View Full Version : So it's been on my mind...(freebirth)
SassyMummy
09-03-2008, 21:28
Yes Yes, Stacey the "changing her stance on every single issue" girl has been thinking a lot about freebirth lately.
Mainly because I'm kinda forced too... when people I know IRL hear about it they totally bag it out, and I have to defend it. Or when they bang on about how irresponsible it is to birth at home - I like to mention that I'd feel much safer birthing alone on my own in a field than in a hospital. (They don't usually know my stance on it all before they bring it up... I guess cos I've had a c-sec they think I'm part of the "too posh to push" crowd... so they usually get quite a shock...:devil::laughing:).
But yes. It's been on my mind.
I think that, if I went into labour right now, I'd be fine. Obviously shocked cos I'm not UTD, but you know what I mean. :p
I think I could comfortably give birth... and if not, I'd make my way to somewhere where I COULD give birth comfortably (my mother's house/in the bush/etc...lol).
I feel like I could do it on my own... I really feel like I could just do it. No stressing out. No panicking (well, DP would...). None of it. Just me breathing out my baby on my own.
So tell me about it. Specifically, if you've got any VBAC-specific freebirth info that would be fantastic!
I'm not certain it's for me... but hey, that's what I said about homebirth...;)
Shanaynay
09-03-2008, 21:32
I reckon you get comfy with the idea of FB once you start to think about it, then imagining anyone else in your birth space just seems odd and unnatural. If you had to do it (ie. could not find a middie) I think you'd become quite comfortable with the idea.......
But no info for you, but I've read dozens of stories of women freebirthing after c/s's...... great stories :yes:
studyingECS
09-03-2008, 21:34
What an awsome decision stacey!
You know what and this is gonna sound strange comming from me...because I wont be pregnant for a very long time and dont "need" to be thinking about it but I have been and I absolutely know I want a freebirth:o
I cant get it off my mind, it sounds so clishe(sp) but I feel empowered after reading so much about it.
Wonderful choice! :D
Go forth and absorb all the info you can, if you haven't already, www.purebirth-australia.com is a bloody brilliant place to get the nitty gritty on it all :)
Yeah I know I could do it. I pretty much did it on my own last time around, I ignored the midwife.:p So it was just me doing it the way it is meant to be, except for the uncomfortable bed!
Stacey, I haven't got any info. But I have also read many postive stories.
PunkyDiva
10-03-2008, 13:40
What AM said:thumbsup: she's a legend for info and support.
After 5 hospy births where I told middies to get lost because of what had occured during my first birth I really wanted a home birth this final time around. Not until I started reading birth stories that I realised that we could actually do this unassisted and it would be ok.
I have had minimal checkups during the pregnancy as I don't quite have the pure confidence of freebirthers to trust everything to nature amd what will be will be. That was a bit too out there for us but we are happy with what we are doing and very excited at being together as a family, in our own space at such a monumental occasion.
Our immediate family and most friends are in medical careers and indeed my DH was the hardest to convince, his stance being that hospies were the safest place. Too have changed his mind meant some damn good info finding but it actually wasn't that hard. I also know i didn't coerce him that he is as confortable with the decision as I am.
I often lied about no midwife but soon got over it and stopped being defensive knowing we had done the research to fully inform & prepare ourselves. I just sidestep those convos now and am concentrating on the imminent arrival of our wee man therefore ensuring my space is calm, loving and accepting.
All the best on your discovery journey of this ancient way of giving birth :p :hugs:
Lillynix
10-03-2008, 14:33
Okay, so after my plan to freebirth went belly up, the only advice I can offer is to make sure you read up on EVERYTHING.
I had read up about all different things and scenarios of the "what ifs" what to look for incase of uterine rupture, things to alert me to PPH and ways to stop it, bleeding during labour and what it could mean, cord around bubs neck, hand presenting instead of a head and ALL of those things, but you know what freaked me out and why I headed to the hospital...I felt dizzy, as in REALLY dizzy, I had no idea what that could mean, freaked out and went to this hospital to find out why I was soooo dizzy...I was fine, it was just all part of labour for me, but it wasn't something I hadn't read about or researched, so now I feel stupid for abdoning my freebirth plans for seemingly nothing, however don't regret DS's birth like I do DD's so that's the main thing for me.
But yep, make sure you research and read about even the tiniest of things rather than just focussing on the big things like I did LoL
One of the things I would recommend would be to have a couple of backup plans, if at all possible, get a very experienced and willing doula or midwife to be available to ring, as a first port of call if you ever felt out of your depth, as sometimes that may be all you need, some reassurance, and then you may avert a trip to hospy, and if something happens which you need extra physical help, you can get the help to come to you, at home, rather than going to hospy, necessarily. (if it is not life threatening, obviously)
And also if you happened to need stitching or something like that, you could call a mw in to do that. Just a thought anyway. :)
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