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EmsMum72
23-02-2008, 05:57 PM
Just thought I'd start a thread for those of us who already have children, to talk about the impending birth of our new babies!

Are you worried about how your first born will react? Will they be jealous and turn into feral little monsters :p? Will they be helpful and want to help you SO much it drives you crazy? Will they adapt beautifully? Do you feel guilty about having another child because the child/children you already have will have to share you with their sister/brother? Do you feel sad because it will no longer be 'just the 3 of you (hubby, you and child)'? Are you thrilled to bits and can't want to see what life's like with the new baby?

All of the above are just a few things that have been going through my head leading up to the birth of this baby. What are your thoughts??

I think my daughter, who will be 4.5yrs old when this baby is born, will be jealous at first but she will be a fantastic help. I'm glad she's at an age where she can understand what's happening and will hopefully do everything I ask of her :yes: but not so much so that she has to grow up quickly. I still want her to be a kid, if that makes sense.

Having a c-section I'm obviously very worried that something will go wrong. Who will look after my babies?? I'm trying to push that right to the back of my mind though, cause everything will be fine! :thumbsup:

rynosmum
23-02-2008, 06:04 PM
I think I worry about everything.

How will I still keep such a special bond with my boy when I have another baby to love, how will he react (he is so excited at the moment and believes it is 'his' baby but I can help him with him/her:p), will this baby arrive healthy and happy, how will I cope when I'm so exhausted now?, I only have 5 months of maternity leave so how will that work?

etc etc etc :(:D

Bel1978
24-02-2008, 09:28 AM
Mel ive spoken to you a bit about this too.. i hope your DD will be fine.. at least she understands slightly..

Im more worried to tell you the truth aout a few things with sienna.. more then labour.. labour pains i can handle.. having my baby away from me for more then 6 hours i cant.. she has only left me once... when we went to DH's xmas party.. My SIL is taking her for the night but what will she think she will be 12 months old.....

I only ever wanted 1 and i was over the moon when i found out it was a girl... DH wants 2, im more then happy to be having another baby but what about my baby.... she now drags herself around the house saying "mum" "mum" and sobs on my shoulder when upset.. this has only started happening in the last few weeks.. she was always "dad" "dad"..

As i said im more worried about sienna then labour...... it might just be a pregnancy thing i hope.....

cassie0011
24-02-2008, 09:52 AM
when my little girl is born, my son will be about 19 1/2 months old so i dont think he will understand what really going on with a new baby in the house. Im not sure how he will react to the baby, im sure he will try and demand my attention at times when im dealing with the new baby. Im not sure how i will cope with a newborn and a 19 m old running around screaming about what he wants and cant tell me cause he cant communicate properly yet. im hoping that he will be ok, and not a little terror.

sistabelle
24-02-2008, 07:41 PM
I'm a little worried because I'm having a c-section & don't want to be out of action for too long. Not looking forward to it :no:
My main worry is it will upset my DS when I'm in Hospital & not at home AND hope he doesn't want to sleep in our bed when I come back.

marcy30
25-02-2008, 11:57 AM
Hi Girls

I had the same worry after my C/S with Ds #2 how my 1st sone would cope me being in hospital but he handled it ok, i have the same worry about DS32 whenim in hospital hes a real mummies boy, im having a C/S with this one also so i wont beable to pick him up like i can now but im starting to stop picking him up as much as it will make it easier wheni come out of hospital.

Marcy

Sarahg
26-02-2008, 10:11 PM
I'm a bit worried about being able to happily divide my time between everyone and still leave something for myself.

I just hope that #1 can do a little more for himself by the time #2 comes as he'll only be 16 months and I have to have a c/section. I'm just hoping he can climb into his cot by himself and can feed himself with a spoon by then.

He's pretty cruisy now, will happily play for ages by himself as long as i'm in the same room as him, let's hope it continues:fingerscrossed: