PND/Antidepressants effecting my relationship

[NeonPink]

After being diagnosed with PND, my GP has started me on anti depressants and I have also undergone councilling which has helped dramatically as im starting to feel in control again and have way more "good days" then "bad days".. the problem is (and im assuming its a combination of the anti depressants and lack of sleep as bub still wakes every 2-3 hrs and is wide awake by 7am) ive startd noticing I have been drifting away from my partner.. what little quiet time we get together is either spent by one or both of us catching up on chores or me sleeping.

How can I revive the spark we once had as im sure he is feeling neglected.. and obviously not only women with PND sometimes feel like intimacy is the last thing on their mind.. but I do miss it.. I just dont have the drive or energy..

Any suggestions or advice greatly appreciated!

[Scout]

Unfortunately, I don't have any answers to those issues.

My experience was with ante-natal depression and despite the fact that I'm extremely well these days it is mainly due to medication. As you have said, the medication causes a raft of other problems.

I still struggle with those issues each day but I much prefer the overall quality of life that comes with taking medication.

I hope that someone else can provide you with some insights.

[mama71]

I feel exactly the same way you do. Where do you find the time or energy for your partner with all this other stuff going on. I have found that even though baby is unpredictable and I can never guarantee setting a period of time aside, I just grab my partner every now and then and say lets make the most of the next however many minutes we get. You may find you get a 7 minute coffee and chat with him, you may find you get a 20 minute snooze together, you may find the second you approach him that the baby wakes up. The point is that I try to do this at least once every two days, and I am pleasantly suprised that about 50 percent of the time, we get to spend a bit of quality time together. I think the secret is to keep on trying and you will look forward to any time you both get. Hope this helps a bit.