15 month toddler taming!

[gippymum]

I need your help and not sure if you guys have had to deal with this before.

DS 15 months wont cuddle me or DH. We have always been very hands on, give him cuddles, lots of attention. He has had a routine since birth ie we have had no trouble getting him to sleep and never had to rock him.

He now understands NO, says a few words like "mum", "dad", "cat", "teddy".

But he wont let us cuddle him. He fights you so much, arches his back and screams, and will not calm down and will actually go hysterical. Why has he gone like this? He gives me a cuddle when I pick him up from daycare but he just wont let me cuddle him anymore. He is also throwing tantrums, sits on the floor and just screams and yells and jumps up and down on the spot.

Are these just normal things?

[KaM]

They are normal stages for a toddler. They are learning their independance and the tantrums also come along with that as well as frustration. The best you can do is ignore the tantrum and make sure you really make a big deal of things that he does that are good.

[Ange&Seth]

Sounds pretty normal to me :yes:

The not wanting to cuddle you thing I think is just him exerting what little independence he has. 'I don't WANT to cuddle you so I'm NOT going to'. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, just means that he's secure enough to know that you'll always be there for him no matter if he cuddles you or not :laughing:

The tantrums, well, we ignore tantrums in this house. Or make comments in a sing song voice 'oh what LOVELY behaviour! Mummy just loves it when you do that' and walk away and ignore it. The comments are more to help us keep our cool than for DS's benefit though LOL.

Rest assured it will pass though.