Are you STILL breastfeeding?!?!?!

[Rainbowbrite]

That was the response I got when I sat down in front of a friend to breastfeed ANAKIN!!! :banghead::hair::laughing: He is not even 4 months old!!

I just wish I had a camera to take a photo of her face when I replied, "yep, in fact I still breastfeed MJ if/when she wants it too" :laughing::yelclap: I swear she almost fell off her chair & choked on her coffee :smiliedance:

Anyone else had stupid comments?

[Refresh]

Lol...Oh yes, it is very unusual to be breastfeeding a 4month old:detective:

[prideNJoy]

:banghead: Why why why! Do other people care about how long we are BFing our children for!? Why the need to know?


DS is 8 months today, and i'm so sick of DP's family members asking me if i'm still BF, like i should have stopped by now!
They give that look of, i don't know...it's just this look i get.

At least i always proudly say "Absolutely" :D

[GraceUnhearing]

what an idiot!

hes not even 4 months old and that was her comment!

its sad that people think like that!

[reAllytee]

You big HIPPIE FREAK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:p:laughing:

Oh you just have to love that people find breastfeeding 'wrong' :rolleyes:

[ziggie]

Luckily I haven't had any comments yet :devil6::devil:...

I'm expecting them to come though... My mum's side of the family are very into 'Mothers Should Only BF In Private And Only Until 12 Months' :rolleyes:

[veve]

oh gosh RB .. :laughing: I'm not a fan of extended breastfeeding (JMO) but FOUR MONTHS??? :laughing: the poor kid cant have solids yet .. what does she WANT him to have.. bottles of formula/? how bizarre ???

thats funny (and your comeback was fantastic .. I usually think of things like that LATER .. :D)

xx
Jen

[Rainbowbrite]

This was from someone who had a baby a month older than Anakin :shame: She said she only fed for a few weeks, it was too much trouble :rolleyes:

[cheezelkat]

LOL :laughing:

and a big :yelclap: to you!

[Freya]

I was asked the other day...

'How long do people breastfeed for like when do you stop breastfeeding? Is it when they get teeth?'

My reply...

'When the child SAYS they don't want it anymore.' :p

[Rainbowbrite]

Oneblessing Ive had that question many times. The stupidity of people astounds me!!

[bel_aiden]

q: "how long do you plan to feed brock for?"
a: not sure, atleast until 2, aiden is 2.2 and he still feeds 3-4 times a day:D

response::o:eek::rolleyes:


:laughing:

[Lollie86]

I read on here aagggeess ago a good comeback is "Its only until I learn how to cook!" :laughing: So I tend to use that a lot, even with the oldies. :p

I hate that people find BF unusual and different when its the most natural way to feed a baby! And a 3 mth old no less. :rolleyes:

[MyFab4]

The thing I don't get is why do most people think nothing of a 2yr old still having a bottle of milk, for comfort but think there is a cut off date for breastfeeding? My first 3 were ff and had milk in a bottle until they were ready to give it up so why should it be any different for #4. She is breastfed still at 15 mths. My older 3 all gave up the bottle around 2, give or take a few months (they were all different).
I was never asked if they still have a bottle but get asked if DD2 is still breastfed.:confused:

[bubs_and_us]

The thing I don't get is why do most people think nothing of a 2yr old still having a bottle of milk, for comfort but think there is a cut off date for breastfeeding?

i've often wondered that already.... my mum couldnt believe we had stopped the bottle at 2 for DS (he was fine with it), but i know when i BF the next bubba, she would be discusted if i were still BF at 2! i'd be expected to put baby onto bottle

[cmd'smum]

Oh yes!:yes: So when you going to stop BF A? She's 8 months now?":confused::hair:

I've learnt to let it in one ear out the other, I'm sick of trying to educate people on the benefits of BM and extended BF (Not that 8 months is considered "extended") it's a shame that BF is seen as unormal by many in our society. There needs to be more education on it!!:yes:

[forbetoel]

4 months old and still BFing...you really need to cut that umbilical cord..:p

I have never had any negative comments, although I didn't ever feed past 12 months, so maybe that is why, I dunno, but then again you have had a comment about feeding a 4 month old. :eek:

Do you think she meant it negatively, maybe she has just struggled with BFing and so 4 months to her seems like a massive effort??

[kymmy]

Wow! What else would a baby eat?

[neostudded]

:laughing: CLASSIC RB

People have been asking
"are you still breastfeeding?"
more in a "I dont think she can do it" way.
Hope that makes sense, well, thats the opinion I gather anyway.

When I say "Of course iam breastfeeding! he is only [insert age here!] he is NOT even TWO!!"

They normally look pretty taken aback, and they dont say anything again.

I had a 17 year old male ask me if ive stopped yet, and I said "Hell no!! he is only 6 months, he isnt even two!!"

He said "OMG, thats discusting, you cant breastfeed a two yeard old, they have to stop after one!!"

Ohhhhh he regretted saying that.:devil6:

He is noramally very opinionated & will not change his point of view, but I can honestly say I dont think he will not mention anything to another breast/bottle feeder past the age of one again., or at least he will not bring it up to me again.:laughing:

[draught]

I read on here aagggeess ago a good comeback is "Its only until I learn how to cook!" :laughing: So I tend to use that a lot, even with the oldies.

I like that!
I am getting it a lot from people at the moment because DS is 16 months old, but luckily I work with a few extended feeders and hang out with them so I don't feel too isolated and just laugh it off.

4 months RB? Like your response though!!:laughing:

[Milliner]

I asked if I could take Mirabella to a class on Mondays and the tutor said oh that's fine we have large female toilets that you can do what ever you want in. WTH????? I felt he didn't even want to mutter the word breastfeed, as if he was embarrassed or something. Pppppfffttt

[studyingECS]

4 monts??? you kidding?? you should have stopped along time ago:p:rolleyes:


I was accually really proud on myself the other day when a woman thanked me for my mature attitude towards extended breastfeeding. She said its not every day that you see a young mature teenager really grasp the positives of breastfeeding and look at it in a nature way instead of "gross".....:D..what a nice lady.

[Rainbowbrite]

Do you think she meant it negatively, maybe she has just struggled with BFing and so 4 months to her seems like a massive effort??

No she meant it in a shocked, thats not right kind of way. This is the type of person that thinks its weird to breastfeed :(


People have been asking
"are you still breastfeeding?"
more in a "I dont think she can do it" way.
Hope that makes sense, well, thats the opinion I gather anyway

I've had that too, because when I was pregnant with MJ I was not a fan of breastfeeding, I just did not want to do it. BUT its just so much easier.


4 monts??? you kidding?? you should have stopped along time ago:p:rolleyes:


I was accually really proud on myself the other day when a woman thanked me for my mature attitude towards extended breastfeeding. She said its not every day that you see a young mature teenager really grasp the positives of breastfeeding and look at it in a nature way instead of "gross".....:D..what a nice lady.


My niece is a lot like you. She is 15 & she's seen me breastfeed for almost the last 3 years so she now knows that its normal.

I hear you might be coming down this way for a visit soon....I hope you do, it would be lovely to meet you :)

[zenifa]

I asked if I could take Mirabella to a class on Mondays and the tutor said oh that's fine we have large female toilets that you can do what ever you want in. WTH????? I felt he didn't even want to mutter the word breastfeed, as if he was embarrassed or something. Pppppfffttt

Ewww!! You wouldn't want to breastfeed in a public toilet, surely?? I know many have had to do it, with no other option, but seriously yuck!


RB - I think its great that you are still breastfeeding both kids, so keep up the good work!!
Don't worry, I've also had GP and CHN push me into giving my 5mth old solids and now she has 2 teeth they even said.........''looks like it will be time to wean her''. I was not impressed, time to get a new CHN and GP I say!

[Rainbowbrite]

Zenifa I have the same type of GP. She is so.........can't really say anti-bf, but she's not supportive of it at all. She tried to tell me to stop feeding MJ at 6 months. I just don't go to see her anymore :D

[Seekrit]

I mentioned to ny doctor that Cobey still breastfed just the other day - I was impressed, he didn't even blink or shout "WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?!?!"
He did suggest that if I wanted to go on the combo pill then I will have to wean him, but then gave me the reasons why and in a not pushy and "this is what you need to do if YOU want to go on this" kinda way, you know?
I do lubs him

[CharlisMummy]

I've been lucky I haven't had any negative comments but the other day I was at my old boss's house and I said that DD's new word was 'boobs' :laughing: and she would tug on my shirt. She asked what age I stopped feeding her and I said I still am and she said 'oh, well, so she knows what she's asking for then!'

[Reidymac]

He's only 4months how did she think he should be feeding???:confused:

These threads always shock me. I have never, ever had anyone question my breastfeeding the children and I have been breastfeeding for basically 4.5 years straight (and still going). I mix in pretty diverse circles of people so it not like I'm only hanging out with pro BFeeders. I cant understand why people would be shocked at someone feeding especially such a new baby. Maybe I just look like a woman not to be challenged :devil:

Such extreme comments deserve an equally extreme comeback. The next time someone asks if you are STILL breastfeeding, try saying "Oh Noooo of course not! we stopped for a few minutes while I drove here, and when I went to the bathroom, I was feeding while doing the shopping but then he fell asleep for a little while............It's about a month since we saw you last so I'd say he's probably had at lest 5 or 6 short breaks in that time" ;):devil6::laughing:

That'll learn em not to question a dedicated BFing mummy:D

[Rainbowbrite]

:laughing: :laughing: Oh i'll have to remember that one!!

[Leisa21]

To be honest I dont think it's that stupid, yes in a way it is but in society today people just dont see it much. My boy is 3mths old and BF. I plan on doing it until he is 12-18 months or until I can get him drinking from a cup. I wont go from breast to bottle. I only want to go from breast to cup so as soon as he gets the hang of it and can tolerate cows milk then I will BF. However, unfortunately in this day and age its not as common as it should be. The majority of my friends only breastfed for 2weeks to 2months. Because, oh it hurt to much, I didnt have enough milk, its too hard, it made me too tired, baby wasnt putting on enough weight. In MY opinion they are making excuses because in this day and age if its not convenient why do it? I personally think it would be easier to have BM on tap then worrying about sanitising and all that jazz. But women get uncomforatable about the idea of BF in puplic and being attached to their baby 24/7. The only friend of mine that stuck to BM expressed more often then not. Its this silly society that we live in. WHen I see people out they are either formula feeding or expressed milk feeding. Its rare that I see a woman BF. I actually get more positive comments than not form women of my mothers age. THey all commend me for my work and think its great that I toughed out the first couple of weeks, which were hard but so worth it. I feel sorry for women who dont BF or gave up. THey will never feel the fantastic feeling that comes and that bond is amazing. I still cry sometimes when I feed.

THe few people that have made the odd bad comment or, wow how do you put up with never getting a break, I just ignore I cant be bothered.

What annoys me more than negative BF comments is people telling me I need a break and I should express and that I need me tiem and time alone with DH. I had a baby to have a baby not to express and dump him on Mums door step. I love him, I dont want to express and leave him. I love being around him 24/7, he is my break, I am quite happy. No one understands that why???? They might need their time or might not handle being a mum 24/7. Not my problem, good for you I say, I respect that. Just dont tell me to leave my baby ahhhh. Rant over.

[BlueGin]

What annoys me more than negative BF comments is people telling me I need a break and I should express and that I need me tiem and time alone with DH. I had a baby to have a baby not to express and dump him on Mums door step. I love him, I dont want to express and leave him. I love being around him 24/7, he is my break, I am quite happy. No one understands that why???? They might need their time or might not handle being a mum 24/7. Not my problem, good for you I say, I respect that. Just dont tell me to leave my baby ahhhh. Rant over.

So so true, I don't understand why people see it as a problem... maybe I look really tired? :p
I have people tell me to express, and to send him to daycare, all for this precious "me" time.
I love that they care, but it's sooo misguided, and I am not sure why they continue pushing the matter!
This goes for breastfeeding too. Some people view feeding past 6 months some kind of martyrdom, you know, because it's so horrible and time consuming :thumbsdown:

[Rainbowbrite]

What annoys me more than negative BF comments is people telling me I need a break and I should express and that I need me tiem and time alone with DH. I had a baby to have a baby not to express and dump him on Mums door step. I love him, I dont want to express and leave him. I love being around him 24/7, he is my break, I am quite happy. No one understands that why???? They might need their time or might not handle being a mum 24/7. Not my problem, good for you I say, I respect that. Just dont tell me to leave my baby ahhhh. Rant over.


I STILL get that because I won't leave MJ with anyone & especially Anakin. I had my children to HAVE children. They go where we go. I am always getting grief because I won't let MJ have a sleepover at her cousins house.....I'd miss her too much :o

[mybabyandew]

hey im still breastfeeding my baby hes 7 months now:smiliedance: even when i started breastfeeding and i got to feed him somewhere where people are around they just look at me like what are you doing and this one time i was feeding him while i was watching for my lunch to come becuase he was hungry and this lady just shock her head at me:(.thank god they have parents room :yelclap:

[Mum&bubs]

hey im still breastfeeding my baby hes 7 months now:smiliedance: even when i started breastfeeding and i got to feed him somewhere where people are around they just look at me like what are you doing and this one time i was feeding him while i was watching for my lunch to come becuase he was hungry and this lady just shock her head at me:(.thank god they have parents room :yelclap:

WTF? WHY would she shake her head at you for feeding a 7 month old??? That's ridiculous :thumbsdown: And you shouldn't have to hide away in a parents room either, stuff what they think!

RB- I can't believe she would say that to you about Anakin :mad: I don't see how its any of her bussiness anywaysssssss... I get people staring at me while I'm breastfeeding Taliyah (17months) but yes, they do nearly fall off their seats when I whip my boob out for my 3 yr old.

[lukaelmo]

Four MONTHS!!!

You earth mother :D.

I am really glad to say that all I got was really really positive comments, especially from the more mature aged ladies at work. I wish everyone had my experience, I felt really chuffed that people congratulated me on my mothering.

Hee hee... I bottlefeed Felix now, but am too shy to do it in front of anyone... I only ever feed him at home, I don't want people to know.

Lol, I am like the reverse of a shy BFer who won't do it in public spaces :laughing:!

[neostudded]

I get people staring at me while I'm breastfeeding Taliyah (17months) but yes, they do nearly fall off their seats when I whip my boob out for my 3 yr old.
Your such an inspiration to me!! :thumbsup::goodvibes::cloud9:

[Mum&bubs]

Your such an inspiration to me!! :thumbsup::goodvibes::cloud9:

aww thanks :D

[ogsmum]

i've had similar experiences to many of the replies on this thread also. oliver is 8 1/2 months now and we don't intend stopping bf anytime soon...

i tend to think that when it comes to advice and judgements and passing comments directed at mothers, people generally feel the need to validate and justify their own choices. i think they feel bad or at least are confronted by the fact that you are still bf ing. seeing it in public makes them need to address the decision they themselves made at that time in their lives. if they can make it seem that what you're doing (or i'm doing) is the wrong choice - what they did will appear correct (whether that is bottle feeding or daycare, etc). now i'm not saying those choices are wrong, but the exchange of judgements, comments, glances, etc is what's wrong and unnecessary. this is the only way i can understand why women are their own worst enemy.

that's just my opinion by the way (and probably just a way to justify and feel good about the decisions i make - it's human nature....:o)

:wave: from sal

[nemosmum]

awww geez louise its typical RB :hair:

you would get a much better response if you took out a can of whipped cream and fed it to your bubba:p

I was at the doctors last week getting some meds for a nasty reaction I had and DD was on my lap I informed the doc I was bfing so needed something safe
she looked at me *you know the look*
and said
"Who are you bfing? not her?"

I laughed and said
"yes who did you think I was bfing my 3yr old???"

that made her think twice

Now that we have passed the 12mth mark the comments are flying in thick and fast
makes me :hair: sometimes

sxx

[shanz]

come on, by now shouldnt Anakin being eating T-bone and vegies!!:laughing:
What I dont understand is that people always say they "couldnt be bothered to breastfeed" or "its so much easier on the bottle" now i did both with DS, he self weaned at 8 months, so went to formula and all i can say is "how on earth is bottle easier!!" i know and understand that it is not always a choice. but i never had to wash and sterilise my boobs after every feed(well i did wash-in the shower:p)or prepare the bottles,make sure that i had boiled water first so that it was cooled on time. I lasted 8 months BF and loved every minute of it,i cried when DS weaned,i even persisted through having my gallbladder out when DS was 4 weeks old with minimal formula given. As for bottle i hated it and ds learnt to drink from a cup very quickly!
Oh and RB if 4 months is such a shock to her 8 months should be considered extended breastfeeding, so what is MJ, extended,extended,extended,extended breastfed:thumbsup:
I say each to their own, i dont critisise people for FF so why should they critisise me for BF!!
Although i do think that it is a society thing, when SIL announced she was pregnant i was like "oh someone to convert to BF and cloth nappies!!" i know stereotypical, but she does swimsuit modelling etc and i thought she would want "her " body back as soon as possible. I was sooooo happy when she come to me one day telling me that she will breastfeed and use cloth nappies,cos thats just the way you do it! that was without me saying anything.
I do also have a friend that never BF her child because "it would feel weird having my baby feed off me!!" i near died of shock!

[Rainbowbrite]

Shanz I've heard the same things about it being weird. And totally agree, that breastfeeding is just easy. Nothing to really think about (once you have it down pat, I know its hard in the beginning), you attach bub & thats it. No prep etc.