View Full Version : do u cc when at someone elses house??
we do use controll crying a bit with our ds but just wondering weather its approprate to use it at someone elses house because were staying with them. his bed time is 7pm so it wouldnt interupt there sleep. just wondering if we should or shouldnt???
they are family as well. if that matters.
I've used a version of cc in the past but have never used it anywhere other than our house. I feel it is unfair on the baby because they might be unfamiliar with the house - the noises, the people, the smells, etc. It might freak them out a bit.
depends where i am... if im at my dads, yes cos he knows that house as well as ours... same with my sisters, but basically anywhere else i wouldnt until he knew the house :)
I would find it rude of someone to use it at my house, so maybe check with the person first.
maybe you could just explain and ask them if it was ok?
BTW you belly is getting so much bigger! So cute!!
:hugs: thanks for the support i will see how everything goes and just explain it. there grandparents themselves. so im sure everything will be ok. if ds is unsettled at there place for any reason i would choose to do it differently. so i will take it as it goes. as u can see we dont stay over peoples place much so im not sure how he will cope. he knows his grandparents place but not his greatgrandparents place....
i'd say just see how it goes as you don't know how DS will react to the change of location. If it were me i would explain that you let DS cry a bit before he goes to sleep and thats what you always do at home etc. You may find they will be fine with it once you explain it.
I had to let my DD have a nap at my nana's house and I explained that she cries for a minute while settling.Nana turned around in true old school fashion and said she had to do that with all 3 of of kids,a cry's good for them!
Wasn't expected her to be ok with it.
OK, about the question, anyone who is a true friend or close relative should respect you enough to let you raise your child whatever way you see fit without interfering. Its not like you are beating him or causing him any harm, this is your choice in how to train him to settle himself and learn not to be scared in his room at night.
I have stayed in my parents house quite a few times and I used controlled crying. When she cried I told them not to go in. She had plenty to eat so was not hungry, she had a fresh nappy on so she was just looking to be picked up and she had to learn that it is night time and time for bed. So they sat there and we continued our chat and watching telly and not long afterwards Aimee was sleeping.
It sounds to me like your a very involved mum and know what your doing and most certainly have the best interests of your little one at heart. So you should do what you think is best for him, and you would hope your relative would respect you enough to allowed you to raise your child as you see fit.
We have travelled quite a lot and stayed in a lot of different places with DS since he was a tiny baby. Every where we have stayed we have just explained to the people we were staying with what our bedtime routine/settling method was and it has always been ok. We have used CC - gone in at regular intervals etc. Obviously if DS got distressed then we made sure there wasn't a problem (he has been ill when we were away a couple of times.)
I found we were just very persistent with our settling techniques as we knew we would have to travel a lot (families are very dispersed) - DS will sleep anywhere at all now with no problems. It paid off for us and whilst he doesn't sleep as well in a new place, he does settle himself in the usual way.
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If it helps, we had friends stay with us for a few days before we had kids & they were doing CC. They just explained it to us & we were fine with it. It wasn't like the baby was going at it hammer & tong for hours on end, they were at the point with it where he'd cry for a bit & they'd go in, resettle him, come out, he'd cry for a few minutes & then be asleep.
It actually gave us an interesting topic to talk about!
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