How did you cope?

[MissBrightside]

Just wondering how you coped when your kids had their fisrt sleep over at daddys house. I am an absolute mess. I havent stopped crying since I left them there.

[tyler's mum]

:hugs: :hugs: to you,, its hard to cope when your bub is having a stay over,,, its not the same but every sat nite tyler stays at my mum and dads,,, for the frist few weeks i was a mess,,, but as much as i miss her and still get upset when she is not home it does get better and you will learn to have a good time and the break is great:thumbsup:

[MissBrightside]

I hope it will get easier, but I dont have anyone to do anything with when they arent here. Im still trying to get over losing my relationship and Im struggling to come to terms with everything. Im so lost.

[tyler's mum]

dont you have any friends near you??? maybe you need to get some help so you can move on from this??? sorry i dont have any good advice for you but i can understand how you are feeling and trust me the nights your kids are there it will get better even if you have a nice bath, watch a movie read a book or whatever you like to do

[MissBrightside]

nope no friends lost em all when I was with my ex. My world was him. Now I feel like I have nothing. I know I'll see him for the rest of my life which also makes it hard cos after 1 month he seems so happy with the split and has moved on so easy. Im still here trying to pick up the pieces of whats left behind. Which isnt much.

[tyler's mum]

sorry to hear you are having such a hard time,,, is there anyway you could try to get in touch with your old friends again??? do you have any family support???

[MissBrightside]

Yeah I have family but I dont think theyd understand iykwim and I dont want to burden them with my problems. I dont know how to ask for help and I have no self esteem I feel so empty. I just dont know where to turn or what to do anymore.

[tyler's mum]

your family should understand thats what 'most' family are for,,, have you got a health centre like a polyclinic near you??? they have help there one on one or group would be a great place to get some help and maybe met some other woman with the same kinds problems

[MissBrightside]

Im not sure. I ve had a look through the yellow pages and cant see to many. Ive set up an appointment at Relationships Australia but there is up to a 3 week waiting list. I tried calling Lifeline this morning they were engaged. I suppose there are alot of people who need advice out there. I just wish I could be happy, but I dont know how to be.

[tyler's mum]

i know the feeling i sometimes wonder why i find it hard to be happy,,, just know you are not alone there are lots of other people out there who feel lost and unhappy,,, there should be a healty center near you somewhere,,, ask you local gp they can write you a letter and u will get in straight away

[MissBrightside]

Tam thanks for replying and giving me advice. I really appreciate it. I know alot of people feel the same or worse. Its just harder when it does happen to you.