Third baby from donor cycle..

[sarahstarfish]

....fingers crossed! My IPs (Intended Parents) are almost 6 weeks pregnant from their last frozen embryo transfer from our donor cycle. So BIG fingers crossed, a wee brother or sister for their one year old twins.

Is quite surreal to think there will be three babies from my first cycle, I thought they had used up all their fortune with the twins...the Universe works in wierd and wonderful ways doesn't it. And the whole frozen embryo thing I find amazing, to suspend life until it's ready to be kick-started - just amazing.

So there you go, scan in early April so hope everything is OK. Her beta numbers (measure of pregnancy hormones) were low to begin with but have risen steadily so hope wee bub is doing well.

Love

Cindy

[bronny-jane]

wow that is exiting, just wondering if you have much contact with the twins as well as there parents.
i think donating is wonderful, but i know i couldnt do it for my own selfish reasons.
guess i just want to know if you feel any sort of conection with these children.

im not trying to offend you, just really curious:thumbsup:

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Bronny

Nah, is a normal question. Most people think that gametes donation is anonymous whereas in fact, both law and just general common sense is leading more and more donors and recipients towards known donation.

I wanted to do a known donation because I needed any lives born to know who they came from and have that other half of their genetic story accessible for them, including my children. And, for my own children, I needed to know they would have knowledge of and in the future hopefully, access to these genetic half-siblings of theirs. I approached a clinic with a list of what I was looking for in recipients, primarily people who also had the same ideals and had their heads around donor concieving their family, and met up with a couple who felt the same way. They are very open about their children's conception and have done articles etc about their twins. We talk once a week, more out of becoming friends rather than any plan or agreement - our initial agreement was that they would send an update and photo every year. Yes, met the twins when they were three days old and have seen them a few times since then. It is a very open relationship with no awkwardness - we talk openly about how the twins are like my children or like his family etc...it is after all, simple biology.

So yes, we are in contact, and yes they are very special to me in the sense that I helped create them with their parent's love, and that they are my own children's genetic half-siblings. Do I feel a sense of ownership or overwhelming maternal pull - absolultely not. We all know who their mother is and who their donor is. Having said all of that, I researched and talked to donors and recipients and joined every group I could find on the net for about six months before I felt comfortable going ahead with it....so by then I had my head around it all and knew it was something I wanted to do, but I also knew of the pitfalls and that I needed to find people who would be open and honest with their children. Unfortunately there are probably still the majority of donor conceived people who just don't know they are even donor-conceived, let alone able to find their usually anonyous donor.

So, a round about way of saying, at this stage - who knows what the future holds - our relationship is healthy and we are good friends. I look on their babies as I would any good friends, except maybe they are a little more miraculous and they share my and my children's genes.

Love

Cindy

[family_wish]

Hi Cindy

Thanks for sharing this wonderful news with us all.

:yelclap: :yelclap: :yelclap: :yelclap:

What a fantastic person you are to help make this couple's dream come true!

xoxoxox