"Oh good, we dont have to have the circumcision chat"

[tiggles]

This was the comment from my OB during my visit this week.

Im so relieved that I don't even have to think about this topic (well now ppl know I'm having a girl!). As I really didn't want to have to make a decision about circumcision.

Anyway I mentioned this to DH that night (BTW we had never discussed circumcision before) and he was really pro circumcision, I found this interesting coming from a guy. He said, his words not mine "much easier to keep clean and less prone for infections".

Do any others partners feel the same way? Just really interesting from a guy's point of view.

[shed]

I am wondering what an OB has got to do with circumcision.

[BabyNatasha]

Sadly i have a tough time talking to my dp about anything to do with babies as he is adament he does not want any kids.. but i have asked "if... it ever happens" lol and he said he would want his son circumsized as it is healthier and much better in the long term.

thats his and my imput

xxxtash:bee:

[tiggles]

I am wondering what an OB has got to do with circumcision.

I think because its so "not the norm today" and she wanted to discuss the good and bad points. I think she wanted to provide as much info as possible, so we could be an informed decision before simply asking for a referral to a doctor/specialist who would do it.

[mumofcuties]

my dp said pretty much the same thing and he wanted our ds to be the same as him as well. my docter said to me that he is pro cercimsision coz he wouldnt want to be the nurse that has to pull back the skin and clean a 80 yr old man.

[Kittylou]

My DH feels that way too. My Dad has also told me that he wishes he had been circumcised for those reasons.

[Ashleigh<3]

It's interesting to see how many 'males' feel that way regarding circumcision, yet I doubt ANY of them have actually researched anything about circumcision.

[Mummaholic]

My DH and I did not wish to circumcise our son (SOON TO BE SONS!!).

My research and discussions with various drs including paed let us to make our decision. We were told that the cleanliness issue was not so important as long as he maintains good personal hygenie.

Also, DH is not circ, and some studies show it can decrease sensitivity so I felt that it was not my choice to make for his future.

It was an informed decision, I did come across studies that had different conclusions, and I don't have a prob with those who chose the other option - I'm sure they informed themselves too.

But this was our decision and why.

[Fuchsia!]

I never had to worry about the talk. There was no way he was getting it done if DP liked it or not. He didn't have a choice. My boys do though, when they are older they can choose for themselves what they would like to do.

Their body their choice. It does amaze me how men are so uneducated about their own doodles!!! hehe!

[CharlisMummy]

I'm sure we'll be in for a big discussion if we ever have a boy!

My DH is the same, he's very pro for the same reasons as yours sk8. He's had 3 close friends all with sons, who didn't circ and then they all ended up with endless infections and illnesses and had to be done as 3 or 4 year olds.

TBH I haven't given it a lot of thought because we have a DD but I'm sure I will do LOTS of thinking and reading if we do have a boy!!!

[Tam-I-Am]

This was my reaction when my DH said to me the other day "If Bub is a boy - you don't want to get him circumcised, do you??"

I don't - I don't think that its necessary.

(BTW - this post isn't meant to be a judgement of parents who do circumcise their sons...just my take on a situation which can be difficult to deal with :))

[forbetoel]

My DH had the same opinion. No routine circ for our boys. So luckily having the same veiw, we didn't even need a discussion.

[Milliner]

DP doesn't feel the same way no. He never wanted to circumcise our son or future sons. He doesn't believe in RIC but is circ'd himself.

[eastofeden]

DH was pro circ until we actually had our precious ds. He pretty much changed his mind straight away, luckily- cause I had my boxing gloves on ready for the fight:laughing:

[forbetoel]

DH was pro circ until we actually had our precious ds. He pretty much changed his mind straight away, luckily- cause I had my boxing gloves on ready for the fight:laughing:

:laughing::laughing::p:yelclap::yelclap:

[neostudded]

My son's dad didnt want his son done, he was very "no way!" about it...Never really gave me a reason so ill ask him next time I talk to him why he said that.He is done & he wished he was intact.

[Benji]

I don't think I've come across a man yet who doesn't think circumcision is "better". I talked my exDP out of circumcising our son and thank goodness he agreed in the end but he still asks me all sorts of questions i.e. but they look funny - will he get teased, will he hate it, etc etc.

[emmwill]

My DH was all for circ our son. He is still upset that he is not done. I told him if he was/is that concerned he could organise it and take him himself. So he is four and still not done and everytime he brings it up i remind him it was his job if thats what he wanted.
Nice way to get my own way as I knew he would never be that organised.:laughing:

[0BleSseD0]

In all honesty, I wanted to have DS circ'd.

There are a multitude of reasons why..

His father said he didnt it done and so we didnt.

I wish I'd put my foot down on it.
Hes now 2 and can pull his foreskin back a little. It is red and swollen and smelly. I always clean him as well as possible and am TTing him.
May end up having to get it done anyway.

But each to their own.

I can also see why one wouldnt want to.

[misskittyfantastico]

Luckily my DH is as anti RIC as I am - we didn't need to discuss a thing when our son was born.

[shed]

my dp said pretty much the same thing and he wanted our ds to be the same as him as well. my docter said to me that he is pro cercimsision coz he wouldnt want to be the nurse that has to pull back the skin and clean a 80 yr old mans,

In the case of this scenario we have decided that we care more about our son and his health and welfare in the 80 years leading up to that time than we do about the feelings of a nurse who chose to go into aged care nursing with full knowledge of having to do this occasionally.

He/she (the nurse) would be pretty used to it by then anyway, circumcision rates have been falling for years, so by the time my little bloke is 80 the aged care nurses will have been doing this for years. If they had that much of a problem with it they wouldn't go into aged care nursing in the first place.

That is presuming my boy has some kind of dementia or disability at age 80 that prevents him from carrying out his own penile care.


My DH is the same, he's very pro for the same reasons as yours sk8. He's had 3 close friends all with sons, who didn't circ and then they all ended up with endless infections and illnesses and had to be done as 3 or 4 year olds.

That sounds very unlucky and I can see how it would colour someone's view. I consider it to be a good case for medically necessary circumcision but not necessarily for routine infant circumcision (RIC).

[OneBabyBoy]

Circumcision is very unusual in my circle of family/friends. Only when I had a son did I ever speak to the men in my family about it and they are all un-circumsized and very happy to be that way. My ex-df and his family are all un-circumsized and very happy about it. I personally have only ever been with one circumsized man. It just isn't an issue for anyone I know - It's a part of the body they are born with. It's just normal for it to be there :confused:

[lukaelmo]

DXP and I didn't even discuss it. Didn't even think about it, went to the hospital, had our baby(ies) and came home...

lol, the end :laughing:!

[neostudded]

I just rang him and asked and he said there was lots of reasons that he didnt want his son done, the main reason was that the foreskin is sensitive & he want's his son to be infact so he has all his sensitivity.

Iam suprized that he came out with that, but I remember him being concerned over being cired ages back before I was pregnant.

[*Cj*]

Thats why my DH want's it done too. He saw the pain that his son has had over the years.

[punkbaby]

We never really talked about circ till my freind had her baby an ds was 4 years old, dh looked at me and said Oh we never had this discussion...the was no need thankfully :)

Interesting that your ob bought it up i guess they are just doing their job though so your well informed :)

[Leisa21]

Well when I was pregnant we didnt know what we were having but we had the discussion anyway. As soon as I mention it to DH he said, NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. I am that naive that I didnt know what DH was. He wasnt cirumcised and said that he thought it inhumane and didn't want it done. I wasn't overly keen on the idea anyway so I rolled with it. Just to be sure I conversed with my mother. She said she never had my bro done and my father wasn't either. She said if I could sit there and watch them do it to my DS (if I had a boy, which I did) then great go for it, if not there I should find my answer. I thought about it some more and thought why fix a problem that isnt there. If we have problems then we will fix them. Also its about cleanliness, DH said his father spoke to him about how to clean his penis when he was a boy and will do the same for DS. Also considering they dont do it when your child is born that should say something. I think its a bit cruel really, I dont care if they dont remember at that time they do. Besides I am a mess when DS gets his injections and thats enough for me.

[Fuchsia!]

I don't think I've come across a man yet who doesn't think circumcision is "better". I talked my exDP out of circumcising our son and thank goodness he agreed in the end but he still asks me all sorts of questions i.e. but they look funny - will he get teased, will he hate it, etc etc.

You know i think it will be the other way round when our boys will be older. RIC is now a minority and i think that they might be the ones who get teased

[Benji]

You know i think it will be the other way round when our boys will be older. RIC is now a minority and i think that they might be the ones who get teased


I hope you're right...

Hang on... I mean I hope no one gets teased!

[forbetoel]

Hang on... I mean I hope no one gets teased!



:laughing::laughing:......:doh:

[Sanzinoz]

Whilst my DH is not for it (he is intact), he doesnt know what the big deal is either way. I was surprised, I would have thought he would have had a stronger opinion than me.

Strange how women seem to be more opinionated about keeping their boys intact than the men do, and its their appendage! Especially given they think with it, about it, and rarely leave it alone!

Perhaps its because the majority of men from our generation are done they think their son should "look like dad". Whilst the majority of women cringe at the thought of someone taking a scalpel to their boy.

But things have certainly changed, minority and majorities have reversed. It used to be the norm when I was young, but is almost non-existant amongst my circle of friends.

[SassyMummy]

xDP isn't circ'd and didn't see a reason to have it done.

Good, because I wouldn't have done it anyway if I had a son.

I've actually never come across anyone that is worried or upset about the fact that they have foreskin. It's never even an issue - they just don't care.

I think that, in the future, untouched natural penises will be common anyway, so they won't get teased like their fathers, who come from a different generation, might worry.

[Beany]

I'm passionate and opinionated about every bit of my son :D

My husband is intact and was adamant that our son/s would remain that way too barring any pressing and necessary medical condition. It's clean, hygienic, performs a sexual function and protects delicate nerves for damage. All good :D