DS told me he needs his daddy.

[mum2littleman]

i took DS for a walk this arvo to get out of the house{he has been sick last few days} and on the way home from the park he told me he wants to go see his poppy-daddy i told him poppy isnt your daddy his just your poppy, he then told me well i need a daddy.
i told Ds he doesnt need a daddy he has a mummy and he repeated over and over i need a daddy i need a daddy.:( poor thing his still way to young for me to explain anything to him yet he just wouldnt understand.. i new the day would come when he started saying things about him but i really didnt think it would be untill he was older and i would be able to tell him anything and everything he wanted to know about him. :(

[supa_star323]

I don't have any advice or anything but just thought I would send you some :hugs:

[pegasus]

:hugs:Again no advice -but what you've been saying to him...It's okay - you have a mummy who's here all the time...

Lots of :hugs: - I'm sure this time will pass - your bubba will figure it soon enough that mummy is there and daddy is there when he is....

[tobmac]

has he heard anyone else say this??? maybe next time he does it take him to see poppy or another male person if you can just dont make a deal of it being daddy or not being daddy

[mum2littleman]

i think he might of heard my sister and i talking yesterday, she was telling me she thinks that he thinks his uncle is his dad and when ever his cousin says dad so does he - but his just copying thats all.
i feel as if i want to keep him away form anyone with a dad so he doesnt hear the word but i no i cant do that, i didnt feel bad for me but i did for him i wish life was perfect for him i wish i could give him everything and for him to never get hurt but they are all things i no that are out of my hands..
im sure it will pass there are lots of children whom have grown up fine with out a father and im sure my son will grow up happy aswell knowing he has always got a mummy that will always be there for him.

[OneBabyBoy]

I can understand how hard that would have been for you. I don't have any advice, I dread it myself :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[tobmac]

i'm sure he will grow up fine and well adjusted if he has overheard it then he might not realize what it actually means. Maybe when he is around his uncle then you should also refer to him as uncle so and so. That way he knows he is the uncle (some kids dont say aunt/uncle these days). He is also not the only child out there who does not have a certain parent around them either it be mum or dad. If oyu feel he craves more male contact then join him up to a kindy soccer team or ask if he can do stuff with just poppy like if he and poppy have a special day know and again when they do "boy" things that will also make him feel special.

[*babygirl*]

:hugs: aw honey.... how horrible! poor lukey... one day he will understand... and hopefully he WILL have his daddy around... but even if he doesnt please dont feel like you are doing wrong by him!!! you are an amazing mum who has given him every tiny bit of love he has ever ever needed! he IS a happy little boy and he loves his mummy....
one day he will ask again when he is old enough to understand... and you will be able to answer him as best you can and that is all he needs honey.

much love.:hugs::hugs::kiss:

[MummaBear03]

My dd asks if she can have a dad too, but she knows his name and that he lives a long way from us so she can't see him, then remind her of the people around her that are a big part of her life. I don't bad-mouth him to her, and keep it simple.

[Little Gorilla]

I would just keep re-enforcing the strong male figures he has around - uncles, family friends, granddads etc - tell him how special he is to have all these people around.

[Issey]

your DS is one month older than mine. My DS has refered to lots of male people as "Daddy" :confused:and I have said 'oh thats the lawn mower man' and he will repeat 'man'.

I don't know your situation but maybe you can show DS a photo? I kept a photo of DS's Dad in his room when we split up (he sees his Dad tho). I told him 'Daddy gone bye byes'. It is hard for them to understand and we just don't know what they do understand...my DS also calls my b/f 'Daddy' so instead of correcting him constantly and making him feel bad i now refer to him as 'Daddy Scott'.

:hugs: it does pull your heart strings but you need to keep the answer brief and age appropriate.:hugs:

[meeklee]

my son is nearly 7 and has what he calls a poopa/daddy. he asked at the age of 3 why he didnt have a dad and i told him that he was special because he not only had a mummy who loved him more than anything but he also had a poppa and a minna (his grandma) that loved him like he was their child. I decided that at 3 he was to young to know the truth about his sperm donor( he was abusive) so i told him that families come in all shapes and sizes. I had a book about it and it was age appropriate for 3-5. i will try and find it and tell you the name if you like.

I've never made a fuss about him not having a father or him sayin that his poppa was his daddy and my ds hasn't really made an issue about it either. when his friends ask him where his dad is he tells them that he doesnt need a dad because he's from a special family. sounds corny and stupid but the way he says it, it sounds cool.

i think i talk to much:ecomcity:.

anyway, whatever you decide to do with your son make sure you're comfortable with it. and make sure that he knows that you love him. thats the best advice i have.

and like all single parents out there who love their children you rock...:yelclap:

[mum2littleman]

he guys thanks there are sum great idea's here i really like and think im going to use that our family is specail and they can come in all shapes and sizes..
i also really like the idea of him spending a dad with poppy or uncle think i might ask them to have a day just for them.:hugs: thanks so much ladies:hugs:

- i use to say the line from lilo and stich when ever anyone asked- our family is little and broken but still good! but dont want DS to think we have a broken family even no we do so stoped saying it.

[kyiethree]

my sons father left me whem i was pregnant but not long after when he was almost one i got into a relationship with a man should i say boy he was 16 same age as me and we stayed together for 7 years had 2 boys ourselves but though we broke up from him cheating he would have all the boys every fortnight which to me not many guys would thats why though we arent together i love him for loving my son still my son knows that his got another dad too but i dont like him calling him one cause to me his never been a father to him