ARGGHH.. I am so confused .. Need Feedback

[KatherineIV]

Okay I may babble a little and I do apologise in advance.. but I need a place to vent my thoughts / feelings :hair:

Due to increase in cost of living etc and the mortgage interest rate rise I need to get back into the workplace. I was working full time for twelve months which I gave up last September because between working 40 - 50 hours a week plus a 2 year old it got too heavy. I felt like all I did was work, clean, cook, wash and sleep. I had headaches all the time and literally shook from stress. Last September I gave up the full time thing had a few months off and now I work a nice little 6 hours per week.

However... money has gotten so tight that we aren't getting anywhere and are literally living week to week. Bills are always getting paid late and the problems it is causing in our relationship is crazy..

I have the opportunity to do some FIFO work as a temp for 12 - 26 weeks doing 9 days on / 5 off. The money would literally be DOUBLE what I was earning before and it would give us a chance to put some money in the bank to get through the next 18 months or so and to put money aside for the wedding that we are just never going to be able to afford otherwise.

I am really in two mind sets about the whole thing. It is a fantastic opportunity for me in regards to my career etc. The money would be fantastic.. I know in my heart that DH can handle DS for the time I am away plus work. I have already stipulated that we would be getting a cleaner as I would NOT be coming home to do washing and cleaning. The prospect excites me but I don't want to leave DS...

We are supposed to be TTC at the moment but we can just not afford to bring another bub into this world at the moment. I know that if I do this we can start expanding our little family a little sooner. If I don't do this then things wont change even if I were to go to work full time here due to cost of day care etc.

Living week to week SUCKS :banghead: If this is a way that I can get our family out of this situation for awhile I would be crazy to let that opportunity slip.

I know that it's not along time in the BIG picture... but DS is nearly three changes everyday and I just hate to think I would be missing things... but again... it's only going to be SIX months tops.

ARGHHHHHH :hair:

Writing this down... really hasn't helped... :laughing:

I do believe I get a little crazier each and every day.


I guess I would just like a little feedback from any parents that are being forced to make the hard call because of the money issue... Or anybody that is also in the throws of having to make the hard call..

Any feedback would be greatly appreciated..

[blackdog]

From what I can tell, most people with little kids live payday to payday. We are often living off the vege patch and a bag of rice for the last few days of the fortnight! I try not to get too upset, because frankly, I can't afford anit-depressants!:laughing:

Seriously, though, if it were me, I would take the temp job because....it is for a finite amount of time, so there will be light at the end of the tunnel.....if the money will really make as much difference as you say....you are confident that your DS will be cared for....

As a side note, a bit of unwanted advice on weddings...:p If I had my time over, I would not have had a wedding. They are stupidly expensive exercises. We had one when we had two income and no kids, and I am pretty frugal, but now I wish the money had gone on the mortgage instead (and we spent about half what most people do!) You have all the same legal rights as a de facto these days, anyway. And a marriage is relatively easy to get out of...owning property together is harder to get out of....and the real commitment is having kids together! That one is for life!

[jacks mum]

my 2 cents worth

take the job and can you both have computers with webcams set up so you can still see and talk to each other on skype or msn?

you don't get the best of both worlds but you do get a bit of them and it will get you ahead in the long run.

hope that gives you another angle to think of