makes me feel ill

[Jo_Jo]

hi mummy,s

look im just wondering what your veiws are on smoking while pregnant, i never did and i have not thought about it to much but my brothers partner is 36 and has been trying to get pregnant for a year and she is a heavy smoker, now to there delight she is 5 months and is still smoking. When she is over with my brother she goes out to the car and puffs away this makes me feel funny as i figure if you wanted to have a baby so much why would you not sacrifice this habbit, i do find it hard to not say anything but i would like to hear what you all think!!!

[tyhleigha & izaiah's mum]

i smoked with both of my pregnancies and there was nothing wrong with either of my children they were healthy perfect birth weight etc.

[misskittyfantastico]

I was a pack a day smoker until I got pregnant with DD, the day I found out was the day I quit.
It was bloody hard but I'm so glad I did it and I can tell you I'll NEVER smoke again:thumbsup:

[shed]

I think its really mean to deprive someone of oxygen when they're busily trying to grow lungs and other important things.

Therefore I wouldn't do it to my children.

What other people choose to do with their children is not my concern, although its hard when its a baby that you care about.

[rainbowbeetle]

having a few problems that may make it harder for us to fall pregnant, and having a few friends who have been through many miscarriages, and having troubles of their own, i find it hard to understand how any one could risk their babies health by smoking.

im sure its hard to quit, and that theres people out there who have made it through their pregnancies smoking, but i know personally i couldnt do it to my unborn child. i'd want them to have the best start in life that was possible.

[Dawn]

I gave up smoking as soon as I found out I was pregnant and that was month ago. If I walk past any one smoking now it makes me feel sick. I think that if you are pregnant then it is not only your life but some elses life and you haven't given them the chance to choose. The side effects of smoking are miscarriage lower birth weigh and increased risk of breathing problems. Personally I don't want any of those things.

[vespertine]

I think it's incredibly selfish to continue smoking whilst pregnant. It's not about just the smoker anymore, it's about the innocent baby too. S/he has a right to be given the best chances at a healthy life. Smoking impedes that chance significantly. Cigs can cause bub to have respitory problems (Asthma etc), low birth weight, prematurity, low birth weight and so much more. It's true that some babies born to smoking mothers are healthy, but this is the exception rather than the rule.

Maybe you could get some info from Quitline sent to your brothers partner? Just call up and ask for info to be sent, but give her address instead of yours. Or maybe leave some info about risks to unborn babies laying around when she visits, or email it to her if you have the courage. That poor sweet baby :(

Having given up an addiction before, I know it's incredibly hard. But our children should ALWAYS come first.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

DITTO to what vespertine said!!

As soon as I found out I was pregnant I stopped- just like that..... I havnt touched them again and I wont! I think what she is doing is VER VERY wrong how selfish of her :shame: ......just my opinion though

[Peaceangels]

Pregnancy is for 9mths (not a long time in the scope of things) and it is the beginning of life when a mother's body nourishes and nurture's their growing child, why anyone would want to jeopardise that is beyond me.

This is just my personal opinion, what someone else chooses to do is their business (I am btw a non-smoker).

[rynosmum]

We live in such a toxic environment these days that surely anything we can do to lessen the toxic burden on our children, the better.

I have known people to smoke whilst they are pregnant and also around their young children and it saddens me. Then again, I have never had an addiction and have therefore never experienced the trouble of trying to 'give-up' something.

However, I guess we need to accept what we cannot change in others....

[the_queen]

I know plenty of women who smoked through their pregnancies, and their kids turned out OK.......
oh wait, hang on....
most of them have a constant "smokers cough"..... quite a few of them have asthma...... and a couple of them have ADHD....... 2 (that I know of) have been accidentally burned by their parents' cigarette...... one kid started a fire with his dad's lighter........ and the kids who are teenagers are nearly all smokers themselves now....... and probably in 20 or 30 years at least half of them will have had some kind of cancer scare.......

[shed]

but apart from that they came out just fine, right? :laughing:

[Jo_Jo]

thanks guys i agree and to vespertine i gave her some books with pamplets about sids and the higher chance that it can happen when you are a smoker it doubles, that would put me off, but she never said a thing they live in melbourne and come down every second weekend to see my brothers other child so i don,t know you would reckon when she is getting a ciggy out of the pack it would put her off with what they have on the packs yes girls i think she is very selfish:shame:

i cant stop thinking about it......cheers.....jo

[bronny-jane]

jo_jo, i understand your concern, but just because she's been given information on what can happen to the baby, doesnt mean she'll quit, sadly im a smoker and smoked through both my dd's pgs, as for kids with add, and other things, my parents didnt smoke and my brother has adhd, another brother had sleep apneia-sorry dont know how to spell- and my sister has asthma.

im not making excuses for smoking believe me i have tried to quit several times, and will continue to try until i suceed.

just let her know that if she wants to quit you'll be her support buddy.

[misskittyfantastico]

It's so true bronny-jane....people will only quit if and when they're ready to. I smoked for years all the while suffering from high blood pressure due to a kidney disease. I was fully aware of the risks and what I was doing to myself but carried on puffing away.

I hope your SIL quits for her and her baby's sakes but until she decides to do that there isn't much you can do.

[Jo_Jo]

ya know i do know this and that is why i have said nothing directly!!!! and i wont, but i still think it sux!!:thumbsdown:

cheers....jo

[bronny-jane]

i think you should say something, just in a caring way. she might not appericiate it at first, but she will think about it:thumbsup:

[suemp]

my son was born with low muscle tone and spent a year sick with chest infections including pneumonia twice, bronchilitis (sp) and croup, and im a non smoker, barely drink and dont touch drugs
on the other hand a good friend of mine smoked with all 3 preg, drank and injected speed for 2 preg and all her kids are fine
how is that fair (not that i wish sickness on any child of course)

[maybe1more]

I think if your a smoker then why not give up while you are pregnant, as the baby doesnt have a choise, and its no fair on an unborn baby to have to have the odds stacked against it, the implacations are just no worth it.
Also people who smoke in the car with babies and children in there make me sick, to me its a form of child abuse which some people may seem a bit harsh, but cant they at least wait untill there out of the car and not in a confined space with there children???:rolleyes:

[Faithcomesinnumbers]

I am a heavy smoker. A pack a day:eek: but the moment we started TTC for DD I gave it up. I found it extremely hard the first 2 weeks and the last 3 months but not in between. She was worth it.

[Jo_Jo]

That is so good to hear!!!! so it can be done and is hard but you did!!!!!so why do other mums keep doing it look i know it is an addiction as i have dealt with my own :devil6: in the past, i just dont know how they justify it to themselves when they want to have babies, i mean you worry when pregnant about everything being ok and having a healthy baby why? put the stakes up even higher???


cheers......jo