Survivor... Wanting to have another baby

[IttyBitty]

Hi all,

I had pre-eclampsia in my first pregnancy, Delivered my DD at 32 weeks via Caesarean Setion, I then fitted a week after delivery and almost died.... It has now been Two Years since, and i am ready to start ttc bub # 2 however my husband is so scared from the last experiance, he does not want to go through it all again. I can understand how he feels, and have suggested we go ans talk to an Ob to get some advice and talk about the risks and treatments etc, but he is not even willing to do that. I always imagined us having lots of children and it is breaking my heart, he is not ready and may never be.
Has anyone else had an experiance like this? Can you help me???

All suggestions welcome

[ellie13]

Oh hon- best of luck- maybe find an article where it says that it is less likely to happen with second pregnancy and show your DH.

Also if he doesn't want to go to talk to OB, maybe you go, and OB can make an action plan how they will monitor you, and minimise the risks of reacuurance, or how they will keep you safe if it does happen again- than show your DH, and maybe than he will go to talk to OB.

It is a scary thing for them, but maybe he just needs to see that if the right steps are taken, than the risk can be minimised.

Best of luck, hope he comes around.

[BeautifulBoys]

Hi all,

I had pre-eclampsia in my first pregnancy, Delivered my DD at 32 weeks via Caesarean Setion, I then fitted a week after delivery and almost died.... It has now been Two Years since, and i am ready to start ttc bub # 2 however my husband is so scared from the last experiance, he does not want to go through it all again. I can understand how he feels, and have suggested we go ans talk to an Ob to get some advice and talk about the risks and treatments etc, but he is not even willing to do that. I always imagined us having lots of children and it is breaking my heart, he is not ready and may never be.
Has anyone else had an experiance like this? Can you help me???

All suggestions welcome


Oh you poor things :hugs:What a frightening experience for you & your family.
I too nearly died a wk after my DS was born~its a long story.
I was induced @ 37wks because of pre-eclampsia(blood tests were all clear) however i had High BP/protein in my urine/huge amounts of swelling,I ended up with a emerg caesarean/torn uterine artery(we never knew about this)7days after c-section I had 2 MASSIVE hemorrhages,surgery to block the artery that was bleeding(the one that was torn trying to get DS out as he was very stuck)
They replaced my blood volume twice i think.
I woke up in ICU 2days later,i nearly didn't make IT!:(
I am now 32weeks preg & am having a VBAC in June:smiliedance:After what happened i NEVER wanted anymore,but time has healed me & im more positive than ever~ DS will be two & half when bubs is born~i requested all my medical records aswell i found out exactly what happened what went wrong etc,I spoke to many different OB's/gyn none of then gave me a straight answer,so hence why i requested my records.
However over the past 2yrs i have researched & researched & what happened to me was rare & very unlikley to happen again.
You may may not develop pre-eclampsia next time round & if you do you will be monitored constantly as they will not take any chances.
Every pregnancy is different no 2 births are the same.
Sounds like your DH & yourself need to sit down with someone & talk through all your fears, you both can do some councelling together(if you haven't)DH & I did after it happened & that helped us alot, we also spoke to family/friends as they all felt a huge impact of what happened not just us.
My Dad said to me last night that i must be scared..but to tell you the truth no im not..im mentally prepared physically i feel great & i know i can birth this baby naturally & even if another caeasrean is required im ok with that as long as i know what the hell is going on!
You can PM if you like,Im a trainee doula now so i have done a full circle.
You will have more babies your DH just needs to heal & try & move forward.:hugs: