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Hi Mums and mums to be, iam 19 years old turn 20 in august and have a beautiful 4 month old girl that i love soooo much. My fiance and i have been together for 5 years we are getting married at the end of this year, but he wants to have another baby now ( usualy its the girl who wants another baby lol ). I told him that i think we should wait but he really wants to have another baby cause he is really enjoying father hood.
Iam really confused cause even thou our families support us, i lost most of my friends same with my fiance and remember all the stairs i got.
Do you think we should wait a few years ??? Please help !!:confused: !!! i would love to hear peoples storys.
i am also 19 and preg wit my 1st,
when i told people i was preg most of my friends lectured me and stopped talking to me as they lost a friend to go out clubbing with, my family were disappointed as my mum is 37 and thought she was to young to be a nan, my dad was over moon but never interested in visiting me. i say go with your heart with having another child if you wanna wait then wait its you who has to live with another child not your friends or anyone else. so at the end of the day you make the decision on you and your partners thoughts and i hope it all works out for you. just remember family comes 1st everone else can come and go. cheer up and it will all work out for you even if times are hard but you got all us members here to talk to. :hugs: :D :smiliedance: ;)
If you want another bub - then go for it.
People are alwasy going to stare no matter what age you are. I am 27 (had my first at 23) and have 2 girls, people still think I am young to be a mother of 2. DP and I are happy with our family and the age we are so we don't worry about what others think.
In my grandmothers time people were married at 17 and had 2 kids and one on the way by 19. I don't see why it has to be such a big deal these days :thumbsdown:
If you and hubby-to-be are happy to have another then follow your heart and do it, if you are unsure then maybe wait until bub 1 is a bit older. BUT if you were to fall pg now how close would your due date be to your wedding :eek:
Your body, your baby, your life, your choice :thumbsup:
I had two by the time i was 19!!! (only just)
and while they weren't planned i wouldn't change anything now.
Your always going to get the stares u just have to learn to ignore them (easier said than done i know)
My two are now 2 and 3 and we're thinking of having another one.
i too worry about what my family would say if i was to become pregnant again but i've also come to realise that its not there life and yes they'll probaly be disappointed for a while but they'll get over it.
Well Im 21 and Im due in August which will make me 22 by then but I would of had a baby sooner if i could of! We were trying to save for a house which took a couple of yrs but were all set to go now...
anyway I say do what you feel is right! who cares what everyone else thinks! and yes you do loose friends when you "settle down" but hey blood is a little thicker than water and having kids so young is better cause u have the energy and u can go get a career after if you want to!
I lost ALL my friedns once i got married but I have everyone from bubhub now... :hugs:
all u girls that lost ur friends when u had bubs WTF?????they musta have been so immature and not true friends to just ditch you coz u wouldnt go clubbing!!anyways theres always bubhub:kiss:
if you want another bub then go for it,but think carefully if u are finacially and emotionally ready for it!one baby is hard enough!i know i couldnt cope with another one rite now!!good luck with everything:hugs:
My little girl is 8 months and I've decided that, although I'd kinda like to have another one soon, I'd really like to enjoy Chanel on her own for a while, and I think she deserves to get ALL the love and attention while she's still a baby... rather than share it with another bub.
I think the main things you need to consider are:
*Finances - it's probably the most important aspect. Are you able to financially support another baby and STILL live the life that you want to live? It's not good having another one just yet if your quality of life will diminish because of it.
*Ability - how is having one baby? Hard at times? (Just wait until she starts to crawl and have separation anxiety! lol) Having two would be hard...IMO. You'd have to get even less sleep because you'd have TWO that need your help at once...you'd need to manage a double-pram...you'd probably have to buy another carseat and another cot...If you breastfeed for a while, you might have to make yourself (and your breasts) available for more times during the day...etc etc.
...I was going to say more things but I forgot my points...lol:laughing:
If I were you, I'd wait a while and see how it is with ONE baby first...I'd wait at least until this bub is 1...so you can see if you really COULD cope with 2 littlies or not.
But, if you DO want to have another, then I guess go ahead. I wouldn't do it (I think I'd rip out my hair if I had TWO babies that would cry whenever I moved more than 30cm away from them...that's the stage my little one is at at the moment! EEK!). Just remember to think of ALL the pros and cons first.
I haven't really read everyone else's thoughts on this one, so i'm sorry if I repeat anything you guys have already said!!
I have read that a mothers body should have 12 months to recuperate after a birth before becoming pregnant with another but if you feel ready then I think go for it. But, on the other hand, if you're not ready then let your fiance know this. You're the one who's going to be at home with the bubs all day while he goes to work and he'll get the fun stuff like coming home and helping feed and bath them but what about all the running around you do during the day while still trying to do housework and stuff?
I think you should go with what you decide is right for you and your partner. I personally want at least 12 months between my bubs because I don't think I could handle having 2 young bubs close together. Thumbs up to those mums who do it and make it work though :D
My girls are 12 and a half months apart - and yes, we planned it that way! I love it! The oldest is too young to get jealous. I had c-sections for both my girls and the doc had no problem with us having them soo close (i checked with him first).
You get looks no matter how old you are when you have them so close. The amount of idiots that will say stuff like "have you worked out yet how this happens". Pffftt to them!
If you are ready for another baby go for it, if you are only doing it cos it's what your DF wants, then wait a while. Remember, you will be the one looking after 2 bubs, changing 2 lots of nappies etc. It is harder with 2, but you soon get yourself a routine and it's not soo bad. If your not sure, wait till you are, but then are we ever really sure we can cope with another?
Good Luck with whatever you decide to do!
Hey girls thank for your replys.
hey purrincess my mum also is 37 and always told me when i was preg that she wasnt ready to be a grandmother but once my baby girl was born she was so proud lol.
i would love to have another baby right now but i think i am going to wait till we are married its not even really that far away cause if i got pregnant right now i would be 8 months preg at my wedding lol and i was reading what you girls were writing and it really helped me so thank you, i guess i do worry sometimes what people think of me but its not their lives its mine.
I really miss being pregnant sometimes espeacilay when i see pregnant girls but i wanna give Monique ( my baby ) full attension cause i was thinking if i got sevre morning sickness like i did with my first then i wouldnt be able to give her my full attension.
My daughter was not planned but i am so thankful for her i cant imagine my life with out her. Thanks heaps for helping me its helped :) :kiss:
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Just a hint, kids are always demanding, at EVERY age! so waiting till #1 is older dosen't mean it'll be easier IYKWIM ;) That and even if you concieve when #1 is only 4 months old, he or she will be a year old before bub is born! Like my son is almost 9 months old, if I fell pregnant now :fingerscrossed: he'd be 18 months old when bub#2 comes along :thumbsup:
Also if you ask a mum who's had more than 1 bub they will tell you just because #2 has come along dosen't mean #1 will be any less loved.
Good luck planning the wedding and concieveing #2 when the time comes :D
BTW my hubby was the one who pushed for #1 and now that he's a Daddy he loves it so much he's pushing for #2, and talking about buying an 8 seater car so we can have 6 as well!! Its really great because we've always felt the same way about family planning, as many kids as possible, as close together as we can have them.
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