Any support for Emergency C Sections?

[Rose19]

Hi,

DOes anyone know of any ways, groups, people who can help my husband and I come to terms with me having an emergency C section last week? We are both feeling very emotional about it and let down by the system and confused and can't really seem to get anywhere in terms of working through it and understanding it a bit more.

thanks

[AM]

Yes there are. :hugs:

Birthrites is one group, www.birthrites.org/

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Emotional Recovery From A C/S

www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/CSANDVBAC/csemotionalrecov.htm

ICAN is a great place to find resources about C/S

www.ican-online.net/

Talking, talking, talking with supportive people, you may find you need to tell your story many many times to process it properly. Writing it all down say in a journal, and writing about how each part of the story makes you feel, you may find drawing pictures helps to release some of the emotion. It can take a long time to get through it all. Huge huge hugs to you, birth is a HUGE event in our lives, and it is really important to process it completely, never let people tell you it is 'a healthy baby that is all that matters, get over it' because that simply is not true, your feelings and emotions surrounding the events are very important. I wish you much healing, and that you can come to a place of peace in time.

[veve]

I dont have any connections/ groups .. but I just wanted to send you a :hugs: .. I was in tears for a VERY long time after my first son was born emerg c-section .. it wasn't till I sat down and REALLY talked through the birth with a good friend that I felt cleansed ..

it IS hard when your baby's birth isn't what you wanted to expected so please :hugs: dont feel alone .. but you CAN get through the emotion .. :hugs:

xx
Jen

[Rose19]

Hi Jen,

Were you able to have a vbac the 2nd time round? ( I hope this isn't too personal to ask) They have told me I shouldn't because they managed to rip my uterus and cervix while getting him out.

I am applying to get my hospital records (when I can get to the JP to get a copy of my Drivers lic signed!) which I hope might help.

I really hope I can work though this, my husband is finding all my tears very hard I think. And I'm sure my baby is. I feel so angry at the ob, mine who wasn't there in the first place, and the locum who I didn't know!! I can't help but think "what if" about everything. And I feel so jealous about all the people I know who have had natural births. I just feel so cheated.

[AM]

For the immediate emotional stuff, can you get hold of some Rescue Remedy or some Emergency Essence from a health shop? You can put 10 or so drops in a bottle of water, and sip it through the day, and for really acute emotional episodes, you can drop the drops straight onto your tongue, and get your partner to take it as well.

[squiglet]

I found talking about it to your freinds, or mums group girls helped me.

I really wanted a v birth, but had a cs as well. I wasn't to sad about it, but was not all that happy either.

:hugs:for you and your partner.

[jas08]

Hi there. :hugs: to you. i had to have an emergency csection for my last two babies and i know that after my 1st one i got bad postnatal depression. I found that talking to all my friends helped as well as to my doctor to try to understand - my son was chord prolapes- so mine was essential but due to this emergency csection when i got servere pre eclampsia the next time i had to have another emergency csection.
the second time i found it wasnt as hard to cope with as it was explained properly to me. I would suggest reading the information in the links someone else wrote they really do help. But the main thing is time and your baby.
Congradulations on your baby and remember that in the end at least s/he is here

[Lanamuma90]

hi, and :hugs: to everyone that went through what i did...
i had to have an emergency c-sectionn as well, but this wasnt the doctors fault it was the midwifes who did my checkups, i had a traumatic first experience, and was told that my placenta had failed...at about thirty weeks, so my daughter only weighted 2.5 kilograms, and she was sitting on her umbilical cord, and because of the way my labour went (i only dialated 2 centimetres and stayed at two centimetres from 6am till 2:30pm when they took me for a ceaser) and that i was having pushing contractions, meant they couldnt even try to just move her cord, i cried from the moment they told me there was a possibility i was having a ceaser untill the minute i had my daughter in my arms, not to mentions the doctors i had made a hole in my uterus somewhere and i as being stitched up for over an hour, and i needed a blood transfuion...i lost almost 2 lirtes of blood...this experience ill definatly stay with me foir the rest of my life and will most certainly be on my mind if i have another child

[bootiful]

the above links are a good start

big :hugs: to you

i had an emergency cs @ nearly 32wks. DD was 1450g @ birth and spent a month in SCU. Going home without my bub everyday for a month and spending 15-20hr a day in the SCU was very tiring and emotionally draining.

PM me if you would like to talk or have any specific questions.

[SaraG]

Thank you for the links.

I had an emergency C-sec last week. Went thru a 9 hour labour before my son started to have massive heart decelerations (dropping to under 50bpm) and they had to get him out quick smart. At the time I was absolutely devistated but as soon as my son was born I pushed it out of my mind.

At the moment I am ok, but im trying not to think about it too much. If I do think about it it makes me sad so im glad that there are other girls out there to talk to if it gets too much.

Hugs to you all. It not easy when things dont go according to plan.

[Lanamuma90]

yeah it sucks the fact that nothing went right...im still physically hurting from it as well as everything else..its just so stressful...and there are still days where i cant even hang out a full load of washing it hurts...

[montanasmum]

I too am another one who had an unwanted emergency c sect. Mine was almost 4 years ago now and still to this day I feel like I have been cheat, of experiencing one of lifes most wonderful things. My contractions started on a sat night and I went right through to monday night and got to 7cm and just stopped dialting. To this day I have never been told reason/s why this happened. Needless to say Tuesday morning 3.04am my beautiful little girl was brought into the world via emergency c sect. I feel for everyone who has been through an unwanted c sect and anytime someone wants to talk...just do it...get it out in the open, hopefully that will help a bit.

[PunkyDiva]

http://www.acegraphics.com.au/parents/caesarean/index.html

Lotsa:hugs::hugs: and healing vibes :goodvibes::goodvibes:

So important not only for well being now but also future pregnancies that you find peace over your traumatic experience.

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