jealousy has bitten me

[mummybunny]

I have recently become very jealous and i don't know why, DH's best friend is getting married at the beginning of next month and as the date grows closer and closer, i want to get married more and more, we have been talking about it for almost a year now, and we set a date for September '08' and nothing has been done about it, i keep trying to get him to do something about it with me but nothing, i feel as though he wishes not to marry me.
I know he loves me, and i know he wants to marry me, i am just so jealous that everyone around me is getting married and is married and im still sitting here trying to get the man i love and who is meant to love me to even get a ring.

Today when i told him i was jealous and i was at the point of just wanting to get a celebrant and a white dress and do it but it seemed he didnt want to he was like well i do, and then i said well maybe we could get a lone or something (just to see what he would say) and he said to me, we will sell my car and get married, then proceeded to tell me when i told him to call the guy that made an offer, that he couldn't rush into selling the car he isnt like that. ahhh i just want to be mrs kim ****** but it just seems like that day will just never come and its driving me insane..

why is it getting to me so much?
why wont he marry me?
why is everyone bloody else getting what i want?
ahhh

ok vent over..

[Lollie86]

It will happen, dont worry. As long as you 2 love each other and are committed thats all you need and marriage will come eventually.

My DF and I have been together almost 4 yrs, and we're still bit married. It wont make it any less special if you get married later on.

We know people who got engaged after 3 mths, had a wedding 9 mths later and were 3 mths pregnant on their wedding. They think they are better then DF and I bc they have a piece of paper and had a child when they were married but it shouldnt be about that. Off track I know...:o

Its normal to feel jealous but just remember that there is no rush in things like marriage. The longer you wait, the more you can save for it and you wont end up paying off a loan after the wedding.

Sorry my post is all over the place but I hope it makes sense. :hugs:

[subaruforestermum]

I waited for 7 years for DF to propose, we were like you and had talked about it and everything but he just didnt do anything about it.

I got very jealous when 2 of my friends got married, one lot had only been together for 2 years.

And now we are engaged, I dont feel the want to get married so quickly now. We set a date for early next year, and have just decided to wait another year so we can renovate the house, take our time and have our engagement party in summer this year.

So something I felt so jealous over, is no longer such a big thing.....

I dont know, for me him proposing showed true commitment to me, and that's what I needed.

It may pass, it may get worse, but as long as you are both happy in the relationship apart from the marriage thing, a piece of paper wont really change that....

[mummybunny]

I dont know, for me him proposing showed true commitment to me, and that's what I needed.
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i think thats how i feel...