Two's company...three would be perfect

[provencein3]

I have a two year old son via IVF whom I adore. People comment on how gentle he is towards younger children and how good at sharing. It would be tragic for him not to have the opportunity of sharing life’s joys with a sibling (who can lessen the burden of all of Mum’s kisses). My eggs have stopped cooperating so we are seeking an empathetic woman, preferably under the age of 34, who marvels when she sees the interaction between her own children, to donate her eggs.

Contact me at provencein3@optusnet.com.au. Please don’t feel obligated if you simply reply to enquire.

[draught]

I am sorry - I am the wrong age (too old) and not finished having my family (in my head anyway - the body may have a different view) but I wanted to wish you luck with your search and for your family.

[provencein3]

Thanks Theresa. I hope if you choose to go for a trio that it all works out for you.

I found on another site - "Marry a Farmer" with a series of photos of these farmers in various states and their "wish list" for their ideal partner. Putting their wares out for show. Can relate completely :D

rgds

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Kim

Yes, must be an enormous undertaking to sit down and put your heart on your sleeve - I'd certainly need more than a few drinks! I know some potential donors have reservations about donating to a single woman - my second recipient was a strong, independant, financially secure single woman and there was never a doubt in my head that she wouldn't love any children to distraction, provide a wonderful life for them and make sure they had plenty of healthy male relationships. She, like you, also had a strong and stable network of friends and family around her. I guess I also admired her for going for her dream of having a baby and knowing she had to fight so much harder for everything...made me realise how much it meant to her.

So good luck Kim - they are out there, honestly.

Love

Cindy

[provencein3]

HI Cindy

Yes there are people willing to donate to a single woman/sole parent but its sometimes just another thought process for some people to get their head around.

Some of the women on AED have mentioned when they were looking ot donate they had a list of criteria for their ideal recipient however changed it further down the track.

In an ideal world we'd all love our children to have a loving mother and father but unfortunately this world is far from ideal. As my doctor said I'm in a better situation than those families that have separated and the parents are abusive to each other with the child often caught in the middle as the parents tell lies about the other to the child, and as someone else mentioned, I could be pregnant and the father leave before the baby is born. So it happens.

I did have a potential donor in December who was also a sole parent so of course that is another possibility. Unfortunately she was unable to proceed due to circumstances. C'est la vie.

[sarahstarfish]

Hey K

How is your search going? Any likely looking lovelies? There seem to be a lot of ladies looking to donate at the moment - hope one of them is yours.

Love

Cindy

[provencein3]

Hi cindy

Have to agree with "Empty arms" - they haven't exactly been knocking down my doors. Am going to start advertising offline I think and see what happens there.

[sarahstarfish]

Hey K

I wouldn't give up hope yet - most donors who commit for the long haul take a while to talk to family and get their heads around it, is a big thing to do. I guess you are in the unique position of having a genetic child already so can understand some of the issues that might crop up for a woman considering 'giving away' eggs. I spent a couple of weeks mulling over the first ad that ever really caught my eye. And for a lot of potential donors it is sometimes the very first time they have thought about actually doing egg donation.

Hang in there.

Love

Cindy

[Hannahsmumma]

I am only 22 but it has been something I have looked into for a while and would do in a second. I thought it would be a while before my husband would be ready to start a family and about 4 weeks ago he suggested I go off the pill and we start trying for a baby. That made me very happy.

Don't count me out of donating in the future though I know it is something I will definitely end up doing. I looked into the procedures to see what is required and I would have to say it is fairly straightforward thing to do.

My mums best friend went through so much heartache trying to find a donor and I had the conversation with my mum about offering my own eggs and it was my mums friend who had the reservations about accepting anything like that from me as we were so close (I thought this would be better for all concerned). I am happy to say she now has a baby who is about 2 months old. So everything worked out for her.

I am sure there are lots of young (or otherwise) people out there who are willing but may not understand what is required and may let that little bit of doubt they have stop them from enquiring further.


Good luck to all trying to make little bubbas. They will come!!:hugs:

[provencein3]

Hi Tryingtoconceive and thanks for your response and for your desires to donate in the future. Good luck also with trying to conceive your own child. I actually considered donating myself at one stage but I was already too old. I never thought of it earlier but then had never come across anyone in the situation of not being able to have a child to consider it. I guess that's a benefit for people such as myself from these forums.

I agree Cindy its not an easy decision for possible donors. Nor is it an easy decision for the potential recipients. I don't think its something that anyone rushes into. I already have a donor child and it took me a while to comes to terms with using donor eggs. I know of many women who have been unsuccessful with IVF and simply walked away from the process and from their thoughts of having a child.

I have to say though my lack of success at IVF never totally bothered me partly I guess because I'm quite good at controlling my emotions, but also I guess because I always thought I could try again. I've found looking for a donor much more devastating for a variety of reasons.

I wonder also whether there are a few "lurkers" to these forums that may be somewhat interested but not able to make the first step because they will feel pressured into doing something they're not totally happy with. That was the reason I wrote in my initial ad that ladies should not feel obligated if they simply respond to enquire. I know Cindy you suggest IP's post on these forums so that others get a good idea about them, but I think there is only so much you can say or project in these forums (other than perhaps you're someone like me that writes a lot) so if ladies really want to get to know the person they should PM them. And I'm not saying that simply for my own benefit. I'll say that for all those anxious IP's advertising.

We don't bite...nor is there any small print on the PM button that will lock you into a contract with a no exit clause. If nothing else, chatting might help clear your head even further on what's involved and whether you want to do it.

[sarahstarfish]

Hi K

Are you still looking - will bump just in case.

Love

Cindy

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Kim

How is it all going - any news?

Love

Cindy

[provencein3]

I'm going to close this thread.:wave: :wave: