Would you bother getting married again??

[bootiful]

As the title asks...

My hubby and I had a civil ceremony with just 6 guests in the registry office when i was a few months pregnant. We wanted it to be official and to be a LEGAL family before our baby was born.

A few days before the wedding I had an eye injury and all our photos have me squinting with a red watery eye.

We said we would have another FORMAL wedding after she was born.

The more we think about it now the more we think it wont happen and its a waste of money.

BUT....i would really like to have a nice wedding with all my family and friends attending and to have some very memorable photos to keep forever.

If you were in my situation would you plan another wedding or just give up on the idea??

Its been driving me crazy for months now especially cause we have been to lots of wedding last year and have more this year.

Thanks in advance :thumbsup:

[gizmoduckus]

I wouldn't do it again. It was too much of a stress and a hassle and in my opinion pointless. I love my DH and I want to be married to him but all the money that we wasted on that ONE DAY was mostly for other people's benefit.

If I had a do over, I would do it how you did at the registry office or we would fly to Las Vegas to get married. :D

[*Chels*]

I personally would do it.You dont have to make it really expensive:no:Our wedding was only 10,000 which I dont think is that much.
Anyways it wasnt about how much it cost,it was about celebrating with all my friends and family.
The "wedding week" as I refer to it,was definately the best time of my life,because I got to catch up with friends and family I hadnt seen in so long(all from NZ)
The memories are priceless!!And I love looking through all my wedding pics,and watching the DVD and listening to our wedding soundtrack and remincising!I am SO soppy I know!!:laughing:

[missie_mack]

My grandparents had a very small wedding (there are no photos that we know of) and I think it always grinded against my Gram despite thinking dresses etc were a waste of money. For their 50th their renewed their vows and it really made her feel better about the whole situation.....

Similarly I was 6 months pregnant when I got married. Ive always planned to renew my vows and have nicer photos taken..... maybe that would be a option??

[moonblossom]

No!!!!

[*Cj*]

I would't do our wedding again.
As it was the happist day of our life's. (well apart from the day my dd was born).

We had 3 of Dh work mates there and there family's. My mum was there and that was it. Well apart from the Celebrant and the Photography.
The only reson my mum was there in the end, was it was when she come over to look after dd so I could go for my P's.

As our wedding date got moved as to work around the Army. So the Army said all the guys could have this date off not the day they had all ready said ok to.
So had to move it to there date. It turned out to be two days after I sit for my p's. All so the day after Dh got back from being away for 3 weeks for work.

It was a great day. My sister wedding was a month after it and all my family did at the wedding was fight:no:. I'm so happy I didn't have all that at my wedding.
It cost use around $2500 all up and that was with the works. Cake and all. Going out to dinner after .

But at the end of the day if your not happy with how your day was. Then yes I would be doing it again. If only to get some great photos. Make it YOUR day and do it how you want too. Don't let family have a say in it.

We have some great photos to go up on the wall.
If I did't get them We'll be re doing the wedding.

[Jo9999]

I got married twice.
But I didn't tell anyone about the 1st time - only the 2 witnesses (I had to get married for visa purposes otherwise I would have had to leave the country I was in and leave my df behind as our relationship wasn't recognised).
We had a proper wedding later which everyone thought was the 1st. I think I wouldn't have felt married if I hadn't have done it like that.
Can you do an informal wedding celebration?

[blissfullybonkers]

i would just have a little vow renewel and then a massive reception/party afterwards:D

my friend got married last year and when her mum picked up all the flowers one poked her mum in the eye and she had a puffy red eyes and face the whole wedding day, but atleast it wasnt the bride, i think they ended up photoshop-ing the pics of her mum..

[WotWillBWillB]

i didn't get any of the pics i wanted at our wedding, becuase it rained.

So yes if i was in your shoes i would probably have a "renewal" of vows.

I want to maybe in say 10 or so years we will go up to like i don't know but one of the islands just by our selfes like i wanted all along!

[bootiful]

thanks for all your replies

dh is roman catholic and always wanted a nice church wedding...and im not religious so i dont mind, but wouldnt mind a garden wedding then a big bbq and cake after.

we were gonna renew our vowes in mauritus last xmas but never got around to it.

ah...i guess ill see how things go...we are planning another baby soon so i guess being pregs for both weddings isnt a great idea...might wait till next year.