what now

[blissfullybonkers]

well it looks like im becoming a single mum:(, i have come to the conclusion that nothing will change him anymore, i have tried so so hard and i just get it thrown back in my face.
im tired of the verbal and emotional abuse and the controlling:thumbsdown: i cant live like this:no:he is selfish and irresponsible he has changed so much from the man i met. we had so many plans, we were meant to be married soon but he called that off, i wanted my children to be close and their name and now who knows when il have another, i feel so sad i didnt think this would be how my life would play out,but sadly
im done.:rain:

im wondering what i can do now, i can stay at home for now(our house we bought not long ago) cos he is away for work,so i have some time to figure it out, but i want my options for what is on offer out there for a single mum. can anyone offer any tips??
im a bit scared about all this:eek:we have a house and a personal loan plus alot of assets too what happens there, should i start looking for a place to live, what kind of entitlements will i get etc.....

oh i guess i should change my sig soon hey....

[blissfullybonkers]

thanks bronnygrace il look into legal aid today.

[SmileyBJ]

Hey I just wanted to send some hugs of support your way. :hugs:

& know that you are not alone, things will be okey whatever happens... There are plenty of options out there, just do as much research as possible.

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[blissfullybonkers]

well i spoke to legal aid and the lady was really helpful she thinks maybe i should get a d.v.o so he has to move out and not force me out.
she also said legal aid dont help defacto that own a house when separating cos its state law but can help married that own a house cos its federal law weird....

she also said from what i told her that he sound like an emotional and verbal abuser which i already figured and also that he has controlling issues-eg he stopped putting his pay in our joint a/c so i can only have what he gives me etc.

she also said to contact dep. of housing and centrelink and even lifeline if i need some counselling, she was so nice. il be calling them back next week to book appointments to figure out custody i so dont want a judge deciding my daughters life! but as he is working fifo i doubt she will get to see him much as she hardly does now.
i did nt want this to happen im so sad,i still love him and dd loves her daddy so much but i dont want her to grow up thinking domestic violence is normal i just wish he didnt become this person.

[Lollie]

Good luck. It's a hard transition to make I know but you have lots of online support around you. My husband and I separated a month ago after almost 8 years. The only tips I have is : don't be too proud to ask for help and take it one step at a time.