SO clucky!!!

[LittleBoysRock]

I have a bit of a problem!

DS is 8 months old and DH and I are really clucky and ready to start trying for #2.

Problems is there are so many cons for having another baby now and not many pros. I really need to loose some weight before I have another one, I would like us to buy our own house before concieving the next one, and Owen is only 8 months so it might be a bit close together assuming we concieve right away.

Anybody else feeling clucky but finding the time is just not right??

[Foxy]

Hi Monyfelix,

I have been clucky almost since the day I had DS!! It has been getting worse and worse. I am on my last month of the pill before I have to go back to the Dr to get a new perscription, so I am thinking - do I take the plunge now or get off my lazy b*tt and get a new perscription!

I understand what you are saying about waiting to organise a few things in your life, I agree, but then I think - well what's enough money, what's enough time etc

My only genuine concern is how it will affect DS, and I want to make sure I prepare him properly.

I do think it is nice to have them close together, especially if they turn out to be the same sex.

Yes - it is a hard one! Good luck with your decision. :)

[Jamily]

I have the same problem - or should I say had....

Like Shelbyville, my concern is for Em and how having another bub will affect her and having spoken to a few friends who had an 18 month gap, we are going to leave it 6 months before TTC#2 (Em is 9 months old). That way I figure Em and next bub will still be close in age, but 6 months is long enough for me to get some bits and bobs in my life sorted and spend some extra quality time with my daughter. In the grand scheme of things 6 months is not a long time.

Good luck with your decision - I know its a hard one!

Claire x

[JATS]

If you did concieve now bubs would be 18 months apart, that's not really that close!

We're ttc#2 and #1 is almost 9 months, been ttc since he was 6 weeks old, no luck yet :crying: We origionally said we wanted our kids about 2 yrs apart but straight after birth Hubby got all excited about the prospect of a large family :rolleyes: so yeah, we're working on it! :D

When we were ttc#1 things weren't 'perfect', we were broke, living in a unit above a shop, hubby was running his own computer shop with a bloke who was depressing to say the least, an a-hole to say the most, all we had going for us was our relationship, and the fact we both desperatly wanted a child, so we went against our better judgement and went for it.

It took 2 yrs but we managed to concieve Thomas, and from the moment I got pregnant things have just gotten better and better! Hubby found a better job with the help of a good mate which ment we could afford to look after our selves properly and I was able to have a healthy pregnancy. Unfortunatly the people Hubby was working for went under just before Thomas was born, but we still had the money to move from the unit in the illawarra to a house in the southern highlands, and it wasn't long before Hubby was offered an even better job, everything just fell into place beautifully and none of it would have happened if I hadn't fallen pregnant.

If you put in the effort and have the attitude that you WILL make it work, things have a way of working out :D

[BiNdI86]

I am really clucky at the moment!!..........What am I talking about.........I have always been clucky!!:laughing: and it's getting worse the older DD gets!!
I totally agree with Shelbyville about doing a few things before we try for #2
I'd love too start again, but there are just a few things that need to be sorted...

...But this IS about what feels right to you and your partner and like love my tommy bub said...things have a way of working out!!

Hope all goes well with your decision:hugs:

[mysonroger]

my first two are 15 months apart. the second is now 9 months old and we are trying to conceive the third right now. i don'[t think about the here and now but the future years. if i did stop and think about it i might come to the conclusion that its all wrong at the moment....we have just moved to a new city, don't know anyone, no family around and baby, if conceiv ed soon, will be born at the height of summer....when i'm due back in perth for a big family xmas. but all that will be forgotten in the future when i have three little children running around together making DH and i crack up. you could come up with loads of reasons to not do it (sometimes i worry about the possibiliity of the birth going wrong, then i become apprehensive) or else you can just get on with it.
i completely disagree and think there are far more pros than cons with having them close together. and if you worried about the impact on No. 1, well, i promise you ...No. 1 will be thanking you long before they can express themselves properly for their little playmate.

[LittleBoysRock]

No.1, well, i promise you ...No. 1 will be thanking you long before they can express themselves properly for their little playmate.

That is a really nice way to look at it. Maybe there really is no right time to concieve. I feel like I did right before DS was concieved, like it was the right time to have a baby.

One thing I would like to do before we start trying though is buy a house. We are talking to a mortgage broker next week so hopefully I wont be waiting too long!! YAY :smiliedance:

Thank you so much for all the replies and advice. Much appreciated. :hugs:

[Rhoxie]

I'm Soo clucky too !!!! :D

I've been clucky pretty much since the day my youngest child was born and it's getting worse by the day - Also made worse by all our friends are suddenly starting to settle down and have children and playgroup seems to be full of small babies and pregnant women ! :) I love it from the point of view that I can live vicariously though others BUT I really still want another one of my OWN.

My youngest well be 2 soon so we aren't in danger of having a small age gap. However we have 3 altogether and my hubby just doesn't want 4 :(

My hubbys reasons are entirely personal - he just doesn't want to go through it again. Everything else is pretty much in order with regards to finances, bigger car, other children, juggling the workload. SO I live in hope that he will change his mind before I get too old. :fingerscrossed:

[twogirlsandmum06]

I have 2 girls - oldest 4yrs 3months, youngest 1yr 9 months who get on really well but am desperate to have a third. DH has another daughter from previous relationship and is not really interested in having another child.

DH works long hours and feels that another child would be too much while I see it as another child would just be 1 more to put in bed which he is not around for much anyway with his work.

While he does have another one - we unfortunately see her only maybe one day a fortnight if we are lucky and our two girls regard her more as a friend there as a sis.

I am nearly 26 and not quite ready to throw the towel in on having another child.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to approach the topic???:

[IAdoreYou]

simone.

me little clucky too. Somedays I am more then others.

I hope your house goes ahead smoothly. good luck.

We are gonna start trying soon as Brooke turns 1 .. just hope we don't have to do fertility drugs again .. Brooke has definately kick started my body though.

XO

[ann n mick]

hi im clucky too
my son was born in feb
i missedcarried on 23 march this year
i want anonher one
but dont want to go through the pain if i loose the next one
my doc said to wait till my son is 2yrs old he is 14 months now
i hope every thing goes well for you
ann

[Hokey Pokey]

I'm so clucky too but we have a wedding to do in September so we have to wait till after that!!

[maybe1more]

Simone- arrhhh the "clucky" boat, we have all been in it! I started to get really clucky when Connor was 6 months, but my family kept telling me to wait untill he was walking and then if i still had the same opition then i was ready for another baby. After a year my df wasnt so keen to have another baby so i waited untill Connor was 21 months and begged my df to have another one, unfortanatly i miscarried. My son is now 29 months (3 months of 3) and im 3 months pregant:smiliedance: Althought im extremely happy too be having another one, i wish they were closer. But once you have thay "clucky " bug its hard to stop thinking about it. Even if you starting trying now you may not fall for a few months making the gap bigger, its a trick question and i really dont think there is a right time. My and my df are still living with his brother so our timing isnt that great but, i couldnt wait:D