but it's only about the car keys...

[caro224]

It's half past five and the rest of my family is still asleep. I woke up and can't get to sleep anymore because DP went to sleep in the guest room :crying:

We had a fight last night. He told me for ages that I should make a copy of our car keys. Yesterday I finally did it and when I picked him up from work I told him and he asked me if I did the fuel tank key aswell. No, I forgot. And he was bloody mad at me. :thumbsdown:
Told me how stupid i was and that it's not difficult to think of 2 things at a time. I felt like an idiot. We fought over this the whole way home. And he didn't talk to me anymore the whole night and even didn't play with Emily.

I can't believe this, it was just about the goddamn car keys!!! How can this become such a big issue? :(


Anyway, thanks for reading guys, I had to write it down I guess..

[rynosmum]

It's crazy how such little things can escalate into such a huge argument but I think it happens to all of us at different times.:(

I don't want to gloss over the fact of him calling you stupid because I don't believe that there is ever a reason to attack people personally however...

Is he stressed about something else at the moment ? Work or money maybe ? I always find that arguments are so much sillier when someone is already stressed and then carries it further.

I hope it improves this morning and am sorry that you had such a horrible night.:hugs:

[Puk]

I think it's pretty ridiculous that he got so mad about car keys!! To the point of not even sleeping in the same bed?!! That's crazy! You can always go back and have the other key done, it's no big deal! Is there perhaps an underlying issue? Like Rynosmum said, is he stressed?
I would sit down with him this morning and let him know how much it hurt your feelings that he slept in the guest room over something so trivial! Not to mention the fact that he didn't even play with Emily! :thumbsdown:

[Chickadee]

Sometimes it's easier to blow up over small trivial things than to address the bigger issues that are really the problem. DH and I once had a whopper of a fight over who had more cheese on our home-made pizzas :rolleyes: It's also much easier to take out a bad mood on a partner - who presumably will understand and forgive - so maybe there has been an idiot who ****ed him off earlier in the day but who he couldn't confront & had to be nice to. So as others have said, take a look at your total relationship and at other things that may be going on and causing stress - work, money, family, etc.

[caro224]

thanks guys for your replies.
Well, DP stopped smoking 1 week ago. Maybe I should blame it on that..
I feel much better now, although I don't know what the evening will bring when he comes home.
It's just so unfair. He was sick last week (:barf:) and I pampered him as I could! Then he stopped smoking and all I get is his bloody bad mood...

We always have our swimming classes on Wednesdays. Today was the last one. He slept so long that we missed it (I have to take him to work in the mornings) and he never said sorry or anything. :mad:

I know, you can never ever change them so I should probably start to figure how I cope with this instead of complaining about him. Anyway, it's good to write it down and share it with someone sometimes... :)

[M O P]

thanks guys for your replies.
Well, DP stopped smoking 1 week ago. Maybe I should blame it on that..
I feel much better now, although I don't know what the evening will bring when he comes home.


This explains a lot!
My husband is the nicest guy but when trying to go without the fags is horrible! So am I when I've given up in the past! It's a terrible feeling, you're so frustrated. I don't think unless you've given up smoking yourself you can truly understand what it's like.
It will get better, it does pass. I found that it was only to begin with but as your body adjusts and you get used to not smoking it fades.
I'm sorry that you are on the end of this in the meantime. In the long run it will be worth it, so just hold tight and try not to take it to heart too much. Imagine being in my house when my husband and I were giving up together!!:eek: It wasn't pretty- but all back to normal now.