Oh dear..........:-)

[Tannie]

Took my bubby for vaccinations........one other woman there with a bub same age as mine for injections too & I'm thinking "well - I don't look too bad really - compared to her - she looks older then me so maybe I'm not such an ancient mum afterall...??" Then....................someone wanders in who knows her and says "what are you doing here with your granddaughter"?? :eek: :o
Seems the mum was too chicken to face the bub having needles so sent grandma to do it...............ahhh................she really WASN'T that much older then me :p

gotta have a sense of humor eh?
T

[draught]

You are right - we do have to laugh. But rest assured that you aren't that old - we are about the same age and I have many friends the same age with babies of similar ages. One woman I met in my mother's group in Canberra had her first baby at 43 - she thought she was going through early menopause :eek: . So there are lots of other mum's the same age as you out there - and I am sure that you look good next to them as well!!!!!!

[Tannie]

yeah - I look pretty darn good I must say :D But gotta admit it has made me realise my age to go to "mothers group" and realise you could be the mother of the mothers!! :eek:
T

[draught]

I was very lucky with my mother's group - we were all over 30, so I didn't have to deal with that. It is interesting - this forum is the one of the only places where I feel like an "older" mother - everywhere else I feel quite normal! Most of my friends are my age and are having their first or second babies - the only other time I feel like I am "older" is when I see a school reunion newsletter and realise that girls I went to school with have children at Uni while I have children who haven't even started kindy! That is when it gets weird!

But when I am feeling "older" I remember all the good things that this brings - having already established a career so that having a few years out hasn't affected my ability to re-enter at the same level when I am ready
- having some financial security so I can afford to have more time at home with the girls
- having lived a lot and had lots of adventures so that I don't resent at all the fact that we now lead a quiet life at home
- having a wealth of experience to share with my girls
- having had more time to grow up (hopefully) so that I can deal with the trials and tribulations of children with more maturity than I would have 10 years ago (again - hopefully!!??)
- and having absolutely no doubt that I love my life as it is right now and having no regrets about the path that got me to this point. :D

[willsmum]

My mum's group range between 31 and 38 (me). Noone has older kids and everyone is on their second babies. You are right draught, I feel normal everywhere except this forum!!!

[mumof2girls]

I think in general you get the people who have their kids at a young age and the end where they have them in their 30's. I don't think anyone should feel like an older mother or out of place.

I had my kids at a young age (21 & 23) and I love the fact that I have all the energy to still run around with them and still be able to have a life after they have left home ( which will hopefully be years away).

I think that there are good and bad points for having children at any age but as long as they are well loved and cared for by their parent/s then that's all that matters.

I also think that with the pregnancies & labours I had I'm glad I had my girls at a younger age as it has allowed my body to heal better than it would have if I was older.

As long as we enjoy our little angels and allow them to grow into decent, loving adults (hopefully) that's what's important

[slomax]

I agree I dont feel old at 36 - certainly dont feel it at my yoga class - hope there will be some 30 plus people I can do lunch/walks with in the Eastern suburbs
Sarah
Baby due October 1st

[razzle]

I don't go to mother's group because I feel ancient at 36 -- most of the mothers here are teenagers or in their early 20's!!

I agree with Draught totally, I'm glad I had a bit of a "me" life before children, it means I can go back to work later, having had a career before, rather than some teenage mums who barely have a high school education. I have a higher maturity level than say 15 years ago. I too can share loads of experience with my daughter and I'm still not *too* old to run around after her, and later on, "with" her. :rolleyes:

[draught]

Hey boomtish, slomax and willsmum- I am glad to see that there are more of us 30+ er's out there! (I am 36 too). Probably why I am always nodding in agreement at most of the things you post!

However - just when I thought I had it all in perspective I had an email about my school reunion - 20 years this year :o - and found out that while many of us have babies and toddlers, some of my class are grandmothers :eek: :eek: :eek: I have to say though - rather than making me feel older, it makes me even more certain that I am glad I had my family at the age I did (apart from anything this way I hope to make it to at least 55 before I am a nana!)

[Graeme]

Cathy and I were both 39 when we had Jasmine (our first) and that was after nearly 15 years of marriage. It suits us but everynow and again we do realise we were pretty old. One of my colleagues at work is under than me and is a grandma!

I don't think we have been taken for grandparents yet, but I'm sure it will happen.
I think I have commented before that we will turn 60 in the same year that Jasmine turns 21 and Alexa turns 18 (and it will be our 35 anniversary). We've started saving already :p

Graeme