Wishing Well - sign or anon?

[Jenko]

We are off to a wedding in a couple of weeks and the couple have requested money, wishing well style.

In the past I have always put money in a card, wished them well and signed it.

Recently someone told me that they just put money in an envelope anonymously.

What do you do and is there are correct way of doing it?

[*Chels*]

Hey Mel.
At our wedding people gave us cards with the money inside.
I think its nice to give a signed card.:goodvibes:

[sam's mum]

I have always done the same as you.

I figure that it is my gift, and I put a card with any gift that I give.

[Bubble*Crazy]

We do the same ... money inside the signed card.

At our wedding last year there was only 1 person that just put the money in an envelope anonymously.

But, I'd do what you feel comfortable with.

[SassyDiva]

Yup, $$$ inside the card and sign it :yes:

[M O P]

hmm, maybe if I was being tight- anon
and generous- sign a card :D

in the past we've always given a card with cash/cheque inside

[missie_mack]

hmm, maybe if I was being tight- anon
and generous- sign a card :D

in the past we've always given a card with cash/cheque inside

:laughing: yep thats how I would do it too!! I would hate for someone not to give a gift and because I didnt put a name on my card the couple thought it might have been me!!

Ironically Ive been to quite a few weddings where the couple werent given a gift or even a card :confused: This happened to my Mum when we remarried 3 years ago and ironically the couple who didnt do anything ate the most ordered a stack of spirits and has the most money :confused:

[Izy]

It comes down to what you are comfortable with. It's much nicer to receive a signed card, but if you don't feel comfortable with giving a set amount of cash then annonymous is fine too!

We got mostly cards with some cash :D

Oh- and it's so true that the stingy people are usually the ones that use the most!

[MyFourCubs]

At my brothers wedding on the weekend, all monies were inside a card but for one which was anonymous. I think people generally want you to know how much they are giving unless it's $10!:D I did go to a wedding once where they had a big card next to the well for everyone to sign and the monies were ment to be put in anonymously... however, think most were still in a card. It does give people a choice this way I guess.

[M O P]

Ironically Ive been to quite a few weddings where the couple werent given a gift or even a card :confused: This happened to my Mum when we remarried 3 years ago and ironically the couple who didnt do anything ate the most ordered a stack of spirits and has the most money :confused:
we said in our invites that presents weren't necessary given that we understood a lot of people had to travel, then stay somewhere and by the time they caught a few cabs etc it gets really expensive and it was the people who lived in Adel- IE who didn't have to travel or pay to stay somewhere- who were the tightest- not that really cared- I just found it interesting

[Jenko]

Thanks for the replies.

I think it's nice to give a card too and I would hate for the couple to think that we hadn't given anything at all if it was anonymous.

It was just when this person said that you were suppose to be anon I thought maybe I was the odd one out...from your replies obviously I'm not. :)

[Mummy2Noah]

I always give money in a signed card I only got one anon in my wishing well out of 150 guests!!

[Ange&Seth]

Question to those of you who recieved the anon cash in an envelope - was it a small amount?

If I couldn't give much then I would do it anon, but if I could spare the $$$ then I'd put it in a signed card.

[Rating]

Even if I was putting $20 Id put it in a card people know im not too well off and Im sure with appreciate the thought.

But I would always give a card... I thinks its polite and since they wont be keeping the money its a momento. My mum still hs all the cards from her wedding.

[~mia&ryan~]

I always give a signed card with the money inside. I think it is so much nicer to receive a nice personal message along with the money.:goodvibes:

[M O P]

we received a card only from one guy-
but it was a single guy so the fact that he'd managed to get a really nice wedding card was lovely in itself

and one of my other g/fs gave us $5- I personally think she prob needn't have bothered but it's the thought that counts

[subaruforestermum]

DF's cousins wedding last year they sent us a small envelope along with the invite, for the wishing well. As it was a smallish one, so big cards etc wouldnt fit in the actual well.

So we gave them a signed card, which we left beside the wishing well, (not many other cards there) and put only a small amount in the envelope. Was $20 but I didnt feel bad as the bride was rude to our side of the family the whole day. And everytime the cousin tried to talk to us, she would pull him away and get b!tchy at him, so I was happy I didnt put too much money in it.

[Jenko]

and one of my other g/fs gave us $5- I personally think she prob needn't have bothered but it's the thought that counts

$5 that's a bit bizarre. I know people may not be able to afford but really...$5. Maybe she thought it was a $50 :laughing:

[Queen]

I would sign the card :)