using special needs children against you

[supa_star323]

Before anyone reads this and assumes I am having a baby (especially after my previous posts) I am not. I tend to just write things on here the first second they pop into my head, but then later when I know I am wrong they are still on here...

Anyway, the reason for my post. Does anyone ever have their special needs child held against them? I mean, like my bf's mother and step-father both said to him to never have children with me cause they will all be spastic. (Their words)... I am very hurt over this, yes DS has epilepsy but the doctors don't know why as it doesn't run in the family on either side (possibly associated to trauma shortly after birth). I just don't understand why someone would say something like that, i love my son regardless and think it is absolutely horrible for someone to say something like that and nnow I feel like me and my son have been personally attacked.

Sorry for rambling, but I needed to get this out!

[Tam-I-Am]

What an absolutely despicable and disgusting thing for your PILs to say. I can't honestly understand how anybody could think that that is an acceptable way to treat anybody. I really think that they're trying to find something - ANYTHING - to hurt you with (for whatever immature reason), and what better way to hurt a mother than insult her child?

Please don't take it to heart - you KNOW your DS is perfect :hugs:

[veve]

hmmm CLASSY .. using the word spastic .. gotta love their understanding of the world of disability ...

epilepsy is caused by MANY things .. sigh .. WOMEN with epilepsy have children who do not have ANY form of it .. (and besides .. epilepsy is usually something that can be managed .. sigh)

that is TOTALLY wrong what they said to you .. and honestly .. I dont know how you are physically restraining yourself :laughing:

I work in special ed .. and MANY families have their oldest child at the school .. and younger siblings at a mainstream school ..

:hugs: your situation is icky .. good luck :hugs:

xx
Jen

[the_queen]

Oh that is awful! :( You poor thing, and what a terrible revolting thing for them to say about their grandchild :(

You vent away, that must be so hard to hear and so hard to live with - they are supposed to have unconditional love for their grandson and yet they say things like that. What pigs. And if your bf listens to them then he's just as bad.

[punkbaby]

:iagree: thats such a disgusting thing to say i am lost for words.

:hugs: to you hun, some people just have no idea and until they are in your shoes they dont realise that your son is a perfect little boy :)

[supa_star323]

Oh that is awful! :( You poor thing, and what a terrible revolting thing for them to say about their grandchild :(

You vent away, that must be so hard to hear and so hard to live with - they are supposed to have unconditional love for their grandson and yet they say things like that. What pigs. And if your bf listens to them then he's just as bad.




I did forget to mention that DS is not my bf's child, but that does not excuse their words one bit. My bf thinks of him as his won and has totally accepted him. His epilepsy is starting to come under control and it just seems like every time my life seems to be sorting itself out people come along and say and do things like this and now I feel horrible and I am just sitting here crying. they are not worht my tears but I just can't help it!

[reAllytee]

What horrible people they must be :mad:

If your bf is happy then hopefully in time they come around to the fact any child is a blessing but if not meh bugger them !

Its not worth letting people like this get to you even though it would be hard but you are far better than them !

[naiwen]

I have a SN baby and if anyone ever said anything like that I think I would just about explode with rage! How dare they say that, if I were you I would be having as little contact with them as possible.
Hugs

[MyFourCubs]

Your son is not spastic...he has epilepsy... what exactly is THEIR excuse???????????

N/B, Don't actually believe in the term "spastic," but was just using it to make a point!

[Nowhere]

WOW your PILs are obviously extreamly insecsitve rude, argoant and down right stupid

By the sound of it they veiw any Illness, hurdle or querk the same way hence them calling someone with epilepsy Spactic (makes me feel sick useing that word in such a context

The term Spactic is in regards to Spastic cerabal Palsy BUT it is not used in terms od discribing the child KWIM a child with spastic CP has Spastic limbs in meaning they are stiff and rigid and do not work, It is a medical DX and should NEVER be used as a name at a child or to discibe a SN child

How you restrained yourself from smacking your MIL over the head I do not know

HUGS sory ou have to deal with such ignorant pieces of SH*T

[Angelinalily]

like my bf's mother and step-father both said to him to never have children with me cause they will all be spastic. (Their words)...

OMG - can't believe anyone would say that. It speaks volumes about them, and says very little about you and your child. Don't waste time worrying about it.

Perhaps it was not great judgment for bf to tell you about these comments.

[kiwibird27]

HOW DISGUSTING,Send them to my house for a day or too, I'll explain it to the useless hill billy backwards people!!!! Send them on a field trip to the childrens.... maybe that will open their eyes to the real world. Clearly NOT worth your time