What do i do??

[Charlie Angel]

Hi there

I really need some advice on what to do about my nearly 10month old beautiful boy sleeping problems. Up until last week I was able to put him down after a feed with his dummy and he would go straight to sleep. (he still wakes up for 2 bottles during the night tho & would always go straight back to sleep with his dummy!) All of a sudden he has decided he doesnt want his dummy anymore so during the night has become a nightmare. He wakes anywhere between 3-8 times and only goes back to sleep after he has had a drink & then I have to sit with him and pat his back or he grabs onto my hand until he falls asleep. He eats well during the day, so i cant understand why he still wakes for at least 2 feeds during the night. His doctor & paediatrician have both said he is perfectly healthy and he just obviously loves his food. (that doesnt really help my questions tho!!) My doctor suggested just letting him cry himself to sleep because there doesnt appear to be anything wrong with him, she thinks he is just spoilt. Maybe she is right... Am i doing it all wrong? I dont know what else to do.... Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! thank you

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Is he teathing i know my daughters routine is all messed up when she is teething and he might not want his dummy cause his mouth is sore?If he is teething try a bit of neurofen before bed this might settle him abit better.:fingerscrossed: he goes back to his normal routine:thumbsup:

[Chickadee]

As has been said, sometimes bubs just go through unsettled periods and sleeping routines go out the window. So it might be that in another week he'll be back to his normal happy self.

You could try offering a bottle of water at night instead of milk. Be warned, he might throw it back at you and the first few nights would be tough.

When you pat his back, do you pat until he is fully asleep? With DD I always slowed the patting and made it lighter as she settled down, so that I would actually stop before she was fully asleep. This was at 4 months and worked so well that after a while I could just give her a few pats and leave her to fall asleep on her own. It may not work with your boy being older though, and does take a few weeks to get them used to it.

[Charlie Angel]

Hi, thanks for your replies... I dont think he is teething as he doesnt seem to be doing the usual dribbling,has red cheeks or grizzling like he did before. So i dont think its that. :confused: Bubs is the happiest of babies during the day. Everyone i know & even people down the street comment on how happy he seems to be. Its just the whole night time thing. My partner seems to think bubs has me wrapped around his little finger as i jump to every little murmur he makes because i hate to hear him cry or be upset in any way. Maybe he is right?? Am i making this all ten times harder for myself because i jump everytime he makes a noise?:banghead: This is my first baby and i'm trying my hardest to do everything right & all i care about is if he is happy, but i dont want to be a mum where the child controls absolutely everything either! I tried the water in the bottle, lol, and your right about him spitting it! His whole bottle went flying out the cot, literally!:laughing: He has 2 bottles of 180mls at around 1am & then again at 4am & then as soon as he gets up. And he drinks the whole lot too! I even tried just giving him half the amount each feed but that didnt work & he screamed until i made him the rest. Will he grow out of this?? My partner seems to think i will be up for the next 3 years because bubs knows as soon as he wants a drink i jump straight to it,lol!

[Chickadee]

He may still be teething even though he doesn't have the signs of it he used to. Once my DD started on solids she learnt to swallow all the extra spit in her mouth, so would only drool at night. When she teethed after that she would only be a little clingy during the day but then have very unsettled nights for about a week. And then she'd be back to normal and I'd notice a new tooth :laughing:

That is a lot of milk to have in the night at 10 months. If you're happy to keep getting up to give it to him and he's eatting well during the day then I don't see anything wrong with it. Personally I'd be trying to wean him off one or both of the night time bottles, but that's just me. I love my sleep :)

It's not wrong to meet your bub's needs and jump to his crying. But have you noticed that he has different cries? I tend to distinguish my DD's grumbles from her cries. When she cries full on and is very upset I'll jump up from bed and go straight to her. But if she wakes in the night with grumbles and winges I'll wait, because 80% of the time she'll put herself back to sleep without needing me. That was how we ended up dropping her 2am bottle I think - she made some noise, I got up to make her bottle and by the time I got to her cot she was asleep again. So from that point on I knew she didn't need it. :yelclap:

[amymay]

hello,

i had the same trouble with my 7 month old. its only been the last 4 weeks that things have changed. he is a roller in the cot so was up between 4-6 times per night. i invested in a grobag as he would wake up unsettled and crying. he is secure and warm now and seems to be happy. when i introduced this i also started to teach him to settle himself at night.

when i feed him his bed bottle he is in his grobag, i burp him and would take him in cot and pat his bottom to sleep. amazing it worked. i did this for about 1 week i think. then i just put him in bed, say goodnight give his dummie and security blanket and walk out. he would spit the dummie and i would go back in there and give him and walk back out, this took another week. for then on i put him down with dum and blacket awake and now he puts himself to sleep each night. if he wakes for a feed between 4-6am i offer it and put down awake and he settles himself to sleep. i have noticed that if he drinks milk well during the day he will go with out a feed other wise he will wake for one. working like a dream!!!

during the day i put him to selp, soon i will teach him the same thing but i wanted him to work the nights out first.

i had him to the doc also as i thought it was allergys to millk etc but he is also happy and healthy just not happy.

i hope my story has given you some tips! :fingerscrossed:

[PinkBinkie]

Hi!!
I think your bub's is in a lovely little habit that may take a week of restless nights to break, but it'll be worth it. Unbroken sleep is fanatastic! At 10mths he can have 3-4 bottles of approx 200ml plus his 3 meals. I doubt that he is hungry, he just enjoys the one on one quiet time with you. And he'd be quiet happy to leave things as they are but how long can you go on with unbroken sleep? I think you are a beautiful mum who only wants the best for her bubs and as a first time mum it's hard to say no to your little cherub. All the best :D
Jodi

[Jo_Jo]

hi ms petrified,

I was having this problem with ej last month and i was suffering really bad with no sleep, so i just said thats it he was eating well and having booby during the day 4 to 5 times,i will just cut the night feeds out and i did it took about 5 days and some bad night s of some crying "both of us" but it worked, i get him down at 9.30 he still wakes but i dont get up to him he has a grizzle but gets himself back of to sleep, but i will admit if he wakes at 4.30 i bring him into bed with me so im alittle bit naughty but i do luv to cuddle with him in the mornings:hugs:


cheers....jo

[Bronte Pot-Pot]

When my little girl was teething I used to give in and bring her to bed with me - and like Jo_Jo I do love the morning cuddles - in fact even now when she is 15 and half months I still bring her into bed most mornings when she wakes at 7:00 just so we can all snuggle together.:kiss:

Of course it is getting harder and harder with the belly getting bigger :-) And if I bring her into the bed when she wakes at 5:30 or so and she goes back to sleep i don't get much sleep after that as she flops around so much :)

Bron

[vespertine]

Nothing 'naughty' about bringing baby to bed with you! It's natural and provides some lovely cuddly, bonding time.

[Nicolet]

My Ds did exactly the same thing at around 10 months-it was like having a newborn again. I too felt that I was running to him and considered controlled crying only because so many people advised me to. However it's not my belief to leave him to cry so I picked him up and cuddled him in our nice comfy rocking arm chair and sometimes fell asleep. Sometimes I would put our foam mattress on the floor in his room and he would feel for my face in the dark and quickly go back to sleep with me.
He did get a couple of teeth later although he hadn't shown any of his normal signs of teething. Maybe he was teething, maybe he was lonely, who knows, but it stopped as suddenly as it started after about 6 weeks.
So don't dismay, You sound like you are doing a wonderful job and just listen to your own instincts, they won't be this age for ever so enjoy the cuddles and honestly it will soon be back to blissful sleep again:sleeping:

[Nicolet]

Oh and the other thing I did was to introduce a comforter-that helped heaps. Does your little boy have one?