dada

[claireandbailey]

my DD bailey has started to say heaps of little words like mumum nanan baba but the one that makes me upset is dadada. she says it all day long. i know that she doesnt know wat she is saying cos she doesnt really know her dad, but its really hurts me when she says it.i know i shouldnt be like this cos she's only 7 mths but its when she says it that makes me think bout her dad. i know i cant stop her saying it but when she does i always say mumumum so she'll change wat shes saying.

[Foxy]

Hi claireandbailey, I can see why this would be upsetting for you. If it makes you feel any better, at the moment "dada" is just a word to your clever DD, and she does not associate with anything or anyone. At that age, my DS said dada all the time, and muma only when upset etc, so I considered myself to be "dada" as well. :)

[claireandbailey]

i know that she doesnt associate the word with anyone in particular. it just makes me upset. i told her dad that she says it and he said why would she say that she doesnt know me. and i said well thats not my fault and he got very annoyed.

[Foxy]

Hope you don't mind me saying this but - what a jerk!!

I think you are doing the right thing saying "muma" whenever she says it, she has so many new words to learn, I'm sure the "dada" usage will decrease as she learns other exciting words. :)

[claireandbailey]

Yeh he is a Jerk!!!!! soon she;ll be saying daddy's a jerk!!!! :laughing: no i wouldn't let her say that.

[reAllytee]

First off big :hugs:
Your doing a great job & dont let him upset you ok !
Now as you know she doesnt associate "dada" with anyone or anything its just that for now its the easiest word for her to say. Soon enough she will hardly use it as she will find no-one will "praise" her for it. I know that sounds terrible but babies first words are by chance due to them trying different sounds & the more praise they get or attention from a word the more they will use it.
I had a very hard time coping with Harry saying "dada" because i felt like he didnt love me yet here i was at home all day with him doing everything for him then one day he realised i was "mama" but yep you guessed it "dada" was still his favourite but guess what when he was upset over anything or just wanted his mum he would cry out "mama" it made it oh so much more special !
So try & keep your chin up for now i know it must be hard & must hurt that little bit but soon enough it will be all about mum !
:hugs:

[polony]

You can't imagine how horrified I was when the first "word" to come out of my DD's mouth was "dada" I am a single parent too.

She now says mama! Yay!

But anyway, my thoughts were that she isn't saying "dada". She is just preparing herself to say "da ling mama"

Gotta look at it that way! :)

[the_queen]

Hi Claireandbailey :)
Remember, the first few sounds a baby makes depend on which sounds are the easiest to make, like Ally said. "Dada" just involves her moving her jaw up and down, whereas "mama" involves the lips as well. When she's saying "dada" it could well be "tata". It's just an easy sound for her to make. Most bubba's first sounds are along the lines of "dada". And babies, once they start talking, if they get acknowledged for it, their vocabulary just shoots off at a rate of knots, before you know it she'll be talking in sentences!!!


From what you said about her dad, he sounds like an idiot. Sorry, don't mean to be harsh. But you told him her first word was "dada" and his response was "why"???? :mad: If only he had a brain, and knew how special and precious those first few vocalisations are. Even though it's kind of a fluke, for her to say "dada" should be right up there with the most important moments in his life. And yet he doesn't seem to care. What a loser. I'm sorry, I really don't mean to be so harsh.

You're doing a great job, Bailey has got a fabulous mummy and before long she will be telling you that herself!! I agree with what Polony said, obviously Bailey is just working up to saying "dah-ling mummy" or "da best mama in da world" :D

[claireandbailey]

thank you everyone who replied made me feel so much better :)

[Kamaikia]

Hi I too am a single mum with a child who doesn't know his father. I was horrified when his firt word was dada but soon got over it. You really have to come to terms with the fact that it is just a word. My son is now 17 months old and daddy, dadda and dad are still his favourite words. I know its hard but you are going to have to learn to deal with all these dad things that are going to pop up.
And remember even if dad is a jerk (and he sounds like one) he is still his dad. I encourage talk about dad so that my son never feels like I took him away from his dad. I never want him to feel as though he doesn't have a dad, its just that one day he will realise that his dad made the choice. Hope that made as much sense in writing as it did in my head :)

[loopi1]

I'm also a single mum and the father of my DS has never been in the picture and at the time I was soooo upset over the fact he was saying dada. I got over it saying to myself it is a word, it's not as if I can take that word out of the english language (tho I wish I could).

Now he only says it sometimes and he usually says it to my dad. My dad lives with us and he hears me say dad when I'm talking to my father then he will repeat it. I have to correct him and say no thats poppy. He says poppy really well cause he is the only male figure in his life. Dad got quite :o when my DS was calling him dada in the shopping centre.:laughing:

[KiLLaKaZ]

Dad got quite :o when my DS was calling him dada in the shopping centre.:laughing:

my 4y.o. niece calls her mum "mummy" & grandma "mum" lol. it's GREAT when they're out shopping & she says mum & mummy.... hehehe :laughing: & grandad is "dad"
my SIL & her hubby are divorced, tho, so my niece doesn't talk about her real dad much (she has compulsory fortnightly visits, but doesn't like him! so she doesn't want to talk about him!)