Need some advice...

[proud_mama]

Hello,

I have lately been wanting to go back to work so badly lately and have even concidered putting my kids into daycare for just one day a week. My DS has just started daycare today and he is 2, but my DD is only 4 months old and i am feeling a little uneasy about putting her in daycare my DP doesnt want me to go back to work but i am desperate to go back to work and i figgure 1 day a week couldn't hurt...or could it?

Does anyone else do this? is it wrong to want to put my kids in daycare so i can work one day a week? i really miss working and i haven't worked since i was in my last month of pregnancy with DS so almost 2 and a half years ago.

[SimplyMum]

Are you kidding? I think you're amazing for lasting this long!
When I was home with DS I didn't feel like I was 'acheiving' anything. Not that I wasn't but this is how I felt. When I'm at work- I feel like an 'adult' and that I also am still a person and not just a mummy.

[Boymum]

Hi ProudMama,

I go through times where I think about working 2 days a week and putting my then 6 month old (7 months tomorrow she is) into Daycare where her 2 year old brother goes.

I have days where it all just gets on top of me, the continual winging or crying 'Mummy, Mummy', the pooey nappies, the vomit, the mess etc...and I think I need to go to work to be 'me' again and feel I can still interact with other Adults who might not even have kids.

Then I have days where I wouldn't want to miss a thing and feel so very luck to be able to be at home with my bubbies while they are so young. I beat myself up a bit some days but in the end I am happy to stay at home for at least another year for my girl and until DS starts Kindergarten/Pre-School.

I do understand where you are coming from and I dont' see anything wrong with it at all, one day a week might make you feel what you need.

Good luck with your decision, you just do what's right for you :)

[2s'nuff]

Going to work saves my sanity. After DD1 I returned to full time work when she was 5.5 months old. With DD2 I lasted 3.5 months before going back 3 days a week. Both kids have been going to daycare since that early age. I'm going back to full time work soon and looking forward to spending quality time with the kids on the weekend. I find I don't enjoy them as much, and don't do the special things when I'm dealing with them 24/7.

Good luck,
Lisa

[proud_mama]

Oh thank you, thank you, thank you! you don't how could it is to hear that i am normal feeling like this :D

I swear i'm just at my wits end because i'm stuck in a town where i don't know anyone and all my friends live 2-3 hrs away and i don't have my licence yet cause i can't afford the driving lessons and DP is still on his p's :hair: and the money i get from working can go towards driving lessons...i NEED adult interaction and i am way too relient on DP for that because i dont get it but when he gets home from work he just wants time to himself which i definately understand but i'm getting to the point where i'm thinking "where's MY me-time?" i seriously don't know how i've lasted for this long.

I have put a few resume's in at a few of the local shops so :fingerscrossed:, i figgure a couple of hrs a week can't hurt too much.