stg
30-03-2008, 20:48
My unborn child's father. That is the problem.
I'm having a battle with myself as to what is best for the child.
I have a DVO against him for emotion/psychological abuse mainly, though there was some sexual/physical involved - but not in the traditional way.. more in a manipulative way.
He really really does need to seek help. He is a pathological compulsive liar. I was in fact the "other woman" and his double life...
And the reason I got mixed up with such a seemingly perfect guy, he was a master manipulator.
I am happy I am out of the relationship with him, and will never ever go back.. but I am carrying his child.
At first, he did all he could to get me to do abort the baby. Even so far as to threaten me, and I led him to believe that I did.
He has contacted me once since (been about 6 months) claiming how sorry he was how much he wanted to be a father and how scared he was. There is currently no contact.
But anyways, long story short, I will never, ever ever be with him again. But I dont know whether to let him know he has a daughter on the way.
I am just so terrified that he will manipulate and abuse her emotionally, the way he did me. But I feel guilty denied her the right to her father.
I'm scared of what rights he would have. Id be afraid if he were to get rights to her.. and be able to see her alone.. I wouldnt want him alone with her until he gets help and proves himself....
but not sure what the courts would allow... since he has a bad criminal record with fraud, DVO's and other abuse - or if that matters..
If I could monitor his.. visits I would be ok with it but I dont know what the courts would allow.
I just want whats best for her. Im not playing spiteful hate games with him I can put that aside for my daughters well being. I had no father growing up, I know its hard..
I just dont know what to do. To tell him about her, or not to. Im 31 weeks pregnant.
I'm having a battle with myself as to what is best for the child.
I have a DVO against him for emotion/psychological abuse mainly, though there was some sexual/physical involved - but not in the traditional way.. more in a manipulative way.
He really really does need to seek help. He is a pathological compulsive liar. I was in fact the "other woman" and his double life...
And the reason I got mixed up with such a seemingly perfect guy, he was a master manipulator.
I am happy I am out of the relationship with him, and will never ever go back.. but I am carrying his child.
At first, he did all he could to get me to do abort the baby. Even so far as to threaten me, and I led him to believe that I did.
He has contacted me once since (been about 6 months) claiming how sorry he was how much he wanted to be a father and how scared he was. There is currently no contact.
But anyways, long story short, I will never, ever ever be with him again. But I dont know whether to let him know he has a daughter on the way.
I am just so terrified that he will manipulate and abuse her emotionally, the way he did me. But I feel guilty denied her the right to her father.
I'm scared of what rights he would have. Id be afraid if he were to get rights to her.. and be able to see her alone.. I wouldnt want him alone with her until he gets help and proves himself....
but not sure what the courts would allow... since he has a bad criminal record with fraud, DVO's and other abuse - or if that matters..
If I could monitor his.. visits I would be ok with it but I dont know what the courts would allow.
I just want whats best for her. Im not playing spiteful hate games with him I can put that aside for my daughters well being. I had no father growing up, I know its hard..
I just dont know what to do. To tell him about her, or not to. Im 31 weeks pregnant.