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Hey guys, i wanted to ask you all a question..since ive been wituh my DP for about 13-14 months, he has gained 20kilos since then. I am still in love with him and still attracted to him sexually but it is started to worry me and creep into the back of my mind..whats the best way of approaching this issue to you guys??
OMG - very carefully!!!!!
I am sorry, that is all the advice I have. DP and I are lucky in that respect as neither of us are not overly sensitive to a "you're getting a bit cuddly honey" comment!!
Doesn't matter what I say, he just goes: 'are you saying I'm fat?!?!?!?" :eek:
I recommend saying you've decided you want to go on a health kick and start eating better and exercising more, would he want to do it with you for support?
Look through some old photo albums with him: 'god, do you remember when we were that small?'
try and do it yourself and get him to tag along (sorry he's just found the hot cross buns, so I've lost his attention) :rolleyes:
Maybe you could try "Honey, I love you no matter what. I will always love you no matter what. I think you're gorgeous and sexy. I am a little bit worried that you've put on quite a lot of weight. This doesn't matter to me in terms of you being attractive - I still find you incredibly attractive. It worries me because of the health implications - people carrying extra weight are at risk of more health problems like diabetes, heart disease....etc. I love you and it wouldn't matter to me if you weighed 500kg, but I'm worried about you."
This approach worked for my DH - he lost 10kg.
hey my names chris, i have 2 kids jayden 2 and caylee 1 id like to meet other dads from perth..my email address is firstname.lastname@example.org if any1 wants to email me or add me to msn..as im not on here much coz my gf hogs the computer lol
Chris - are you lost? Looks like you might fair better with a post like this in the introductions area:)
In response to Mummy2Alexandmary -
I had a similar problem with my DH. When I first got pregnant I weighed the same as on our wedding day 4years earlier. My hubby was already about 10 or 15kg more. By the time our son came along, I'd put on about 15kg and my hubby had put on another 15kg as well. (I actually read that it was a trait of carrying a boy if your partner put on weight as well:laughing: ) Luckily after bubba was born, my hubby got a bit of a wake up call - think he had gradually been getting frustrated with his clothes not fitting right etc. I knew me saying anything would just be taken as criticism, so instead I worked on talking about how healthy I wanted to be after son was born.
Together we bought a rowing machine and started going for walks - I dropped my 15kg in about 3months and hubby lost about 25kg over 6months. I've now put on 5kg with this bub but I don't think hubby has put on any. He was always aware of his weight - just never talked about it (a general trait of his that if you ignore something it goes away).
Have to admit even though I didn't love him any less with his extra weight, I find him more sexy now without it:cool:
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