A Nice comment today and look :)

[punkbaby]

Generally i get the "ohh i am sorry for you look" or the "you have your hands full reaction" when i am out with the kids. Today was a nice day :yelclap:

I had to go down the shops at lunch to get a few things for lunch (the inlaws were visiting), i had 4 different shops to go too and generally its a mission but we manage, have no choice really :laughing: not that i would change it :)

Generally the kids are really good and today was the same, we have our moments though but you get that, when we got to our final stop a lady stopped and touched my shoulder and said I take my hat off to you, i was watching you walk from the corner, your children havent left your side and she said your little fella holds the door open for you! She said its lovely to see such well behaved children.

It was such a lovely comment, usually i get the Ohh gosh you have your hands full how do you cope and this is when they are being good! you get sick of those comments after a while. Even though i am sure people mean well :)

SO thanks lady for making my day :smiliedance:

[susmamma]

:) funny how other peoples feedback can make or break ones day.

so glad to hear this one put a smile on your face.
frankly i think any mother that can manage even one child is doing a top job... that must make you a super hero :yelclap:

[melbryan]

PB those comments are so few and far between but it really is nice to hear them every now and then.

I took my 3 boys to the easter show ( all under 3 1/2 yrs old) the look s I got and the comments were horrendous but I thought they were really good considering. We went on rides and got showbags and played in the play area it was fun and people really do think I am crazy, but if I never took them out we would never leave the house. I pushed Phil and Ted's with all three on it and man we got some stares but I love them all and couldn't see my life without them.
You sound like a great mum and we are given what we can handle. Congrats!!! Keep doing what you're doing you're doing a great job:thumbsup:
Mel x

[lukaelmo]

Awww, I'll bet you feel all warm and fuzzy hey... some people are just put on this earth with good intentions towards their fellow man... hehe, or woman :D. You must be feeling very proud of your little people, and of your parenting...

And if it helps at all, I get the, "you must have your hands full" comment all the time... I only have two little kids :laughing:!

I never ever take it in any other way than someone reaching out to talk to me... I know they don't mean anything more than just being friendly... lol I am sure of that, because my kids are well behaved out - they are horrors at home!!!

[TeamAwesome]

Smiliedance Isn't it lovely when you get those nice ones! Smile I was out with my three who I intend to expand to in the next year or so and all I got was "gee love you've got your hands full there." the kids were polite to everyone I spoke to and reasonably well behaved.

[punkbaby]

It was just a nice change from the usual i still feel really nervous going out with them encase they play up but touch wood we have only had a few bad days :)

As you said melbryan we wouldnt go anywhere we would be stuck at home all day otherwise LOL and i actually prefer going with all of them as ds and older dd are generally good and can keep dd3 in line if indies having a moment :)

[mumofcuties]

it is nice to get those comments isnt it, i only have two at the moment but they are only 10.5 months apart ds is 23 months and dd is one today. i always get the coments gee you must be busy with those two or the oh gosh im guessing that the second one was an accident no one wants there kids that close, my ds was an accident ( a welcomed one) but dd we wanted t ohave another, im happy with my kids and i wouldnt swap them for the world but sometimes i wish that thers would see it my way

[Kattus]

:yes: thats very nice of her! Its good to know other people still give nice comments! And not make remarks to people that might hurt their feelings!

:yelclap:

[jag5000]

good to hear PB.. and good on you lady! :)

slightly off topic, but do you find that you get the same comments over and over? it seems like you get the "you must have your hands full" a lot

I tend to get one of 2 for the last few months when out with my DD (and my preggy belly) "wow, that's a big age gap" or "she'll be such a great help to you" .. it's always the same!!! ... neither are bad things/comments, but it amazes me that people all say the same thing!

[punkbaby]

good to hear PB.. and good on you lady! :)

slightly off topic, but do you find that you get the same comments over and over? it seems like you get the "you must have your hands full" a lot

I tend to get one of 2 for the last few months when out with my DD (and my preggy belly) "wow, that's a big age gap" or "she'll be such a great help to you" .. it's always the same!!! ... neither are bad things/comments, but it amazes me that people all say the same thing!


:yes: ALL THE TIME!! When i was pregnant i got the
Your going to have your hands even fuller when that bubs comes
How are you going to manage
Gee whens bubs due you will have your hands full
You older one will be a huge help

Now that i have had her every time i go down the street i can almost guarantee someone will say
You have your hands full
Gee you have a handfull there i would leave them home if i was you or my worst hate is
Dont you love it when the other two are at school/kinder

You do get sick of it, well i do :) even though people probably mean well there are that slight few that are saying it rudely at me

[tobmac]

i have 3 and when dd1 is at school and i go shopping with ds and dd2 because they are close in age i get the havent you got your hands full. Now i turn around and say i have another one at school also and they are great kids but when we have a bad day and they are screaming through the shops and i get told that i turn and say well we all have our bad days even if you have 1 or10 kids no ones perfect and they have no comeback for that one. My bestfriend had her ds4 yesterday and she has 4 under 9 and as her younger ds2 and ds3 are 3.2 and 2.10 she gets whoa dont you beleive in tv? but the worst was when she got do they all have the same dad?? she saw red and said yes they do and yes i am married but i dont wear my ring, i couldnt beleive when she told me and i said wow they must think the same of me i never wear my ring as it annoys me to the moon and back so dh doesnt mind as he doesnt wear his for work for safety reasons.

[Mum2Bug]

Isnt it lovely to have someone tell you something lovely like that. Just shows what a wonderful mum you are to have such lovely well behaved children.

Would you like to come help with mine??? She is a horror to leave the house with.:o

[0BleSseD0]

Yay well done Mum and well done kids! :D :yelclap: :yes:

I actually got a comment like that the other day, I was dropping SS off at school.. Someone held the gate open for us and my DS (2) said very loudly 'Thank you'

Her eyes flew open. :eek: Such nice manners! she said.

:o :goodvibes:

He says it all the time to me, but that was the first time he has ever said it to a stranger before.

I was SO proud.

I know how you feel!

I get the 'Oh, youre game' comment all the time. Ive only got two toddlers. Not a big family.

[LuvMy4Babes]

How nice! People are always quick to comment when they have something bad to say so it's great she made a point of saying something nice.

Good job Mama :)

[YMo7]

omg - we have a blended family of 6 and i get those comments constantly!

my last 2 are dd2.7 and ds1.8 so they are pretty close in age and everyone always asks me was he an accident... well actually, no... we wanted another baby and so because dd took over 2 years to conceive we tried straight away for ds. it just so happened that he came straight away - which was great coz dh says we had to have one before he turned 34 and he was 34 not long after ds's 1st bday.

now i get - wow, twins... you have your work cut out for you... so i say "no actually they are 10.5 months apart, they were both planned pregnancies, oh and, just for the record, i have another 4 at home (or at grandma's etc)" most just stare dumbfounded... some are really nice and ask their ages and others say "wow - you cant have that many, you are too young" ... to which i reply "i am 26. my dh is 34. we do have 6 kids... between us. they all live with us, they are all good kids and we are happy"

then they are stumped... lol...

[Roopee]

Thats awesome PB! Its so nice to be complimented instead of ridiculed and frowned upon.

I have had 7 children for the last 24 hrs and yeah it's been hectic, but a fun hectic.

We went to the Video store yesterday- just me and the 7 kids- the ages are 7, 7, 5, 4, 3, 3, 1.4mths. Can you imagine the looks and comments i got?
One woman even had the nerve to say to me 'oh i hope they are not all yours"- i just said to her 'oh? Why would you hope that?" Shut her up really fast that did.

Another said- 'gee you have your hands full there' (like ive never heard THAT before) and 'how do you do it'.
I couldnt be bothered explaining that they weren't all mine and I think it sounds harrible when I hear 'ah they aren't all mine- im not that silly'- those comments cant be good for the kids self esteem. Make sense?

I've rambled now- sorry:cool:

[sja]

my last 2 are dd2.7 and ds1.8 so they are pretty close in age and everyone always asks me was he an accident... well actually, no... we wanted another baby and so because dd took over 2 years to conceive we tried straight away for ds. it just so happened that he came straight away - which was great coz dh says we had to have one before he turned 34 and he was 34 not long after ds's 1st bday.

Don't you hate how people assume that if you have kids close together in age then it must have been by accident! My first two are 13.5 months apart and even people who know me assume that I thought breastfeeding was good enough contraception. The other day I was at MIL's with SILs talking about how I would have preferred a 15 month gap, but thought it might take a few months to conceive, so we started trying when bubs was 4 months. And my SIL was shocked because she always just assumed we had our number 2 by accident.



now i get - wow, twins... you have your work cut out for you... so i say "no actually they are 10.5 months apart, they were both planned pregnancies, oh and, just for the record, i have another 4 at home (or at grandma's etc)" most just stare dumbfounded... some are really nice and ask their ages and others say "wow - you cant have that many, you are too young" ... to which i reply "i am 26. my dh is 34. we do have 6 kids... between us. they all live with us, they are all good kids and we are happy"

then they are stumped... lol...

You must get sick of saying all that! Hubby thinks we should get our story printed out on cards to hand out. It would state the ages of our kids, that the first was an accident, but the others were all planned. That we don't really get a lot of help from family - after all, we chose to have the kids and that the kids all get along pretty well. And that we do know what causes it and we do have a TV.

Then when people stop me when I'm doing my grocery shopping, I can just hand them a card and avoid having to stop and answer all those questions. After all, if I'm walking through the aisles with 4 kids, what on earth makes these people think I have the time to stop and chat??? :rolleyes: Don't they realise that my kids might be well behaved now, but they're a ticking timebomb!

[YMo7]

And that we do know what causes it and we do have a TV.

yeah i say - actually we have 6! lol.


You must get sick of saying all that!
haha... nope... i like watching them shrivel up and crawl back into their shells. :laughing:


Hubby thinks we should get our story printed out on cards to hand out. It would state the ages of our kids, that the first was an accident, but the others were all planned. That we don't really get a lot of help from family - after all, we chose to have the kids and that the kids all get along pretty well. And that we do know what causes it and we do have a TV.

what a fantastic idea! lol.:yelclap:

[NewBeginnings]

Isnt it lovely to have someone tell you something lovely like that. Just shows what a wonderful mum you are to have such lovely well behaved children.

Would you like to come help with mine??? She is a horror to leave the house with.:o

I agree! :yes:Wondermum! :D and yay on the comment!! It's always lovely to be praised on your parenting once in a while!!!

And I'm with De on the horror child... my 18 month old has be confined to the house too afraid to leave.... and it's only going to get worse! :o

[Qube]

Awww - that's refreshing!! :yelclap:

[SuperMum10/12]

Generally i get the "ohh i am sorry for you look" or the "you have your hands full reaction" when i am out with the kids. Today was a nice day :yelclap:

I had to go down the shops at lunch to get a few things for lunch (the inlaws were visiting), i had 4 different shops to go too and generally its a mission but we manage, have no choice really :laughing: not that i would change it :)

Generally the kids are really good and today was the same, we have our moments though but you get that, when we got to our final stop a lady stopped and touched my shoulder and said I take my hat off to you, i was watching you walk from the corner, your children havent left your side and she said your little fella holds the door open for you! She said its lovely to see such well behaved children.

It was such a lovely comment, usually i get the Ohh gosh you have your hands full how do you cope and this is when they are being good! you get sick of those comments after a while. Even though i am sure people mean well :)

SO thanks lady for making my day :smiliedance:
Hi punkbaby l think that it is great that someone said a nice comment to you .. I have 10 children .. Aged 20,18,15,12,9,6,5,4,2 and baby turning 1 next month and l am the mother that everyone nows or has heard of or just talks about .. Because my family is the largest in the airer that l live. I have been a mum for the past 20 years and l am glad to say l am proud of my family .. but over the years it has got to the stage were l do not go out unless its a must .. My younger children are well behaved down the street and they walk holding hands or the pram l am proud to take my children anywhere .. But the people out there can be very mean with thing that they say and over the years the more children l had the weir's the comments got l have even been spat on by one mother l do not go to my children's school .. l feel sorry for my friends because they seem to be asked all the nitty gritty stuff about me and they defend me all the time the thing is l am a very clean and organized person and l don't see what there problem is .. I was once told the reason that people treat me like that is because l make them look at them self as l can cope with 10 children and they question them self on why they may not be able to do the same with 2 or so children Why do you think that people be like that....

[chuckles]

OMG did someone really spit on you??? I would so lose it - no one has a right to spit on anyone...............:mad: