Anyone been told they should not get pregnant?

[naiwen]

Hello all,
I was just wondering if anyone has been in the same situation as me. I was lucky to fall pregnant easily with my angel Edward but unfortunatly I became very ill with Eclampsia and HELLP syndrome and Edward had to be delivered at 30 weeks.
My obstetritian has told me that I should not allow myself to get pregnant again as the mortality risk would be too high for me and for any potential baby. :(
My son has some special medical needs and requires 24/7 care so I was not considering a pregnancy soon anyway but now I just feel so sad to think that my dream of having more children may never happen.:gloomy:
Has this happened to anyone else where they have been told that they can have children but shouldnt?

[ziggyzena]

:hugs:Oh sweetie, I have never been told that! But i have been told i will have trouble falling pregnant!!!

That must of been sooo scary for you:hugs:I am not too sure what eclampsia and hellp syndrone is either....

Sorry i cant help you,I just wanted to give you big hugsxxx:hugs:

I hope there is someone on here that may be albe to give you advice!!

[Tam-I-Am]

I would personally be seeking a 2nd opinion on that. I don't know about with HELLP syndrome - but I do know that your chances of getting eclampsia again with the same father are MUCH reduced (almost to nothing)....

I know HELLP syndrome is very very serious indeed - but I also know that a lot of people do carry almost to term with it....

So, like I said - I would be seeking a 2nd opinion on that, if I were you :hugs:

[naiwen]

Thanks Tam I am,
I have heard that too and have thought about getting a second opinion, he said I have about a 1 in 10 chance of not surviving the next pregnancy. Which is a scary thought!
I suppose I tend to put a lot of faith in Drs and what they say, I am hoping he will be proved wrong though.

[secondtimearound2]

I would personally be seeking a 2nd opinion on that. I don't know about with HELLP syndrome - but I do know that your chances of getting eclampsia again with the same father are MUCH reduced (almost to nothing)....

I know HELLP syndrome is very very serious indeed - but I also know that a lot of people do carry almost to term with it....

So, like I said - I would be seeking a 2nd opinion on that, if I were you :hugs:

:iagree: please get a second and even a third opinion. Remember this is the advise of only 1 Dr...don't take the advise as gospel. Lots of :hugs: for you.

[Kewe]

:iagree: definatly go and get a second opinion, I too have heard that your less likey to get pre eclampsia in subsequent(sp) pregnancies, but I dont' know much about HELLP syndrome

i'm kinda in a similar boat to you, we've decided there will be no more babies for us, not because there is a risk to me, but for my babies, too much of a risk to loose yet another,

[mum1986]

i was told not to have number 2. i had a severe kidney infection with ds, that returned in pregnancy 2. i also had severe pre-eclampsia with ds. i did have the pre-eclampsia return with pregnancy 2 but that is rare. can you speak to an ob/gyn, that specialises in high risk pregnancy's. if you will be considering another anytime soon it may be worth seeking a few opinions.
i was told not to have anymore, now my dd is 8 months old and well worth the problems i went through.

[naiwen]

i was told not to have number 2. i had a severe kidney infection with ds, that returned in pregnancy 2. i also had severe pre-eclampsia with ds. i did have the pre-eclampsia return with pregnancy 2 but that is rare. can you speak to an ob/gyn, that specialises in high risk pregnancy's. if you will be considering another anytime soon it may be worth seeking a few opinions.
i was told not to have anymore, now my dd is 8 months old and well worth the problems i went through.

Thankyou for that it's great to know that it is possible and that Drs are not always right!

[naiwen]

TrulyBlessed you are amazing you have been through so much and I totally understnad your decision. Thats one of the things that scares me is my risk of having another prem and maybe this one will be to little to make it kwim.
Thankyou all so much for your replies and support.
As ever buhub is a comfort.

[salt water]

I was advised 12 mths ago not to fall pregnant but the bad stuff didn't end up happening as horribly as predicted (sorry, deliberately being obtuse there) and I fell pregnant while fully breastfeeding my then 4/5 mth old baby so baby no4 was meant to be :flowerz:

[neostudded]

:hugs: sorry to hear, whatever you choose to do is up to you though.I dont think I could handle being told I 'cant'/'shouldnt' have any more children :(...Id would be trying to get a 2nd opinion.

[naiwen]

Thats it Neostudded I hate being told what to do! But I dont want to be selfish and leave by baby boy without his mummy kwim.

[sloaney]

Naiwen PLEASE get a few more opinions.

Don't make a massive decision regarding the size of your family without doing as much research as possible.

What if you went and got your tubes tied just to be safe and then was told by another doctor you could have tried to conceive?

Inform yourself thoroughly, then decide.

Big :hugs:

[neostudded]

Yeah my first thoughs was he should have said "if you get pregnant their would be risks involved" or something like that.

WHen my mother had her 5th baby the hospi staff were really nasty about it and said that she isnt allowed to have another baby.My mum fell pregnant by accident and she was so stressed about telling he hospital...They actually lectured her when they saw her!! :thumbsdown: she had another baby after that and they were VERY persistant with talking her into getting her tubes tyed..They pretty much said they would refuse doing the c/sect unless she signed the paper saying she would get her tubes tyed...VERY poor treatment IMO and they should be way more compasionate.:no::thumbsdown:

I understand about the risk of your little man loosing his mummy...What a tough call! :(

But then not ever having another baby is so sad...

Please just get a 2nd or even 3rd or more opinion/s.Surley something can be done :fingerscrossed:

[andie_pandie]

Hi there, I too would be getting a second opinion. I had pre-eclampsia at 41wks with my first child.

Then I had it from 22wks with my second child (unusual as same father), I did spend the rest of the pregnancy on bed rest and a lot of time in the hospital.

Anyway, I then developed Hashimotos (non existent thyroid) and got told that I would never be able to have any more particularly as I had pre eclampsia twice and not only that it would be 0-3% chance that I would ever fall again.

Well I did, 7yrs later and got told that I would probably lose bubs before 3mths. Anyway he stayed put, and I was monitored weekly at the hospital for growth and blood flow from 19wks and he was born absolutely perfect.

Go the second opinion, I now have 3 beautiful boys when I was lucky to have even one. It is definately very unusual to get it again, and they will monitor you. Also google a pre-eclampsia site and look at other mothers experiences. Don't give up your dream without getting a professional opinion.

[neostudded]

Sloaney, I completely agree :) :thumbsup:
Naiwen PLEASE get a few more opinions.
...Or maybe, Alot more opinions!! :yes:

[salt water]

[They actually lectured her when they saw her!! :thumbsdown: she had another baby after that and they were VERY persistant with talking her into getting her tubes tyed..They pretty much said they would refuse doing the c/sect unless she signed the paper saying she would get her tubes tyed...

But why :confused: I don't understand :confused: I'm older than your Mum and I'm pretty sure my hospital would be delighted if I turned up again....and again :D

[neostudded]

because she had a few medical problems that caused major discomfort during her pregnancies and did something to her veins.

She was only 35 with her last baby, so it wasnt her age.

[leenaomi]

I also got pre-eclampsia in my second pregnancy with the same partner. I was also told that it is very rare to get it again.......Can't be too rare, can it???

Both of my babies were delivered at 36 weeks and both spent time in the special care nursery to have some help with feeding. If fact, DS is still there now.

We only plan to have 2 kids anyway but the paediatrician looking after my son said "I wouldn't rush out and have another premmie baby, if I were you." He has a very warped sense of humour and I took it in that context, but I might have felt differently if we planned to have more kids.

Like everyone has said, get more opinions and make sure your decision either way is very well-informed. I personally couldn't go through the stress of having pregnancy complications and a premmie baby in hospital again.

[angel_one]

naiwen - get that 2nd,3rd ... opinion!!

and i know how you feel about the being told not to have any more kids!, when we were in hospital - "trying" to give birth to ds3, the time had finally come, that he had to come out - via c-sect - and i over heard my ob (who had pulled my dh aside) asking him "your not having any more kids are you?? - cause if we do this c-sect (classical) then she not gonna be able to have anymore" - im like sitting in my room thinking what the hell, how about asking the woman whose body your about to cut up!!!

thankfully we avoided that type of section!, but our next biggest hurdle has been doctors and midwifes telling me that i have 3 kids, dont risk having another one (chances of preemie are rather high).

but as of april we will be letting nature take its course! - if we are ment to be pg again we will be!! lol
- i just need to make sure that plug keeping bubs in stays put for humm lets see - 40 weeks!!!!

none of this 30 something week stuff! (if only my body would listen to me :cloud9: