mysonroger
31-03-2006, 23:18
i posted this accidentally under General chat, but then saw this forum. thought is be better suited here.....
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baby number 3
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i'm thinking about having baby No. 3.. i have a healthy two year old and healthy 9 month old. i'm 37 and have suddenly started wondering about the possibility of a baby born with severe disability. i am not concerned about my age at all, just the random possibility of it all. i know a pregnancy can be fine but then there can be complications resulting from the birth. And how some doctors now are suggesting that saving or reviving, for example, very premature babies resulting in cerebral palsy , for example, is turning out to be a social, medical and economic disaster. it really has got me thinking. don't you just wish you knew what the final outcome was....(stating the obvious). how do i reassure myself that it is unlikely to happen.
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#2 Today, 10:41 PM
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I am with you mysonroger. I mean even though I am only 31. I had the worst time TTC then when we did actually conceive I had the worst time. So many problems it felt like I was rapped in cotton wool. DH had been talking about TTC again but with everything that has gone on and the possiblity of something going wrong because of this I am just not sure anymore. Family have said to us "What if something goes wrong next time around". I guess I just have to take that chance, but I know exactly what you are saying.
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#3 Today, 10:53 PM
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its a hard subject to get people to be honest about. i have sort of noticed that this is a pretty light hearted forum, or first impressions. in this article mentioned above, they interviewed mothers who had had their babies revived, then ended up with severe disabilities, then when asked if they regretted their babies being revived, they admitted, 'it's unfortunate , but yes'. imagine what their lives must be like if they have to admit to that. its very upsetting.
in my old mother's group the subject of aborting due to the results of the twenty week fetal test (for downes....can't remember what the test is called) came up and it was a very quiet room..... no one really wanted to talk about it. obviously a very personal area.
anyway, its a matter of dwelling on it or simply getting on with it. but you'd be crazy not to at least have had it cross your mind , and have some sort of preparedness
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baby number 3
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i'm thinking about having baby No. 3.. i have a healthy two year old and healthy 9 month old. i'm 37 and have suddenly started wondering about the possibility of a baby born with severe disability. i am not concerned about my age at all, just the random possibility of it all. i know a pregnancy can be fine but then there can be complications resulting from the birth. And how some doctors now are suggesting that saving or reviving, for example, very premature babies resulting in cerebral palsy , for example, is turning out to be a social, medical and economic disaster. it really has got me thinking. don't you just wish you knew what the final outcome was....(stating the obvious). how do i reassure myself that it is unlikely to happen.
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#2 Today, 10:41 PM
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I am with you mysonroger. I mean even though I am only 31. I had the worst time TTC then when we did actually conceive I had the worst time. So many problems it felt like I was rapped in cotton wool. DH had been talking about TTC again but with everything that has gone on and the possiblity of something going wrong because of this I am just not sure anymore. Family have said to us "What if something goes wrong next time around". I guess I just have to take that chance, but I know exactly what you are saying.
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#3 Today, 10:53 PM
mysonroger
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its a hard subject to get people to be honest about. i have sort of noticed that this is a pretty light hearted forum, or first impressions. in this article mentioned above, they interviewed mothers who had had their babies revived, then ended up with severe disabilities, then when asked if they regretted their babies being revived, they admitted, 'it's unfortunate , but yes'. imagine what their lives must be like if they have to admit to that. its very upsetting.
in my old mother's group the subject of aborting due to the results of the twenty week fetal test (for downes....can't remember what the test is called) came up and it was a very quiet room..... no one really wanted to talk about it. obviously a very personal area.
anyway, its a matter of dwelling on it or simply getting on with it. but you'd be crazy not to at least have had it cross your mind , and have some sort of preparedness