Do you?

[Kazamataz]

I was just wondering does anyone else find it insulting when people try to imply that your partner is neglectful or money hungry?

I get this all the time, Because Jesse works away to alot of people the assumption is he either doesn't care about us or is completely greedy.

Neither could be farther from the truth.
Most of the time I let it slide but every now and then someone throws in a really nasty comment.

I was just wondering do other people get this and is it wrong that It annoys me so much?

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

not so much that...but people do always say I dont know how you do it and I think some people probably think it...but to me its a matter of needs must...we are very lucky in this day and age that husbands are able to be around so much and spend so much time with the children. The whole concept of working away or working all hours that god sends used to be the norm...I know my father used to work a day job and at night when we were really little to make ends meet...noone ever suggested he was neglectful - just doing the very best he could to provide for the family...this is what my husband is doing too. Plus it is his career...just like a doctor in a hospital or nurse may work double shifts or all hours of the week to follow his/her life career, my husbands takes him to places further away then Perth. Men and women work away for months on end in the Forces, and other jobs and people dont imply they are neglectful etc...I think it a bit of jealousy sometimes too because people think you are always soooooo much better off if you work in mines...we arent so much just that is where the work is for a water well driller.
I would let it slide off your back...people like that are not worth worrying about...seriously, who gives anyone the right to tell someone that their working hard as and providing for their family is being neglectful. :ecomcity:

[boysandme]

Yes, I get this. I think if it is from a stranger you should just let it slide - who cares what they think anyway!
But if it comes from people you know or friends or family - speak up and tell them to support you rather than frown upon it and try to make you feel down. It is a lifestyle that you have chosen for good and the bad. I think it is mostly great!
Friends/family who always have something to say, I have found, are the ones who expect the most sympathy when they are unhappy in there own situations. And I know I don't speak harshly to them about their choices in life. ..I just don't make time for people like that anymore.
Try not to let the comments bother you so much - you'll feel better for it!

[Kazamataz]

Thanks guys, It was my sister who said something nasty to me. I know I shouldn't listen to her but it's hard sometimes.
She's the most critical person I know always picking at me and always looking down her nose.

[mrsfieldgun]

You poor thing, that's awful!!
Am a FIFO 2/2 riggers wife, know exactly how you feel too babe

[Kazamataz]

You poor thing, that's awful!!
Am a FIFO 2/2 riggers wife, know exactly how you feel too babe

Thank-you, your family is meant to love and support you unfortunately my sister missed that memo!

Your a FIFO mum with twins, your awesome!

[mum1986]

my dp is fifo 8-6 days. when i get comments like that i just point out that they may not see daddy every day but when they see him it's quality time because he isn't tired from being at work all day and we have enough money for them to do lots of fun stuff together. usually shuts them up when they are confronted with facts

[Kazamataz]

my dp is fifo 8-6 days. when i get comments like that i just point out that they may not see daddy every day but when they see him it's quality time because he isn't tired from being at work all day and we have enough money for them to do lots of fun stuff together. usually shuts them up when they are confronted with facts

Your right about the quality time point :yelclap:

I think people have forgotten what QUALITY really means.