Why does she hate going to sleep!!!

[Lilyloo]

Why does my DD find it so hard to go to sleep! i feel as though she's the only baby in the world who hates sleeping!

Just when we thought things were getting better, she's back to her old ways... worse than ever.

Does anyone elses heart break when they hear their baby crying? I am inconsolable at the moment and just can't deal with this!! :(

I feel like the meanest mummy in the whole world, leaving her in her cot to cry, but there doesn't seem to be any other option. Nothing else works anymore...

I just can't understand it. I know she is tired, but she refuses to sleep. She actually sits up in her cot, crying, watching the door waiting for me to come in. She's not even trying to put herself to sleep!!

I don't mind patting her, but this is now causing her to need me when she wakes during the night, to come in to pat her back to sleep again, so we're back to getting up 3 times a night again

AHHHHH... I can't wait for the day this phase passes.

Sorry about the whinge, just needed to get that out :(:(:(

[RmumR]

Oh Katie thats no good. Its so frustrating when they are so good for a while then they just change in a minute.
Are you going to give Jo a call or email? She might have a suggestion for you to help get back on track?
Hope it gets better for you really really soon.

[Lilyloo]

Oh Katie thats no good. Its so frustrating when they are so good for a while then they just change in a minute.
Are you going to give Jo a call or email? She might have a suggestion for you to help get back on track?
Hope it gets better for you really really soon.

Hi rach... have just got an email back from Jo. She's given me some tips. She says that this can sometimes happen and it usually is associated with a developmental stage and usually around mobility. It really is frustrating! I just hate hearing her cry! :hair:

[RmumR]

Glad she got back to you quick. Hopefully the stage will pass quickly for you sanitys sake! Its horrible to hear them cry.

She seems to do a trade off with her sleeping at the moment she'll either have really great day sleeps and a horrible night or a really good night and terrible day sleeps....not sure which i like better.

[Lipsmacker01]

Thats a cute avatar pic of your girl :)
Look I can relate to you! Sarahs been doing this for ages. Shes more of a comfort feeder though. I can only assume things...as sometimes Im not even sure whats wrong with my girl too. Could be teething? Sarah just got her 5th and 6th teeth last month...or it could be seperation anxiety......she could possibly still be hungry? maybe needs more solids....or relying too much on certain ways of falling asleep. Ive got my little one booked for sleep school next month for a day stay so I cant wait. A month is sooo far away.
Apparently good props to help babies fall asleep include: Dummies (weve never used one), Fav sheet/blanket, fav toy, piece of your clothing.
and Apparently bad props include: rocking baby to sleep (even though we still do it sometimes!), playing music (unless u can do it continuously), driving them to sleep, breastfeeding to sleep and bottle feeding to sleep! Got this from some info sent out to me.

Hope she gets better for you. If youre still having problems give your local council a ring and get them to send a sleep consultant over to your place - its free. Or ring one of the sleep schools in your girls blue book (if you have one).
Good luck

[UmmInayah]

:hugs: Katie, you are such a wonderful mum to care so much for your DD that you cry when she cries!

I totally know what you mean about her hating sleep. My DD is the same, and honestly, I think it is BECAUSE I have left her to cry by herself in the past that she is scared I am going to leave her again. At the moment DH is with DD trying to get her to sleep. I am not sure what he's doing, but she isn't crying - just talking to herself.

I can't even pat my DD to sleep as she gets really upset and will keep trying to crawl. I can only feed her to sleep, and most of the time when resettling her, trying to take out the boob is impossible.

If you find something that works, let me know!

[Lilyloo]

Thanks for your replies... It's so hard being a mum sometimes. I try to talk to DH, but he just doesn't get it. He's not here during the day, obvioulsy he's working, and doesn't get up at night, so he can't understand what the big deal is. He doesn't get upset like I do when he hears her cry. I just feel so alone sometimes. Like no one understands. Anyway, :fingerscrossed: she stays asleep and tonight is a good night.

[UmmInayah]

Thanks for your replies... It's so hard being a mum sometimes. I try to talk to DH, but he just doesn't get it. He's not here during the day, obvioulsy he's working, and doesn't get up at night, so he can't understand what the big deal is. He doesn't get upset like I do when he hears her cry. I just feel so alone sometimes. Like no one understands. Anyway, :fingerscrossed: she stays asleep and tonight is a good night.

:hugs: Just know you're not alone, Katie. Us BHers are here for you :) Is there a way you could get your DH involved somehow? Maybe on the weekends he could put her to sleep for naps so he understands how difficult it can be?

[RmumR]

Thanks for your replies... It's so hard being a mum sometimes. I try to talk to DH, but he just doesn't get it. He's not here during the day, obvioulsy he's working, and doesn't get up at night, so he can't understand what the big deal is. He doesn't get upset like I do when he hears her cry. I just feel so alone sometimes. Like no one understands. Anyway, :fingerscrossed: she stays asleep and tonight is a good night.

Don't feel alone in this am sure there are many others in the same boat me included!:hugs:

My DH sounds a bit similar to yours, he also doesn't get up in the night unless i ask him to and then its usually to get a bottle for me.

He doesn't have much luck getting DD to sleep when he tries as she isn't used to it so gives up and hands back to me.:rolleyes:

I don't think fathers have the same emotional attachment to babies as mothers do, i remember when DD was brand new and she used to cry i felt like she was pulling on my heart. Plus when you are breastfeeding you can get the physical response of a let down when they cry.

I hope Jo has given you some useful advice that helps with settling Lily back into a routine....if not keep pestering her. I think i email her a couple of times a week asking different things...we paid enough for her services so make use of them!

Crossing my fingers for you that you get a good nights tonight.

[Lilyloo]

Well, last night was great. Only the 4:30am wake for a breatfeed then straight back to sleep. I even had to wake her at 7am this morning as she was still asleep. (hate waking her!)

Thanks for your kind words rach.. you're right about fathers not really having the same emotional attachment to babies as mothers do. I know know he loves her, but it's different. I have tried to get him involved in the sleeping/settling process on weekends, but he doesn't have much luck with it. She cries more, and I end up just taking over to save the stress.

Anyway, feeling better today after a good night. Hope the 9am sleep time goes well and there isn't too much crying!