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MissSookyLaLa
16-02-2008, 13:41
Whats your method for getting your bubba to sleep?
Nick is currently getting wrapped then rocked to sleep in my arms...if he wakes up when I put him in his cot I rock the cot for a minute or so and he falls asleep...
I realise this is setting a bad habit that may be hard to break in the future, so I was wondering what all of you do to get your bubbas to sleep?
do you put them down in their cot awake, and if so, how long do you wait before going to them if they aren't happy about it???
any other ideas???
Chelle123
16-02-2008, 13:47
Bec - I've always b/fed my babies to sleep and its worked for us. I'm very lucky with Aubs that so far she is able to put herself to sleep in her bassinet after a feed (much better settler than the boys) and I wrap her once she is down.
mrsdlc2007
16-02-2008, 16:58
Charlize usually falls asleep breastfeeding aswell... Though if I lay her on her tummy on my lap and pat her on her back 9 out 10 times she will fall asleep..
Amanda:flowerz:
Depends what time of day it is, for nights, she mostly gets wrapped unless she falls asleep in the lounge room with us, then she just gets transferred to the cot. Last night I wrapped her and just put her in the cot 1/2 awake, she wouldn't sleep until she had the dummy in her mouth and a blanket against her cheek... Sometimes I rock her if I really want her to go to sleep NOW, but mostly she can nod off on her own if wrapped with a dummy...
justme77
16-02-2008, 17:37
depending on what time of the day you mean...
at the 7pm feed, Lucas has a bath, and a quick massage with some lotion, i then dress him, make a bottle, and leave him laying in the semi dark (i just have the hallway light on and door half closed) for a while, (in his basinette), after about 10 mins (i usually go for a smoke while hes doing this) i go back in and pick him up and sit down and give him his bottle. For this feed I dont talk to him or do anything overly stimulating, once he finishes his bottle, I check his nappie and then put him in the basinette and leave. Sometimes he makes some noises, but i try and leave him at least for a few mins befoe going back in. If i go back in, i try not to pick him up unless i have to.
also, he hasnt been wrapped ever. he sleeps with his hands above his head and did this on day one, so i just tuck in the sheets tightly under the mattress, and leave his arms out. despite what you hear not all babies like to be wrapped.
during the day, its pretty much the same without the bath. i always put him to sleep in the bedroom, vary rarely let him sleep in the lounge or anywhere else. I just think its good to associate the bedroom with sleeping. each to their own though. ( the bedroom is for his main sleeps, the lunchtime one and the evening one- for the others he does crash out where-ever- thats just for later on when he only has those two sleeps)
so thats it. i wouldnt worry about rocking the cot, whatever works for you. i remember sitting on the floor beside the cot patting the boys to sleep years ago. a terrible habit that took me years to break, but i was the only one suffering through it so i didnt care what people thought
punkbaby
16-02-2008, 17:42
My first self settled no fuss, she just slept as soon as she had BF i would put her to bed in her dreamy state
DS was initially put to bed asleep after a BF but then it was a bottle mind you he co slept from birth only slept in his cot occassionally
DD3 used to fall asleep on the boob and i would put her to bed then
Bubs is different, i feed her till she stops, burp her then put her in her bassinett or cot, she will just lay there looking and then suck her fingers and sleep. The only time she wont self settle is at night around 8pm, she likes to hang off me for about an hour then i will burp her and shes in bed, out to it ten minutes later
If it works for you do it, I cherished the cuddles i had with my others and sadly bubs wont let me rock her to sleep, part of me sais its a good thing shes self settling but i miss that whole holding her and rocking her to sleep :(
feline11
16-02-2008, 18:26
in the day Oliver falls asleep after breast feeds and i put him in is basinette tho he is now going off this
at night we bath him and then i feed him and when he has finished i or DH settles him for 5 mins till fast asleep then out him in his cot, during night as soon as he has finished a feed put him immediately in cot (after burping). he sometimes talks and fidgets, i leave him for awhile as he often settles himself - if he doesnt i rewrap (as usually unwrapped himself) cuddle/rock for few mins and out him down again.
he is always wrapped at night as he jerks his arms which wakes him up
Mamaduke
16-02-2008, 18:53
Has anyone else got a newborn who hates being wrapped? Jacob is 6wks old and fights and fusses if I wrap him in anything - muslin wraps are pointless, he's out of them in seconds!
I'm not going to post my method for getting him to sleep because Jacob hasn't let me in on that little secret yet! :p
Chelle123
16-02-2008, 19:01
Has anyone else got a newborn who hates being wrapped? Jacob is 6wks old and fights and fusses if I wrap him in anything - muslin wraps are pointless, he's out of them in seconds!
I'm not going to post my method for getting him to sleep because Jacob hasn't let me in on that little secret yet! :p
Carly, I wrap Aubs but keep her arms out, otherwise she's out in a flash too.
Mamaduke
16-02-2008, 19:23
Carly, I wrap Aubs but keep her arms out, otherwise she's out in a flash too.
I tried leaving his arms out as he likes them up and on each side of his head but he kicks and carries on until all of it is all loose.
punkbaby
16-02-2008, 19:25
Has anyone else got a newborn who hates being wrapped? Jacob is 6wks old and fights and fusses if I wrap him in anything - muslin wraps are pointless, he's out of them in seconds!
I'm not going to post my method for getting him to sleep because Jacob hasn't let me in on that little secret yet! :p
Indie has moments shes wierd sometimes she likes being wrapped sometimes she doesnt tends to be when shes got clothes on (not just a singlet and nappy due to hot weather) she sleeps heaps better. If shes a little moody i wrap her and shes happy, if shes moody and wrapped and i unwrap her shes happy :laughing:
Typical women cant decide what she wants already!
Chelle123
16-02-2008, 19:26
I tried leaving his arms out as he likes them up and on each side of his head but he kicks and carries on until all of it is all loose.
Have you tried elevating his matress a little? This helped all my kids.
Lillynix
16-02-2008, 20:14
Phoenix just feeds to sleep. As most of you know he's nearly permanently attatched to my boob, and he always falls asleep there, so if I need to put him down during the day, or he's going into the cot at night, I just pull him off and put him down.
During the day he's never wrapped as he's usually in my arms or in his rocker, until now he's always been wrapped of a night time in his cot, on his back, but he seems to squirm a lot and during the day he always sleeps on his side (because i've got hold of him) so tonight i'm going to try not wrapping him (he has no startle reflex) and putting him on his side to sleep, i'll get back to you on how that goes!
Becca's like her sister in the cot, squirms around everywhere, problem is she's not elevated by mattress, at the moment, she's elevated by cushions (not as pillows though) and she squirms so she's on the angle in between the cushions :rolleyes: If we ever get some $$ come in I'll be getting those things that raise one end of the cot that Sue posted in the old thread... I'm pretty sure DF threw out all the phone books coz we don't use the phone LOL I'll have a look in the linen closet later.
The way DF got her to sleep tonight was to wrap her (he was the only one who wrapped Annabelle and soon to be the only one wrapping Becca, she likes her arms up and a hand holding the dummy in...) and then he had her (big hands help LOL) in a pose grip - like in the B&W baby photos and he bobs his hands slightly, she nods off and gets put in the cot. I'm the only who has put her down awake.
During the day she can just nod off (I prefer her to be able to sleep anywhere, not just the cot coz I like to know I can take her anywhere and she will sleep) but at night she wont go to sleep without material touching her cheek/s. Annabelle was the same except she wouldn't sleep at all without the material, I ended up taking a Special K sarong everywhere with me!
If you're comfy rocking Nick to sleep, do it. I rock Becca during the day if I really want her to go to sleep...
Chelle123
16-02-2008, 20:47
V - have you tried putting the cushion under the matress?
LOL no, she sleeps better in the groove anyway LOL I just put her on the big one to get her to sleep, to make sure the milk has def settled, otherwise I wouldn't bother at all. I've got the cushion propped so it's not a big drop from edge to mattress, it runs onto it...
Whatever works!! Ha ha
Caitlin has one unsettled time after a feed and then we cuddle her to sleep or lie down with her.
The rest of the time she is usually a bit dozy after her bottle so it is wrapped and then into her bassinet. Sometimes she will wake up again within five to ten minutes because she is a little windy still but after picking her up for awhile she is straight back to sleep. I'm not sure what I am 'meant' to do but this seems to be working so far.
Chelle123
17-02-2008, 03:11
I'm not sure what I am 'meant' to do but this seems to be working so far.
Lauren - just keep doing what works for you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Contrary to what people say, they do grow out of these things and you cannot spoil a baby.
Crazy Monkey
17-02-2008, 09:04
Lucy generally has her feed and falls asleep at the boob... If she stays awake a bit, she will want a top up - fusses at the boob for a couple of minutes and then its up on the shoulder with taps on the back... couple of minutes later she's asleep... If I put her down straight she usually wakes, so I hold her for a little bit then put her down... During the day she's in her cot on her side with the blanket pulled tight so she feels secure... At night, she's wrapped and on her back in the bassinet...
As everyone else has said, do what works for you and take what others say with a grain of salt...
feline11
17-02-2008, 17:42
I get fed up of people telling me i shouldnt cuddle Oliver to sleep.
Once he is in a deep sleep i put him in his bassinet (in the daytime) on his side or stomach if i am watching him. at night i put him down after being burped in his cot. he usually falls asleep on the boob so not a prob, sometimes i have to rock him for a few mins or so and occasionally he wont settle so just rock him again or burp him and then resettle him
Crazy Monkey
18-02-2008, 08:05
I get fed up of people telling me i shouldnt cuddle Oliver to sleep.
Once he is in a deep sleep i put him in his bassinet (in the daytime) on his side or stomach if i am watching him. at night i put him down after being burped in his cot. he usually falls asleep on the boob so not a prob, sometimes i have to rock him for a few mins or so and occasionally he wont settle so just rock him again or burp him and then resettle him
Do what works Sue... If you are happy to rock/cuddle him to sleep then its the best thing for you...
DH wanted me to try the CC from about 3 months but I wasn't ready to just leave him cry... I sometimes spent an hour trying to get him to sleep... It wasn't until he was about 9-10 months that I couldn't do it anymore and it was time for him to learn... I did my our version of CC and although it took a month or so to get under control, it worked... He was such a good sleep from then on - put him in his bed, say goodnight and walk out, with 30 minute he'd be asleep...
MissSookyLaLa
18-02-2008, 11:17
thanks for your replies ladies...
i love cuddling nick to sleep so i think i might just keep doing it until i get sick of it and then deal with it then! :laughing:
Crazy Monkey
18-02-2008, 13:44
thanks for your replies ladies...
i love cuddling nick to sleep so i think i might just keep doing it until i get sick of it and then deal with it then! :laughing:
Its not that hard to break out of habit when you're ready, trying to do it before just makes things so much harder...
I was concerned by Caitlin wanting to be awake for so long after some feeds and asked the DR today about it and if it was a sleep issue. He said babies need between 11 and 18 hours sleep per day. Just found it interesting as I thought she had to be sleeping but sounds like it is ok for bubs to be awake for a significant part of the day. Think she just likes my company. :)
They do have to start being awake at some stage LOL Otherwise they would never grow up!!
When she's awake make sure she's got something to look at, something to try and grab, tummy time, some people recommend nappy free time... She's 7 weeks, she'd be interested in looking around now...
:doh: Hard to get out of the NICU eat - sleep - eat - sleep routine. I thought there must have been something wrong with her that she wouldn't settle.
Not sure about nappy free time though - she is a little miss piddle pants. She isn't too keen on her play gym though...:no:..it is such a lovely one too...so ungrateful...he he he.
MissSookyLaLa
18-02-2008, 18:16
11 hours doesnt seem like a very long time to be asleep to me!
no nappy free time here either...nick apparantly thinks its hilarious to pee as soon as i take his nappy off...he has quite the projection though! haha
Little miss piddle pants - do you have a plastic backed mat? I can't remember where I got Annabelle's from, BigW maybe??
Play gym - do you have a fish tank? A toy aquarium, pram toy, small stuffed toys? Basically anything colourful that she can work on reaching and grabbing... Becca doesn't grab yet but she swings at the play gym (Annabelle didn't like this one, but I can't find the Yellow Turd one), like her sister, she loves looking at Elmo and quite frequently has a chatter to him. There are different kinds of play gyms too, hard plastic and soft fabric...
11-18 hours makes sense, wish I'd been told that with Annabelle, I was going out of my mind that she didn't sleep during the day... She slept 14 hours at night though...
Becca's decided to sleep, eat, sleep, eat, play, sleep, play, eat, play, nap, eat, play, sleep - kinda, think that's basically our routine at the moment... May get an extra feed in, depending on her...
Play means convo and smiles with Mummy, Cuddle time with Annabelle, talk time with Daddy and play gym time... Depending on what I have to get done at the time depends what happens...
justme77
18-02-2008, 18:41
even though its good to hear what other people do, just do whatever you want to.
if cuddling or rocking baby to sleep doesnt bother you, then go for it.:yelclap:
sairpaul
18-02-2008, 19:32
Hi we wrap maiya when we put her to bed she wakes herself up other wise. Have tried if she falls asleep in our arms to put her without waking doesnt work.Usually in the night i rock for two mins put her down and hope for the best she has put herself to sleep every go so far
:hair: No matter what I do, Becca just WON'T settle tonight!! :(
Little miss piddle pants - do you have a plastic backed mat? I can't remember where I got Annabelle's from, BigW maybe??
Play gym - do you have a fish tank? A toy aquarium, pram toy, small stuffed toys? Basically anything colourful that she can work on reaching and grabbing... Becca doesn't grab yet but she swings at the play gym (Annabelle didn't like this one, but I can't find the Yellow Turd one), like her sister, she loves looking at Elmo and quite frequently has a chatter to him. There are different kinds of play gyms too, hard plastic and soft fabric...
Yep got a plastic mat - she projected over it. :o Thought only boys can do that. I have changed her change table cloth so many times today.
She has a soft play mat with things over the top and is not particularly amused by it. Do you just lie them down and let them reach for things?
She has a soft play mat with things over the top and is not particularly amused by it. Do you just lie them down and let them reach for things?
The idea of toys on the ground is moreso for tummy time I think, but them actually reaching for stuff while on their tummy will take some time... I just lay Becca under the gym and she throws her arms around... Sounds like she's about to start crying, but that's her chattering to Elmo...
Yep got a plastic mat - she projected over it. :o Thought only boys can do that.
Liam piddles down! it goes straight onto the nappy (cloth square). If you've got Little Miss Piddle Pants, I've got Little Mister Poopy Pants! He did a projectile the other day that hit MIL's hand before she jumped out of the way and it flew 1.5metres across the floor! I was sitting next to him thinking something like that would happen and almost wet myself laughing!
Oh and getting him to sleep he gets rocked if he's cranky, but can just drop off to sleep if i put him down. I'm just excited he stays in the cot because DS1 would scream half an hour after i put him down in it.
yummyyumyums
04-03-2008, 09:54
During the day Chausiku will either fall asleep on my chest while I'm burping her, or if I'm busy I can often put her back into her snuggle bed in her cot and she'll babble to herself for a while before falling to sleep.
I've had people arrive for a visit during the day to find Chausiku asleep on my chest and I get the odd comment about spoiling her, blah blah blah, but I don't listen to them. She's my baby and if I want to cuddle her I darn well will! Life is short and children grow so fast. There will come a day when she will no longer want cuddles - iykwim - so I'm going to milk this while it lasts. :yes:
At night she has her last feed at midnight, then hubby and I snuggle with her in between us in our bed for about 30mins til she's asleep and then I put her back in her snuggle bed. Hubby works up to 10-11hrs each day so his time with her is limited. Those 30mins each night are so precious, she just loves to snuggle up skin to skin. So anyone can tell me we are spoiling her, I don't care. We are so in love with our little girl and plan to continue cuddling and snuggling with her whenever we want. :p
Just try to stop us! :mad: ;)
conorexnz
02-04-2008, 13:21
He said babies need between 11 and 18 hours sleep per day. Just found it interesting as I thought she had to be sleeping but sounds like it is ok for bubs to be awake for a significant part of the day. Think she just likes my company. :)
Hey ya, interesting reading all the different methods and I like seeing that people are listening to their gut instincts and doing what works rather than what the books say (I have put Little Miss to sleep several times on her side and she loves it!)
I, too, am having trouble getting LM to sleep, she has periods where she can be awake between 3 - 5hrs each day which I thought was too much for a 2 1/2 week old girl, although 5 hrs I still believe is too much but there's only so much one can do and at the end of the day it's her that needs to shut her eyes and keep them shut.
Well, now that she's asleep I'm going to go and lie down and see if I can get a bit of shut eye too.
At the start Oscar didnt like to sleep! He would only sleep in my arms so thats what we did. He also didnt like to be wrapped but i made him get use to it :laughing:
We moved onto rocking him and putting him down just before he was asleep than we put him down and would rock the bassinett and gradually got him use to not being rocked at all. (still had some rough nights where he wants to be cuddled and roacked but they are few)
Now we are wrapping him with 1 arm out. He goes straight into his cot and we pull the music box and leave the room.
rainbowmummy22
18-07-2008, 11:02
I get fed up of people telling me i shouldnt cuddle Oliver to sleep.
So did I, I dont listen to these stupid- feed, play, sleep routines they throw at you when you get out of hospital, its absurd.
I was getting really depressed about rocking mia to sleep when she was little, then I read "helping your baby to sleep" sorry cant remember the author, its a great book, and explains how all babies personalities are different! Also recommends doing what works for you- including feeding/ rocking to sleep!
I also found with Mia once she could have a bottle in her cot she was much more settled, and would sleep on her own. Do what works for you, and what you feel is right.
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