why, why, why?

[k&Hmum]

:banghead:

3 yr old DD is having a raging tantrum while i sit here stressing and feel like walking away and never coming back. she just tries my patience so badly. i spent all morning with a very upset 5 month old DD and i finally get her to sleep as she is not well and what does big sis do? everything in her power to wake her up. Baby DD never gets any sleep around this place so she is constantly grissly and her sister never shuts up and if you tell her to be quiet she screams and gets louder and louder.

I really dont know how much longer i can cope with this. its the same thing day in day out and i cant even explain how bad it gets. Im starting to think im not the right person to be a mother to these kids. i know it sounds like im bailing out when times get tough but everything i try just makes her worse and its really doing my head in. i just want to curl up and die so i dont have to deal with this anymore.

im selfish selfish selfish i know. :banghead: :banghead:

[moonblossom]

Firstly, you are NOT selfish. We all go through this stage wether we have one or lots more. At times it feels like its going to overwhelm us, but believe me when I say, IT DOESN'T.

Hang in there, get someone to help if you can, and make some time for yourself. Even if that is childcare once or twice a week so you can regain YOU.

Best of luck :)

[Mummy-2-2]

Oh my goodness!!

That sounds like my house at times!!

Dont worry too much about it, your house sounds normal to me, and you are having a completely normal reaction too!

:hugs:

[the_queen]

:hugs: you are definately NOT selfish. You sound like a regular, normal, average, having-a-bad-day mum. I am 100% sure I will find myself in your shoes in a few months.
I agree with what MB said about getting someone to give you a hand, maybe even put 3yo DD in child care - even just two mornings a week, to give you a break. She's old enough now that she's not "little little" anymore, so she will probably love hanging out with other kids and doing structured activities.

And, don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing a wonderful job, 3 year olds are supposed to be hard work!! :hugs: :hugs: Keep your chin up, matey, this is just a phase and it will pass. Repeat that to yourself 1000 times a day :D

[slick2]

Hi there

I just thought I'd check the forums to see if there was any threads on this exact same problem. My almost 3yo is doing the exact same thing. I have been feeling so bad about constantly arguing, shouting and fighting with him. He was once a beautiful, cooperative, lovely child who has now turned into Mr Terrible Two's eat your heart out.

As I am going through this too, I can't really give you tested answers but I have been trying to work out what to do about it. I have noticed that we haven't been getting out as much as we used to since No 2 came along, so my boy probably has too much energy and is getting up to mischief. Maybe you could try getting out of the house or even child care a couple of days a week. Or even shutting your bub in her room when she is sleeping so she can't be disturbed could help.

I also find that having hubby around to help sometimes takes a bit of pressure off and stops me from :banghead: . Get your DH to spend some time with Miss 3 when he gets home to give you both some space. Hell, you had to endure the pregnancy and labour, there's no excuse for him to not help now. And lastly I just want to send you a :hugs: . Being a SAHM is not easy, and getting through each day without choking the little buggers is really hard sometimes. :smiliedance: Don't be so hard on yourself and just do the best you can.

[busylizzy]

We've all been there, don't feel alone. I haven't got any good advice but I just wanted to send you lots of :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Liz.

[meme]

well i too feel i have a 'problem child' in my toddler, and am running out of patience&strategies.

my baby is still awake and so here i am typing in the dark while feeding and feeling totally frustrated.

i know the other two are still awake too as i can hear them talking in their room. i haven't been able to read them a bedtime story because the baby has woken every time iv put her down (3 times).

its good to know im not alone in feelinf overwhelmed and annoyed.

i don't always feel like this.
:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

[bbem]

This sounds so much like our house. However, a little bit of childcare does help both the bad behaviour and your sanity. My ds, 3yo, goes to childcare twice a week. It gives me and DD, 7 months, some peaceful time to ourselves (not to mention myself when she is asleep!!) and I find DS gets to use up some energy. He enjoys the different environment and loves to play with other kids his age which is what he deperately needs. His behaviour actually gets worse if we miss a day of childcare.

When we are home and DD needs asleep, I have set up a 'routine' of if he is quieter while I get her to sleep, we will do some fun things together while she is asleep - just the 2 of us. He then feels he is getting some attention without having to put on a show for it. Easier said than done some days, but it does work. We do fun things like cutting (me) coloured paper shapes or magazine pictures and pasting. Or I get 2 buckets of water and go outside and while I clean DD's toys DS plays in the water or attempts to wash his trike or wagon.

Hope things get better soon.:fingerscrossed: