How and what to tell your's/dxp's friends

[RmumR]

Hi DXP and i are recently separated and i told most of my friends an 'edited' version of why we separated.. i just told them that dxp had done some things he shouldn't have and that although i wanted to work things out he decided he didn't want to anymore so we were separating.
Obviously most of them read through the lines and have probably come to their own conclusions which is fine.

I've gotten some messages from some of dxp's mates wives who i was friends with asking whats happened and why have DD and i moved away so suddenly. All DXP has told them is that DD and i have moved to my parents.

Do you think its ok for me to tell DXP's friends that contact me the same as i have told my friends? I do want to keep them as friends as much as i can but don't want DXP to be p***d off at me. I am not going to start telling everyone just the ones that care enough about DD and i too be calling or messaging and asking how we are, can they do anyting, do we need anything etc..they are nice girls and i feel bad that i haven't told them anything yet.

[Izy]

I found that when they knew the truth they didn't really want to accept that it was a possibilty anyway.

I think the edited version will be fine. They can draw thier own conclusions and you aren't dissing him in anyway.

:hugs: though. As empowered as you can feel getting away and starting afresh- it's still bl00dy hard!

[Noah_and_Elijah]

A few of my ex's friends know the truth behind why we split but I've never discussed it in detail with them, it's just not my place.

As far as the others, if anyone was to ask I would just say that unfortunately we couldn't see eye to eye and things just didn't work out for us so we went our seperate ways.

Regardless of what a pr!ck my ex has been in the past, he is still the Father of my children and I have (just) enough respect for him to not cut him down in front of his friends.

If he chooses to lie about the reasons involved in our split then that's his problem and I don't really care because at the end of the day, he knows the truth.

That's just my story. :)

[toni796]

I would be telling them the truth. It is up to them whether they want to be there for you and your DD. It has nothing to do with your Ex if they want to help you out.

[RmumR]

Well i think i will tell the friends that contact me the truth but not going into details, they deserve nothing less and if they care enough to call me then i think i will tell them.

I'm not going to run DXP into the ground saying bad things about him at all as thats not my intention and he is DD's dad so would/could never do that and as noahsmama said i do have a little bit of respect for him to not diss him to his/our friends.

Thanks for your replies

[the_original_duchess]

alot of our mutual friends were very supportive of me at first but now they are no longer friends with me. it got too difficult and they went over to his side basically coz i thought it was for the best.
i ahve my friends and he has his. we still occasionally chat on msn but as far as it goes his friends are his and mine are mine.
its sad but thems the breaks so to speak.
your true friends will do the best thing for you. so do what you feel is best:hugs: