who's name

[blissfullybonkers]

who's last name does you child have?
my dd has her fathers.:hissy:im not really happy to have it that way if he is not going to be around much or at all he is unreliable, and wouldnt be suprised if he makes all these great promises and doesnt come through.
has anyone changed it to their own surname??

[Teley]

No:no:, I think that would be really hard to do unfortunately. Only if your daughter grows up and decides to change her surname to your surname, otherwise I personally don't see that happening; your ex would never let you would her?
Luckily my break up happened before I gave birth so I just put DS down with my surname. But now some people think I don't know who the father is!:laughing:

[blissfullybonkers]

i guess its my own experience worrying me the most,:rolleyes: as i was my mothers first child and my parents split then she met my step dad so all my other siblings inc older step siblings have the same dad and surname and i dont:( im the odd one out ifykwim, we all get along really well and there is no rivalry etc,
but it was just my own personal battle i guess and i dont want dd to have to go through that if it is what ends up happening one day.

sorry if im being silly i just have a lot going on at the moment and extremely heart broken and frazzled about what will happen in the not so distant future.:crying::hissy::rain:
i probably wouldnt mind if i had more than one child as she would then have her very own sibling to have the same surname as.
anyway il shut up now.:ecomcity:

[SimplyMum]

My older sis has a dif surname to us. Same as you, she came from a dif relationship but lived with us her whole life. She never had a prob with it but I don't want DS to have a dif surname to his siblings- don't know why- just a personal choice.

[SweetSerenity]

My DS has his fathers surname (mine at the moment too as we were married).

When we get divorced I am keeping my married surname so I have the same surname as peter. I know changing his surname is out of the question and I won't even bother going down that path.

If I ever re-marry, I will have peters surname hyphinated with the new one so he is no different to any other future children.

I would LOVE to change both our surnames to my maiden name but I very much doubt my ex husband would agree to DS's being changed.

[justme77]

i guess its my own experience worrying me the most,:rolleyes: as i was my mothers first child and my parents split then she met my step dad so all my other siblings inc older step siblings have the same dad and surname and i dont:( im the odd one out ifykwim, we all get along really well and there is no rivalry etc,
but it was just my own personal battle i guess and i dont want dd to have to go through that if it is what ends up happening one day.

sorry if im being silly i just have a lot going on at the moment and extremely heart broken and frazzled about what will happen in the not so distant future.:crying::hissy::rain:
i probably wouldnt mind if i had more than one child as she would then have her very own sibling to have the same surname as.
anyway il shut up now.:ecomcity:
im the same as u. my 3 older siblings are from my mothers 1st marriage and have the same name, i was the second marriage child and had a different surname. i struggled with it my whole life also. no idea why really i wasnt treated any different etc.
my 3 boys all have the same last name (mine) for this reason.

[Miss_Vicki]

my oldest from a previous relationship has mine , youngest has her dads if we get back together an have more they will have his name ;)
been by it looks like your with the daddy of bubs to be , i think it would be best spoken to him an see what he thinks :) maybe you could have both ?

[blissfullybonkers]

Jaz's mum,
im not expecting now... dd is 1 and we are separating.:(

[OneBabyBoy]

Although we were seperated at the time DS was born (but on a rollercoaster of off and on :rolleyes:) I gave my DS my ex's surname. I tried to withdraw the birth registration 2 weeks later but it was too late. I regretted it every day after that.
My ex wouldn't consent to it being changed obviously but after many many arguments we eventually agreed to hyphenate it. So now he has both surnames (mine is first though :yelclap:).
It caused alot of problems with his family as they all took it personally (for some stupid reason).
But anyway it is done now, and I think it is a good compromise as we both created him. However if I could turn back the clock he would have just my surname.

[SmileyBJ]

As far as I have been told you can change your childs surname if you have the permission of there father? This may be wrong though?

Bub will be having my last name when born. Has always been this way and bubs dad new this unless we got married down the track.

[TyBean]

My son has his fathers signature. I backed down before he was born on my stance of "until we are married he has mine" thinking everything would change and well it didn't.

I hate the fact he has a different surname to me... and the ex will not allow me to change it to mine... so I am hyphernating it.

Although I never refer to him by his father's last name... I always just call him mine! :thumbsup:

[Sammilee]

... and I think it is a good compromise as we both created him...

:iagree: Even though I personally don't have any first-hand experience with this, I think a great compromise is the hyphenated version, you both created your DD so that's a good compromise :yes:.

[blissfullybonkers]

thanks for the input ladies i just know he would go 'pffft ha ha ha ha get f****d' if i even tried to float the idea.
when i was little i had my mums surname at school only, but dads on my birth certificate.
he he my mum was sneaky.

[mum2littleman]

DS has my last name

[MummaBear03]

My DD has my last name. I wasn't seeing her father and he would have nothing to do with us ever, that was clear from the start. She got his eyes but everything else (including surname) is mine.

[Freya]

My son has my last name, wouldn't have it any other way in our situation.

[Mum2Bug]

Bug has her fathers surname and Im happy with that.