out of the house on our last night together. You know really break the routine.
I'm afraid my brain is not being very creative right now. DD2 is cutting her third molar in a week so my nights are pretty tiring.

[Kazamataz]

Oh our hubbies must be on the same roster cause there's only 4 sleeps till Jesse comes home too.

Something we like to do in the winter as a fun date is go ten pin bowling.

Its a heap of fun if you make up silly rules, like you have to do a dance before you bowl the ball.
Or you have to a crazy run up or bowl with your eyes close.
Crazy stuff like that, it makes you feel like a 12 year old all over again.

Or an other thing we do is go out for dessert and coffee. Its cheaper than going out for a whole meal but at the same time you get to get out of the house.

Or something really crazy that will make you feel like your 17 all over again is to go parking! :laughing:
now I'm not recommending you participate in anything illegal, but a little harmless making out in kings park or a lookout somewhere will really bring the spice back.

Hope that gives you a few ideas :D

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

;) what do you do with Asher when you frequent Kings Park ;)
sounds fun anyhow!

[MilkOnTap]

Yes - I know those 'last nights' well... They truly do SUCK. No other explanation for it.

We tend to make sure that its OUR night - like our last day. We dont allow visitors, we just have a family day. Whether its at the park, or... well - usually the park cause thats free lol - but whatever it is we just make sure its US and no one else.

Kinda nice to get that exclusivity - but I wish I could keep him home a bit longer!!!

We've got 19 days left together between now and Sept... god that sucks.

[Kazamataz]

;) what do you do with Asher when you frequent Kings Park ;)
sounds fun anyhow!

:laughing: we have a couple of really good babysitters.

Not that we are always up in kings park making out like a bunch of teens :valentine:

However every now then its fun to pretend you don't have any responsibilities even if it's only for an hour or two :thumbsup:

[Myliam]

Kaz- Not having spent my formative teenage years in Perth I've never "parked" in Kings Park. Sounds like fun. Is there still a Drive-in Cinema in Perth somewhere?

We have actually survived another last night without conflict. 2 for 2, OMG what a record!! We ended up getting takeaway and playing board games.

19 days Milkontap. That does suck. Hope you get through it with a :hugs: and a :).

:wave:

[Kazamataz]

Kaz- Not having spent my formative teenage years in Perth I've never "parked" in Kings Park. Sounds like fun. Is there still a Drive-in Cinema in Perth somewhere?


:laughing: I didn't either, tho "parking" is the same everywhere really :D

I just did a google search and found this
http://www.galaxydrivein.com.au/info.htm

Apparently there are a few drives in still left in Perth.

[Myliam]

Thanks for the info.

[berniebabe]

DF's last night home, First day away, day before he gets back and the day he gets home is hell. But it's worth it. We were going to move up to the mines with DF but now he is looking into oil and gas :( I told him no longer than 3 weeks away

[jessiika]

im abit of a sooke la la lol i cry on jasons lst day and become very quiet and distance myself which then leads 2 him getting upset n cranky so we fight n snap at each other n wan 2 change it but cant seem 2 break the cycle

[Kazamataz]

im abit of a sooke la la lol i cry on jasons lst day and become very quiet and distance myself which then leads 2 him getting upset n cranky so we fight n snap at each other n wan 2 change it but cant seem 2 break the cycle

Could it just be a pregnant hormonal thing?
I know when I was at the same stage as you I would follow Jesse around like a loss dog :laughing:

Or did the same thing happen before you got pregnant?