How long do you leave it (TMI)

[springbride]

How long do you leave DH/DF's umm baby juice in after BD?

I try to leave it in for a bit, but I hate the 'Wet, Icky':o feeling.

[mumx3littlies]

Um we just went about our business as usual afterwards:yes: Didnt stay laying down so it doesnt drip out or whateva. When the man ejaculates it pushes the sperm high up inside you anyways to where it needs to be. We fell preggers 1st month, 2nd month and 1st month with our 3 bubs;) HTH

[mila]

mum3 is right, there is probably actually no need to ly down as the baby juice reached high up even though obviously some comes out (YUK!!!).

in saying that , when we were trying for our first i took to doing all sorts of strange things like putting my legs in the air like a cockroach or even standing on my head!!! it was quite funny actually and we had a good laugh. and most importantly we got preg . i dont think it was from standing on my head though, just all the BD!!!

we are currently TTC #2 and every now and then i feel the need to tip myself upside down just for the hell of it. its so liberating!!!! hope i get :bfp: soon!!!


good luck to you too!!!:babydust2:

[mila]

so actually the answer for me is only about 5 mins, cause i to hate that ikky feeling!!

[Nomsie]

lmao... just imagining the looks dp would give me if I started doing headstands or catwheels after bd'ing! :laughing:

[DivinelySophistimicated]

I always lay a towel down and when DP has "finished" he jumps up and i pull the towel up to hold it in lol. Then I get a pillow to put under my bum so it tilts my pelvis, then i just kinda bring my knees up and lay like that for 5-10mins.

Haha it feels wierd saying all that!

[baylismum]

lmao
can you imagine having a conversation about this irl?!!?
imagine overhearing something like that :laughing:

but to answer your question, i lay there for 5-10 mins..thats all i can handle! ;)

[Jelly Baby]

I don't bother about the lying down or tilting but I do try my hardest not to cough! :laughing:

YUKKO!!!!

[Craftymum]

We tend to always BD when we go to bed...

LOl its the only time we get together alone after little one has gone to sleep!

So that means I dont move till the morning.... I too dont like the icky feeling! but when you stay lying flat I dont get it....

[QTB]

we spent 2 yrs ttc DS and 19mths ttc this bub

when you have been trying that long, you try anything and everything :D

i would put pillows under my bum and lie there for minimum 30mins afterwards... yep, its horrible stuff, i hate that wet sticky gross feeling too, but its worth it :D

[kittykatz]

I do pretty much exactly what Kirby does. I have a retroverted uterus and that can sometimes make it a bit more of a difficult journey, so i try to help it on its way.

We nearly always BD at bedtime, so i lay down all night, but on the times we are going out i aim for 20 - 30mins before getting up.

[giveitago]

I do pretty much exactly what Kirby does. I have a retroverted uterus and that can sometimes make it a bit more of a difficult journey, so i try to help it on its way.



Does that mean it tilts forward or backwards?

My mum had that I think and she had difficulty TTC #2.

[kittykatz]

ummm, i have to think about that, the opposite of the right way? LOL. 99% of the time it shouldn't cause conception issues, but i seem to always be the exception....

Hang on i need google


Retroverted uterus


The vagina isn’t positioned vertically within the pelvis - it is angled towards the lower back. In most women, the uterus is tipped forward so that it lies over the bladder, with the top (fundus) towards the abdominal wall. Another normal variation found in some women is the upright uterus, where the fundus is straight up.

About one quarter of women have a retroverted uterus. This means the uterus is tipped backwards so that its fundus is aimed toward the rectum. While a retroverted uterus doesn’t cause problems in most cases, some women experience symptoms including painful sex. Other names for retroverted uterus include tipped uterus, retroflexed uterus and uterine retrodisplacement.

Symptoms
Generally, a retroverted uterus does not cause any problems. If problems do occur, it will probably be because the woman has an associated disorder like endometriosis. A disorder like this could cause the following symptoms:
Painful sexual intercourse
The woman-on-top position during sex usually causes the most discomfort
Period pain (particularly if the retroversion is associated with endometriosis)A range of causes
Some of the causes of a retroverted uterus include:
Natural variation - generally, the uterus moves into a forward tilt as the woman matures. Sometimes, this doesn’t happen and the uterus remains tipped backwards.
Adhesions - an adhesion is a band of scar tissue that joins two (usually) separate anatomic surfaces together. Pelvic surgery can cause adhesions to form, which can then pull the uterus into a retroverted position.
Endometriosis - the endometrium is the lining of the uterus. Endometriosis is the growth of endometrial cells outside the uterus. These cells can cause retroversion by ‘gluing’ the uterus to other pelvic structures.
Fibroids - these small, non-cancerous lumps can make the uterus susceptible to tipping backwards.
Pregnancy - the uterus is held in place by bands of connective tissue called ligaments. Pregnancy can overstretch these ligaments and allow the uterus to tip backwards. In most cases, the uterus returns to its normal forward position after childbirth - but sometimes it doesn’t.Sexual problems
In most cases of retroverted uterus, the ovaries and fallopian tubes are tipped backwards too. This means that all of these structures can be ‘butted’ by the head of the penis during intercourse. This is known as ‘collision dyspareunia’. The woman-on-top position usually causes the most pain. It is possible for vigorous sex in this position to injure or tear the ligaments surrounding the uterus.

Fertility issues
It is thought that a retroverted uterus has no bearing on a woman’s fertility.

Retroverted uterus and pregnancy
In most cases, a retroverted uterus doesn’t interfere with pregnancy. After the first trimester, the expanding uterus lifts out of the pelvis and, for the remainder of the pregnancy, assumes the typical forward-tipped position. In a small percentage of cases, the growing uterus is ‘snagged’ on pelvic bone (usually the sacrum). This condition is known as ‘incarcerated uterus’. The symptoms usually occur somewhere between weeks 12 and 14, and can include pain and difficulties passing urine.

Diagnosis methods
A retroverted uterus is diagnosed by routine pelvic examination. Sometimes, a woman may discover that she has a retroverted uterus during a Pap test. If you are experiencing symptoms such as painful sex, the first action taken by your doctor may include a range of tests to find out if other conditions are causing your retroverted uterus, such as endometriosis or fibroids.

Treatment options
If a retroverted uterus is causing problems, treatment options can include:
Treatment for the underlying condition - such as hormone therapy for endometriosis.
Exercises - if movement of the uterus isn’t hindered by endometriosis or fibroids, and if the doctor can manually reposition the uterus during the pelvic examination, exercises may help. However, the medical profession is divided over whether or not pelvic exercises are worthwhile as a long term solution - in many cases, the uterus simply tips backwards again.
Pessary - a small silicone or plastic device can be placed either temporarily or permanently to help prop the uterus into a forward lean. However, pessaries have been linked with increased risk of infection and inflammation. Another drawback is that sexual intercourse is still painful for the woman, and the pessary may cause discomfort for her partner too.
Surgery - using laparoscopic (‘keyhole’) surgery techniques, the uterus can be repositioned so that it sits over the bladder. This operation is relatively straightforward and usually successful. In some cases, the surgical removal of the uterus (hysterectomy) may be considered.
Treatment options for incarcerated uterus - includes hospitalisation, the insertion of a urinary catheter to empty the bladder, and a series of exercises (such as pelvic rocking) to help free the uterus.

[giveitago]

Wow, you learn something new everyday.

And I have a bad feeling that I have internal ultrasounds instead of external for the same reason. Will have to check that with mum.

And although mum did have trouble TTC # 2, she fell very quickly with # 1.

[kittykatz]

Mine was discovered with a pap smear, the Dr kept saying "your cervix keeps hiding". Then i eventually changed Dr's and she gave me a more informative explanation.

[giveitago]

'your cervix keeps hiding'

Yeah I wouldn't accept that as a diagnostic result either

[MellyMumma]

Hi

I read somewhere that it takes about 12 mins for the sperm to actually swim through the cervix.

Also it takes 6 or 7 hours for all the extras to come out down there.

I usually do it at night so I can lay there for the night. If I get it at any other time I lay there for about 20 mins.

Hope i've helped - goodluck.

[Nomsie]

Lol I do the same as Kirby pretty much too... DP gets up and walks away lol unless we are going to sleep, but I am left there with a towel for company! I can only handle staying like that for 5 minutes or so.... :laughing:

I prefer to do it just before bed, I feel I have helped it more along the way.. don't know if it's true or not, it just satisfies my concerns I guess :)

[lovebeingamum!]

... after reading this, I'm thinking that we must be doing something wrong!! - I tend to 'leak' for a day (maybe day and half) :eek: :eek: (sorry TMI)

-doesnt anyone else??

Even after laying down all night!!

[springbride]

Thanks for all the gr8 advice and umm tips..not sure I can stand on my head or do cart wheels though:laughing:.

You girls are gr8 and here is some :babydust2::babydust2::flowerz:

[Mummy to Mason]

LOL this is a funny thread :laughing:

*apparently* if the sperm don't make it through the cervix within 20 mins then they die (but can live for days once they get up in there). So I usually lay for at least 20 mins. Even if we BD at bed time, I can't handle not getting up and at least going to the toilet before I go to sleep.

And don't elevate your bum too much because it can make the sperm pool around the cervix and not make it through.

Hehe like Baylismum said, imagine talking about this in real life with people!! :eek:

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

I don't lay there at all,i can't handle it its grose :eek: i sometimes lay/sit for 5 mins with a towel but it usually spills out straight away.

I have a retroverted uterous it was found when the doc was trying to put the mirena in,she couldn't find my cervix.I had trouble tt#1 but not #2 but #3 is proving rather difficult too.I also have PCOS.