when to start trying again

[pippa]

Hi guys,

Just me again. I was just wondering how long to wait after a miscarriage to start trying again. The doctor at the hospital last night said to wait 1-2 cycles then if we are up to it to start trying again. Did anyone find it really nerve racking? I just hope if and when we do start to try again it doesn't take long and i don't stress to much thinking i'm going to miscarriage again.

if anyone has any advice it would be appreciated
cheers Pippa .

[mumof2girls]

I would say when you both feel ready to start again in all aspects, physically, mentally & emotionally. I don't think anyone can decide this but the 2 of you. As for the stress of thinking about another miscarriage I think all mothers go through that especially if has already happend to you, but try to think of the positives rather than the negatives and hopefully you won't stress to much! :)

I hope all goes well with you guys in the future, Good Luck!

[willsmum]

Hi Pippa,

Physically you need to wait at least one period before you try. Emotionally only you know when you are ready.

And yes, when you get pregnant again you will worry. That's normal and healthy.

Good luck - I hope it doesn't take too long.

[cath]

Hi Pippa,
I was told to wait until I had one normal period after my miscarriage before trying. I was really keen to get pregnant again and wanted to try ASAP but unfortunately my period didn't return for a bit over 8 weeks after my miscarriage and it then took us 5 months to get pregnant again which drove me quite insane. It was a horrible time in my life but I can now look back on it and know that we came through it and feel positive about the future.
Once I found out I was pregnant again I was so happy but so worried waiting for it to happen again. I had a small bleed (old,brown blood) at 10 weeks and I was sure it was happening again and burst into tears but it turned out it was nothing (probably irritation of the cervix). I am now 17 weeks and still can't quite fully relax (but I guess noone does) but just know that whatever happens I have a wonderful husband to go through it all with and I am really trying to remain positive (and mostly I feel positive) that this one will work out.
The only advice I can give you is to go with however you are feeling and not try and pretend you are okay if you're not and do whatever is right for you and makes you feel somewhat happy. I was a mess for the 5 months after my miscarriage until I got pregnant again and ended up quitting my stressful job just before I got pregnant again because I was feeling so unhappy and my job was compounding it. I decided to take a month off (we were lucky to be able to afford to do this) and focus on myself and on getting fit and healthy and calm (and to try and stop obsessing about getting pregnant). I finished work and started a great routine of walking our dogs every morning for an hour then shopping to cook a nice dinner every night and then relaxing in the afternoon and within 2 weeks I was miraculously pregnant again.
Look after yourself and I hope everything works out for you in the near future. Get lots of hugs from your partner and cry as much as you need to. My thoughts are with you.

Cath

[yeahagirl!]

Hi Pippa,
Firstly big hugs to you, I had to go back a bit to check your other posts to see what happened and when.
Have faith, you will be fine when the time comes around again, like cath it took me 5 months fall pregnant again after my miscarriage, but goodness I had alot of emotional stuff to work through and am glad I did it... and also like cath it wasnt until Id finished stressful uni for the year that I fell pregnant pretty much the 1st cycle after taking a break.

I did start to stress about how long it would take and started to think about the whole thermometer thing, but didnt need to get around to that..Im now 7months pregnant ! and it will happen for you too dont worry.

I fully understand your desire to be pregnant again asap, but I found that just having my partner reassure me that we will keep trying and that it will happen took the urgency out of it... amazing what having that one person closest to you telling you something so reassuring does.

To be honest yes I did worry alot throughout the 1st 3-4 months, I think I found it hard to full commit myself to actually being preganant until I went to that 1st scan.

ok i have really rambled... hope this will help you my dear.. good luck to you keep us posted how you are doing.

[Audrey]

Hi,

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, earlier this year, after trying to conceive for 9 months. My Dr told me that it was fine to try again straight away. We did and conceived again in the same cycle as the miscarriage. I am now 15 weeks and everything is fine. I am still sad about the baby we lost, but accept that it just wasn't meant to be. I was a bit anxious until I got past the 12 weeks mark, but I am now so excited and can't wait for the arrival of our new baby.

Keep trying, stay positive and Good luck! :)

[pippa]

Hi Audrey,

Thnkyou for your reply, at this stage I feel I want to start trying again straight away, We fell pregnant with our baby that we just lost within the first month of trying so I hope it happens that way again. So It's just a matter of waiting now until I have my first period and then hopefully we can start again. Goodluck with your pregnancy and hopefully I'll have some good news of my own to tell you all soon.

Cheers Pippa

[Tannie]

I think as long as you feel physically well - it's when you are emotionally ready more that matters. FYI - I have known several people who had m/c and got pregnant again soon after and had healthy pregnancies with healthy, happy bubs.......don't despair, there is no reason why you won't fall pg and all be perfectly fine next time.
All the best,
T