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[sshellzp]

Hey guys, im just feeling a bot overwhelmed at the moment. Every day im so worried about going into premature labour again. I know that I shouldnt worry so much or it might cause it, im just feeling so lost and alone. I just want my baby to be healthy. What can I do to try and relax and not worry so much about it?
Shell.

[Nowhere]

HUGS

I have no advice jusat want to ffer big hugs and happy relaxed vibes, I know i wil be a basket case with my next pregnancy if we decide to get preggy again

hugs hugs hugs

Nothing that you did would cause your last bub to be premmie and like wise with this one, just try and enjoy it

[naiwen]

Oh I just know I will be the same as you if I get pregnant again!
What I did was set myself a goal, like I would say ok my goal is too get to 13 weeks without any problems and eating well, then my goal would be 23 weeks. After 23 weeks when I knew DS had a chance I would think what can I do today to help him hang on. So I would decide at least an hours rest or 8 glasses of water or whatever and just focus on that kwim.
I found that if you think omg I have to hold on for another 4 months it's overwhelming.
Hope that helped and made sense!

[QTB]

I havent had a prem baby..

but i just wanted you to know that my aunty had a 23weeker, then went on to have a 42weeker :)

its normal to be stressed and scared of having another prem bub, just talk to bub and release your fear to bub, tell bub you wont be angry if they come early but you would be really pleased if they made it to full term etc - i know it sounds crazy, but apparently it can work!

:hugs::hugs: all the best!

[peta1410]

Hi :wave:. Try and relax as much as possible. Don't do too much lifting. Just really try to do as little as possible. All things my dr told me. I was lucky that I had a great family network that helped me with my DS1 when I was pregnant with my second son and I think that really helped me to get as far along as I did. I got an extra 2 weeks out of my second pregnancy and it made such a difference. Try not to stress too much. Feet up, Oprah on, cuppa in hand! :D Good luck.

[wannabaskinnybinny]

Hey guys, im just feeling a bot overwhelmed at the moment. Every day im so worried about going into premature labour again. I know that I shouldnt worry so much or it might cause it, im just feeling so lost and alone. I just want my baby to be healthy. What can I do to try and relax and not worry so much about it?
Shell.

There is nothing you can do about it, just need to do what you can and what will be will be... Why did you have a premmie the first time? Is there a risk for this baby? I had a 31 wk premmie for my 1st but went 41 weeks for my second. I knew my first would be a premmie, I had grade 3 placenta previa, in hsp from 26 wks, and just focused on what i needed to do that day to get through but knew at the end of the day when she decided to come I just had to trust that the doctors and nurses would do what they could and they did. LOVE TGH, big thanks for my healthy now 15 mth old :cloud9: Hang in there...

[sshellzp]

Why did you have a premmie the first time? Is there a risk for this baby?

I had an infection which caused my waters to break. There is a 30% chance of it happening again they have told me.

[peta1410]

Well then that's a 70% chance you'll be fine so try to focus on that. :hugs: Good luck.

[giblet]

I think just look after yourself, take it easy and make sure you ask your OB all the questions you want about the risk of it happeningagain. ie get yourself the facts that are right for you not just general stats. having a premmie can be caused by all different things so general stats are uselss I had my baby premmie and so i understand the fear. I am trying to conceive but keep telling myself that this is a whole new situation and that furst time around has nothng to do with 2nd. do nice things for yourself, and try to focus on this moment

[Shakey]

I so know where your comming from, my last 3 pregnancies I was a paranoid wreak thinking I was going to have bub early, my second pregnancy though I made it to term, he was born 1 week early by hosp dates and right on time for my dates, i'm sure this bub of yours will make it to term as well,

[Jaileth]

:hugs::hugs:

Relax. Easier said than done, I know. Start concentrating on having a happy, healthy full term bub. One of my deeply spiritual friends is fond of saying 'thought creates the reality' Although bub gets the final say, you have a say in things too. When s/he's ready, they'll come, but you don't want a stressed out bub when s/he arrives, do you? I know I don't after how much I stressed with ds.

Try and do something that relaxes you each time you start getting stressed out - for me, it's reading a book (which is easier said than done with a toddler around! :laughing:) If you meditate, try that, or find some way to escape for things for a while so you can get your head sorted to deal with your feelings in a positive way.

Hope this helps and loads of :hugs::hugs: for you!

[sshellzp]

Thanks everyone, im feeling a lot better lately and what happens happens but I will be giving my bub lots of possitive thoughts and keeping my spirits up.
Shell.