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BabelFish
05-02-2008, 10:22
I have bipolar disorder and am 17 weeks pregnant, and so far have been going great guns - feeling serene and happy and positive. I haven't really enjoyed being pregnant - no morning sickness but the exhaustion is very wearing and I have sacroiliitis so I'm always in pain - but still, the last few weeks I've started to feel very happy and optimistic and excited.

Anyway, my back's been really, really bad this past week, and I've felt myself getting a bit down and unmotivated and lethargic. We saw the psychiatrist who is going to be looking after us during the pregnancy last week and he is just so lovely - I left feeling so well looked after and happy and positive.

Within a week, though, I've felt exactly the opposite - like the tiredness and pain is just overwhelming, like it's only going to get worse, like I'm behind the 8-ball in everything (work, house) and can't get motivated because I'm always so damn tired, like I'm going to get further and further behind, things are mounting up, there's not enough time for anything... and so on.

Last night I was feeling better after a great session with my lovely physio yesterday, and I was coming down the two stairs into our sunken lounge and my left leg collapsed underneath me, and I fell. Not hard, but I really twisted, and gave myself such a fright. Max rubbed my back in straight away and I felt better, but then I went to the dog's box to fish out a tennis ball to lie on (sounds strange but really helps) and I banged my left temple on the corner of the TV cabinet.

Then I sat down for dinner and in my first mouthful a really sharp piece of food went straight into my gum (and they are really tender at the moment). Well, I just lost it. Started crying and said it was all too much and I just felt overwhelmed. Max was lovely and comforting and I know that I'm going to be emotional at times during this pregnancy but I'm quite scared that I'm heading in that awful downward spiral to depression and I really don't want that to happen. It took me ages and ages to get out of bed this morning and I'm miserable and in a lot of pain and just generally feel rotten.

I was diagnosed with this illness 17 years ago and am good at listening to my body and coping with it - but I wonder if the stress of pregnancy is going to exacerbate any potential problems.

How do you just cope generally with the tiredness, the pain, the increasing physical pressures on your body? I'm sure that is what's getting me down but I need a way to combat it before I sink into a big black hole...

Chickadee
05-02-2008, 10:53
I don't have any practical advice really, but I want to say that you seem to have a very high awareness of the potential for depression and I think that already puts you in a good place for avoiding it.

It sounds like a question that your psych should be able to help you with. I don't have bipolar, just plain depression, but I know the relaxation and stress management techniques from my psych have helped a lot. Maybe consider joining a pregnancy yoga class?

BabelFish
05-02-2008, 11:25
That's a great idea and have been planning to do so but my back is in such a bad state that I'm not allowed to Yoga at the moment - typical!! I am doing Pilates though and have been considering joining a meditation group / seminar and trying that. My brother raves about it.

Lastcenturymum
05-02-2008, 11:25
Chesby sounds like a bad chain of events there and constant pain can really add to feeling down. And I so know about the tennis balls! Hopefully they can get your pain under control or manageable and that will help - can you have some more treatment soon? Sounds like you have a lot of bases covered there and with a good support network :thumbsup:

I'm having kebabs for tea tonight, so I will remember to take them off the sticks first!!:D (Just a wild guess!)

Take care

BabelFish
05-02-2008, 11:42
LOL! Nah it was hot dogs in crusty rolls - oooooouch!! It really was the last straw!!

Poor Max - he kept looking at me with this expression like, `Say the right thing. Say the right thing!!! She crying now but that could just as easily turn to anger... get it right ... get it right ... get it right ...' Poor guy - I feel so sorry for him! I'm being good though and not taking anything out on him at the moment.

Five minutes later I was giggling about something I read on here so I'm ok for now - just got a bit overwhelmed and a bit sooky and I just have to really watch things. I do have a really excellent support network which is a huge relief and makes me feel very safe - including my boss, who is stern but lovely (he's a doctor - so he gets it. Plus he has a two-year-old and a five-week old so he also gets the whole pregnancy blues thing!)

I think I just need to step up and do the things that I feel behind over even if I'm really tired, because I KNOW that will make me feel so much better. Then on the weekend I think I am going to get a pedicure and I am also going to buy a meditation cd or something which might help, too.

I find dogs are always really good when you feel rotten - my boy Chester followed me around the house last night like Velcro dog. He was so sweet - at my side every second. And then Ruby came to bed with me for a goodnight cuddle and licked my nose a few times before I fell asleep. Sweet girl.