Feeling alone

[mum2four]

Just got to get this out because i'm feeling so down lately and don't really have anyone to talk to :crying:

We moved to a new town in July last year due to a job transfer for DH, I have no friends here and having 4 kids don't have the time or energy to go out and make them! I have only 1 friend an hour away and only see her when I go for my OB appointments.
My sister is an hour away too but we had a falling out just before we moved here and although I tried to get things back on track she just isn't interested, she doesn't even know about my new pgcy.
Last week we found out this baby is high risk and i'm hurting with no-one to really talk to about it, my other close friends live interstate and although I met a few nice people while I was still working here, they all have their own lives and thier own groups of friends.
I just don't know where to turn to for support, I have no support network, no-one to just go have a cuppa with on my child free days, no-one to just let it all out to.
DH knows what i'm going through, but he likes to handle things differently, he is just on the thinking positive train of though and doesn't want to even go there on the negatives, plus he's always at work and when he's at home, we don't talk much, he's either on the PS2 or just isn't really in the talkative mood because he's too tired, but them gets cranky with me when I won't open up to him! No wonder, when I told him this bub is high risk as our last son was and that we would have to do the brisbane trips again, all he could say was 'great, more trips to brisbane' like that was all he cared about, not that the baby might be in danger.

I try to keep my spirits up for the kids sake, but it's really hard sometimes and I find myself being very short with them. They know bub has daddy's blood and that my blood doesn't like that so the baby might get sick, so they understand a little when i'm upset, but I can't expect them to understand properly. I am thankful i have them though, especially my youngest at the moment because looking at him (had the same problems with his pgcy) reminds me how worth all this heartache is, he is just the cutest little boy and always puts a smile on my face!

I just wish I had adult friends to talk to, I know no-one else could really understand my pgcy problems, but just getting out and acting like a normal person for once would help!

Anyway sorry for the :ecomcity: could probably go on all night as I can't sleep anyway, but will cut it off here ;)

Thanks for listening/reading if you got this far :)

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

:hugs: to you hope you feel better soon and get to know a few people around your area.I know what its like to feel i a bit down i am there now we all go through and it only makes us stronger:kiss:

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Ohhhh you poor thing.....

I also go through the lonley thing on a daily basis......where abouts are you? Im in brisbane so if your around the area sometime you could pop in and say Hi!!

I have a realy good listening ear- or so Ive been told:rolleyes:

Try not to be upset or depressed.......easier said than done I know. My DP is the same as yours- he works 2 jobs so I berely see him and when I do hes usualy really tired so we dont talk much:thumbsdown:

cheer up!!:hugs:

[mum2four]

Thanks ladies.

Adele, I live near Warwick, thanks for the offer :)

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Hi mum2four do u live in Perth cause if u do im not far from you im in Balga:thumbsup:

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Sorry just realised you were in Qld we have a area called warwick here in perth hehe:laughing:

[mum2four]

Hi Jaclyn, No I'm near Warwick QLD, BTW your DS is due on my birthday :thumbsup:

[mum2four]

And now just to make me a bit more depressed, my yougest is very ill today, temp of 39, vomiting and very lethargic, can't even get my normally happy boy to crack the slightest smile :crying: He isn't drinking (just a few tiny sips here and there) and I get really upset when my kids aren't well.
You know what would have nice? Well DH had a later start tonight which also means a later finish, it would have been really nice if he had said, I'm calling in sick to stay home and help you with Dustyn, he knows i'm depressed as it is, saw me in tears last night and can see i'm no better today, but still off he goes to work :banghead: It's not like he doesn't have time owing to him, they already owe him 16 days off with pay for days he has worked when it was his day off, he also has 10 years worth of sick leave up his sleeve and about 12wks of holidays owing too! What's 1 friggin day to help me out!
I know i'm whinging, but heck, he goes to work everyday and just forgets about what's going on for me, when he asks what's wrong and I tell him it goes in one ear and out through the other. i told him days agao I was upset about not knowing when I would have my special scans and was worried as I'd had three already with dustyn by the time of my next OB appointment, when I told him that again this morning when he asked why I was ringing my OB, he said, well why didn't you tell me earlier :banghead: Then he says again before leaving, what's wrong, I just said I already told you what's wrong!
Grrrrr Men! Stick their darn heads in the sand when things/situations don't suit them!

[PinkBinkie]

Hi MUM2FOUR
So sorry to hear you're having a rough time. When is your OB appt? Is it in Brisbane? Maybe your hubby could seriously consider taking time off over EASTER so you could all get out of the house and do fun stuff as a family, like go camping (maybe not everyone's idea of fun!!). I used to live in Kingaroy, then in Toowoomba and now at the Gold Coast so I too have had days where I've been VERY lonely. But with only one child, I'm sure it's much easier for me to get out and about! I just hope your hubby will seriously consider having time off, even if he can give you a couple of days of "me" time. VERY IMPORTANT, especially as you are pregnant and overwhelmed!! PM me if you want to chat.
Kind wishes:smiliedance:
Jodi

[mum2four]

Hi Jodi,
My next OB appointment is on the 30th of this month in Toowoomba, DH won't even take the day off to come with me, he comes with me if it's on his one weekday a fortnight off, but won't actually take time off for it :thumbsdown: He's going to have to soon though when I have to go to brisbane to the Mater for special monitoring because he know's I won't go on my own because I would get lost....lol....Of course i'll do my best to make appointments on his days off, but that isn't always possible (like with my next OB appointment), sometimes that day just isn't available!

He can't take time off over easter, only the public holidays where work is actually closed :( He will be taking 6 weeks (or more if baby is born too early) off when bub is born, he knows better than to argue that one, he was only going to take 4 but his boss said 6 since he has so many holidays owing, we plan to go down to NSW to have a triple christening in the first week of August, but that won't exactly be a break for me because he'll sit there and expect his family to entertain the kids while he watches pay tv, I end up cranky because I don't expect his family to do everything for the kids, it's his turn when he's on holidays, I need a break too, but I end up stepping in and doing everything for them.

I think he just thinks because i'm home that I do nothing all day, I run my business from home as well as looking after the young ones to save us money, the days he's home he can't beleive just how busy they keep me and actually says 'are they like this all the time' and i'm like yeah, what do you think I spend my days doing and why do you think the house is always a mess when you get home! Doesn't matter how many times I clean up, only takes half an hour to look like a cyclone just hit it!

The 2 days a week they are in day care is spent catching up on paperwork and catching up on sleep, not watching tv and playing the playstation for me!

Argh I know I sound like it's just a big whinge about DH, but seeing as though he's my only adult contact, a bit of compasion and understanding wouldn't go astray IYKWIM

[digbysmum]

Hiya, my name is Erin and I live in Toowoomba. I hve one child (little boy Digby 15 months). I can't possibly know exactly how you are feeling with 4 and one on the way, however I do get down too-feeling alone is a terrible feeling! I am having twins in october and am starting to freak out about dealing with two screaming babies and a rambunctious toddler by myself ( hubby works from about 6 inthe morning till about 5 in the arvo). We are always happy for visitors though and love car trips so if you are around would love to meet.

Hope you are having a better day and not too stressed!

erin