New section for same sex parents

[draught]

I asked for this section to be opened to provide a space for same sex parents to find support from others going through the same experience, or thinking about embarking on the journey that is same sex parenting. Hope it proves useful!:)

[Happy01]

Hi Draught

Thanks for getting this forum up and running. I notice that a forum on Essential Baby has also been generated for same-sex parents. Fantastic!!

My partner and I do not have any kids yet, however, we are starting to plan the whole conception business and am getting together as much info as we can.

We are planning to go through QFG, who we hear are quite lesbian friendly and supportive.

Thanks again for starting the forum and hope others hear about the thread soon.

Gerrie

[Baby Girl]

I just want to give big :yelclap: to bubhub for opening this part of the forum. I have a lot of gay/lesbian friends who would love to have/already have kids but don't feel that they have the same support network as male/female couples. I will definitely be telling them more about bubhub now!!!

[M O P]

Good luck and welcome to Bubhub Gerrie!

[razzle]

Welcome Gerrie - and good luck to you and your partner!! :)

[the_queen]

Welcome from me too Gerrie, and good luck with the baby-making :fingerscrossed:

[TTannyaa]

Hi Happy01,

Just wanted to say welcome, everyone at bubhub is great, good luck with the baby making.

[Lisa123]

Hi Happy01,

I look forward to hearing your updates.

My sister and her partner of 6 years are looking into adopting a baby so I'll be sure to tell them about bub hub now and update them with any news from you.

Who exactly are QFG???

They have just built a gorgeous house together so that in the future they will be able to fill it with their own little bub, another little cousin for my DS.

Take care.

[Happy01]

Hello

Thank you all for your welcome, it is really appreciated.

QFG stands for Qld Fertility Group, and seems to be very good. I'm not sure if any of you are from Brisbane, but I think it is pretty well known here.

I have found Bubhub to be really great already, as I have read some really good advice about different hospitals, OB's and conception/birthing methods > so you may find I'll ask a few more questions as I find more out!!

You all seem like busy mums/mums to be and I hope you are all enjoying it.

Bye
Gerrie

[draught]

Hi Gerrie and welcome! I am glad that you found us! Let's hope that other same sex couples who are looking to conceive, or who already have conceived will find us too so that you can learn from their experiences and share your own. Of course for the usual stuff like sleeping, eating, and everything inbetween the rest of us are here to share our collective knowledge with you!

[Bron]

Welcome to bubhub Gerrie. I look forward to sharing your journey with you. Good luck!! :)

Great idea for a new section, draught.

Bron

[draught]

I would love to take credit for it but in fact others had suggested it before, then I was talking, last week, to a friend who is a lesbian mother and realised that there is a specific need for a section such as this so spoke to the big boss about it......and the rest is history!

[moog&chey]

hi everyone, im a lesbian and have been with my girlfriend for several years now and we are wanting to start a family and were just wondering where to start. i was just wondering if anyone would be able to offer us any advice.

thanks, moog xxx

[Bron]

Welcome moog. Great to have you around. :thumbsup:

[misskittyfantastico]

Welcome to BubHub moog!

[cariandkristy]

Hi everyone,

I just found this site and was really excited that there is a support network out there for lesbian parents. One of the other threads in the Gay and Lesbian chat section is all straight people giving their opinions about gay parenting :ecomcity:(nice to see that most are supportive of it though).

My partner and I have been together for 6 years and we are trying to conceive our first child. It's an exciting time (as for all parents) but also extremely frustrating.

I don't feel as though I can offer much advice to moog&chey as the options avaliable to you depend on the state that you live in, as well as personal decisions that only you and your partner can make such as whether to use a known or unknown donor. The one piece of advice I will offer though is start as soon as possible!!!!!

I don't mean the process of actually trying to conceive (you'll know when you're ready for that) but it will take months or longer to go through the whole process of deciding on a donor, getting appointments with doctors and specialists, blood and health tests, most likely you will have to attend counselling sessions with your chosen fertility clinic and depending where you live and how you choose to create your family a possibe six month wait after all that.

We decided nearly a year ago that we were ready to start a family and after three failed 'do it yourself' attempts we decided to go through a clinic. We still have another two months before we can try through them. So basically the sooner you start the whole process the less frustration you'll face when it comes time for you to start your family.

Good Luck

[girlbaby40]

HI , we are new to bubhub. I am a 41 year old woman in a lesbian relsatihip and I am 32 weeks pregnant at last!!! My partner and I have jsut finished ante natal classes and found them to be very traditional and not inclusive of alternative family structures. Everything was referred to as mum or dad. We are looking for other lesbian mums in Perth metro area for chats and support. My baby is due 22nd Jan 07 and I can't wait.

[katiana]

hey all, ive been around for a bit now, but thought id say hi here, sooo hi.


im in a lesbian relationship currently waiting for a blood test to see if my transfer stuck last week. so im beside myself, love the fact there is a section to talk about stuff without feeling like something wrong, so thanku bubhub for providing such a place where its comfortable to be who u r.


hi to all, drop me a pm if u wanna chat :)


***baby dust to all***

[Duchessa]

Good luck username! If it sticks come and check out the Nov due group :)

[mumon121207]

im only 21 but having a baby in a same sex relationship none the less.

I was wondering where you did your classes?

[emmumtobe]

Hey all,

I have no idea how to use this website but i am so excited that there is a place for same sex couples to discuss pregnancy.... i am very happy to have stumbled across this site.

I wanted to see if any of you out there have used Fertility First in Sydney (hurstville to be exact)

My partner and i have been together for 7 years and are so excited that we have an appointment with Fertility First at the beginning of March...........sooooo excited!!!

I was wondering if anyone had any information for me. We have no idea what to expect. Apart from several VERY lengthy Q&A sessions with the clinic - i just wanted to get a personal perspective.

I know they are extremley same sex friendly - we know that we are going to be using donor sperm (which is shipped in from America?@?)..and we know what we have to have a counselling session as part of our first appointment.

Any stories about donor selection? Any good advise - we would appreciate any information.

Thanks for your time!!

[2mums]

Hi,
My wife and I are trying to have our first child. We first started talking about having our family in September 2007. We got married in October 2008 and started our fertility preparation in June 2008. I started taking conceive well multivitamins and went on a strict fertility diet.

We had our first attempt 8 December 2008 - no luck. Attempt two 5 January - again no luck.
I had my scan today for my follicle growth - i only have one (size 15) and we inseminate on Friday 30th. Fingers crossed.

Anyway, we are finding the process really hard and would love to speak to others who are going through the same.

Thanks
Amanda and Kylie

[2mums]

Hi,
don't know much about your clinic but have learnt alot about the process if this is what you are interested in. I'm sure it will vary from state to state. But we had to met the doctor - the one carrying gives a full medical history. Both get tested for HIV and Hep C and rubella. The one carrying has additional tests to check FSH, LH and progesterone levels and also have scans of your ovaries. If that all goes well you will have some counselling sessions where they discuss your understanding of the process, the legalities or lack of them, etc and then you start.

You ring your donor co-ordinator on day one of your cycle and then start your hormones for day 2 to 6 and then between day 8 and 12 you have a vaginal scan to check the follicle growth - then they decide which day to inseminate. Get taught how to administer your trigger injection of Pregnyl and your on your way.

If you wnat to know more about the insem - just ask

Amanda

[Leeee]

hey i'm new here. my partner and i have just tried our second month in a row and it seems to have failed again. having a really hard time dealing with it. would prefer not to have to turn to a clinic cos the way i see it the point is to spend $000s after the baby is born, not before. or at least not on getting pregnant in the firs place. any advice? cos it's depressing me that it hasn't worked (yes i know it's only been 2 months) when so many people do it by accident. :(
thanks

[ontheway]

I understand we could not afford going through a clinic.
I tried DIY for 9 cycle's before my partner took over and got pregnant her first cycle(the *****).

Hang on in there and you can PM if you needto chat.

[babedreamer]

Oh I've finally found a thread for me! Thank you so much for setting up. We have been trying to get preggers for nearly 4years now and are on a journey to find an egg donor! What a challenge. It is so good to know that there is somewhere to get advise and hopefully advertise. Keeping my fingers crossed for lots of :babydust2:

[Leeee]

it's my partner's O-week. :fingerscrossed:

[Nurse27]

good luck :)

[eggdonor2]

We are looking for donor embryos made using anonymous donor sperm sourced at Queensland Fertility Group.

Any info or help would be gratefully received.

[monii]

hi everyone, me and my partner have not got any children yet. but we are really wanting to have one. does anyone know where we could get a sperm donor?
:goodvibes: