Babyshower?

[cassvanm]

:wave: Hello!
my 2 SIL's had had 4 children since I'd had Baylee (DD1), and both had had babyshowers thrown for them (by myself and other family members!). Anyway, after I'd had DD2, DH and I had decided NO MORE KIDS! I had made a comment to SIL that I had had 2 children, but no babyshower was thrown for me, and if DH & I ever went back, I wanted one. I was half-joking when I said this, but was still hurt when I had Kaidy, and still no shower.
Anyhoo, have recently been told by SIL that she's waiting til we find out #3's gender, then she's organising a babyshower.
I am excited, but also feeling a bit greedy. Yes, I know it's about getting together and having a fun arvo, but presents are going to be brought for the bub. Also, we have nothing, and ppl keep saying "dont' buy anything, wait til the babyshower".
What do you all think? Please be honest, this is kind of stressing me out!


PS
I put that I expect one, only coz I know I'm getting one, and after being promised one, I WILL be guttered if it doesn't happen, just for being overlooked again, not coz I didn't get prezzies!

[mixy]

Ok well, i said that i was throwing one for myself. The thing i want to add is that i am not planning on having a baby shower but a blessingway, its kinda the same as it has women all coming to spend time with the expected mum, but more so to celebrate the up coming birth, the mum is pampered, its all very spirtual. I have only read up about then and never been to one, so if someone has better info than this feel free to correct me. any way i refuse to miss out so i will be throwing my own:)

No help to you though cass

[GeorgiaAnne]

No way for me - I hate opening presents in front of people and making them feel obligated (I also like to choose my own stuff :o)

[3KIDSMUM]

I voted no because I would rather people give presents when I know what sex my bub is and because im not going to find out what it is till its born then they have to wait til then! I would rather get the pressies in hospital and have a BBQ to welcome him/her to the family after the bubs is born. Thats how we did it for my last bub anyway and it worked out well.

I also think if u really want a baby shower then have one!! Espec if this is your last one as u may regret it later on.

Good luck with your decision! :) Let us know what u decide

[missmilliesmum]

I am throwing myself one - sorta. My BF is also pregnant so we are gonna have one together. It is both of our first bub.
I love going to baby showers, they are so much fun!
I am throwing one at my place on April 20, for one of my GF's. I can't wait to decorate my living room in pink (She knows it's a girl!) and do lots of yummy baking and cooking! Also have some fab games worked out to play.
I kinda wish someone would offer to throw mine, but it will be great as my BF and I can plan it together!

[kymmy]

I have never had a baby shower. Never really thought about it though I see my friends having them now as if you HAVE to.
My Mum would say to me don't buy anything as ppl with buy things when bub is born. But I don't like to rely on it. I am fussy too!
I don't care for gifts but a party would be nice.

[GeorgiaAnne]

I love going to them though!:D

[PinkAngel]

I prefer going to them than hving one of my own.. i guess it would be fun but I don't like being centre of attention... rather just be one of the group... but it was good to get together with girlfriends etc and have a nice afternoon...

[loz10]

To be honest I thought u only had one for your 1st baby.. But hey, why should the first be celebrated and not the others, that is very unfair now I think about it.

Cass - Relax, go ahead and enjoy the party, you are pg and deserve to be spoilt, enjoy it!

[haileye]

Well I don't care what anyone else thinks, I am definately having one, Mum and I are planning it for about June/July. And because I don't have a lot of female friends we are having a bbq with guys and girls (because most of our friends are couples) no games, instead just a gathering of people. And just to throw a spanner in the works I will be adding a wish list to my invites because I don't want to be over crowded in soft toys and clothes that won't fit.

[jag5000]

sorry to jump into your september thread ladies!

I didn't have one with my DD and with only 5 days to go with this bub I have given up hope of having one... :(

I wanted someone to throw me one (I dropped enough hints!), I don't believe in hosting my own.. but no-one did :(

have one, and enjoy it... for both of us! LOL

[haileye]

jag5000 If you happen to pop back in, maybe you should cnnsider having a meet the baby shower??
This is something that a friend of mine is organising.... she had her baby boy a few weeks ago, and on her invites she is asking that instead of gifts (because its her 2nd bub) she is requesting that they bring nappies etc. she said that the last thing she needs is more toys etc.. and nappies or things that she will actually use would be better.

No point waiting for someone else to do it these days... at least if you organise it yourself, you will definately get one.

[Mermum]

jag5000 If you happen to pop back in, maybe you should cnnsider having a meet the baby shower??
... at least if you organise it yourself, you will definately get one.

Yep or a baby naming ceremony, my sister had that and it was a beautiful day, Annabel had already turned 1 by that time.

I want to have a baby shower or more a supportive girls afternoon, where we have fun and pick out goddess cards and make wishes and do some kind of caring well wishing things..it would be nice to have a motivated friend organise something like this..but I might just do it myself...
I definitely don't want it to be boring or contrived..I have been to some that have been a bit boring with cups of tea and people comparing presents. I don't want that...I want something a bit more upbeat and may be a bit spiritual...music fun laughter hugs..some kind of ceremony & the unpregnant ones can drink if they want. I don't expect any presents..hand-me-downs suit me fine..and I have a feeling I'll be getting some of those..

:hugs:

[jag5000]

oooh thanks gals! great ideas!!! .. I 'spose it's not so strange to organise it myself if it's AFTER bub is born, is it?

enjoy your showers... and the rest of your pregnancies too :)