I am, but im not!

[DjF]

Well - im 31 this year - my df and i have decided we should start our family now (and pretty excited about it!). 2 reasons - even though im not - im starting to 'feel' a little old! also we are still saving a deposit for a home and cant afford the non extravagant wedding we want!
I know statistically parents are older now - just always thought i would have started b4 now!
Does any body else feel this way - or is it just the clock ticking a bit louder in my ear?:confused:
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[Mya's mummy]

Hi,

I am 37 and we have just had our first child, dd is now 3 months. i wouldn't really worry about the age. i didn't feel ready to have a child until I was 31 and then unfortunately we had a few problems along the way, which is why we have only just had our dd.

I also have several friends back in the UK who have had children at 40. I don't believe being in your 30's is old anymore, we all just have so much more to do before children. Just make sure you feel ready. Good luck

[samuelboy]

Hi DjF

I always thought I would have started my family before thirty, like mid 20's, but I didn't meet my husband until I was 24. I had my little boy when I was 30 and will be 32 just after my second arrives and am wanting to have one more sometime before 35.

Yes, somedays I feel old (very old) but when I think about it I don't think I would have coped as well if I was any younger. Of course that's just me but I'm glad now that I'm a bit older (and supposedly wiser) and I'll still only be in my 50s when my kids hit adulthood. For me it has worked out perfectly and this has been the ideal age for me to have kids.

Good luck!

[lukaelmo]

Hey,

I was 30 when I fell pregnant with the dude and he was born when I was 31. I would like to have 3 (or 4!) more and feel a little bit like I should hurry up and do so before time runs out for me. Having said that, I had a c/s and I don't feel physically ready just yet to have another baby.

And having said all that, I would never have coped when I was younger, I was too busy running around the world and getting into all sorts of mischief :D .

[DjF]

I know i have had time to do what i want in life - i think now im just able to think a lot more about it - and wish id started earlier - its just me (and my overthinkers brain)! Not to worry - I remind myself - all in good time!
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[moonblossom]

Anytime, is a good time, if its the right time :D

Best of luck :)

[Jules16]

Well - im 31 this year - my df and i have decided we should start our family now (and pretty excited about it!). 2 reasons - even though im not - im starting to 'feel' a little old! also we are still saving a deposit for a home and cant afford the non extravagant wedding we want!
I know statistically parents are older now - just always thought i would have started b4 now!
Does any body else feel this way - or is it just the clock ticking a bit louder in my ear?:confused:
D

I feel exactly the same and I'm 35!! You are so young DjF. Make the most of your youth and just relax and enjoy each and every day.

[IAdoreYou]

I say EXCELLENT!!! :thumbsup:

I will be 30 when we ttc # 2 and I feel SO young still.

[p4purple]

Over 30's!!! I am so happy that I found this thread. DH is 37 and I am 31 next week and due in Dec 2006. It was unplanned but I could not be happier. I had a wild time in my 20's and was way to selfish to consider being a mum. Now as I enter the next decade and the next phase I kind of feel like life is just begining!

Seeing as I am only 6 weeks pregers, I have had to tell my friends that we are going away for my birthday because there is no way that I could not be around them and not have a drink.... they'd ask if I was sick or preggers and it's to early to share the news!

[shed]

I will be 37 when bubby arrives. My first and only child. I always only wanted one so never felt the need to hurry, although I do feel quite old, but thats just because everyone else is so young, so its not my fault, its theirs!

[zenifa]

DjF - I understand how your feel. After years together studying, working, travelling, DH & I found ourselves 'settling down' at 30, buying our first home and a week after we moved in, we conceived our DD (unplanned), so I was 31 when she was born. Personally I wouldn't of been ready to be a parent any earlier. DH & I enjoyed our time together, to be carefree and do what we want. In some ways it would of been good to have children when I was was younger, but I have no regrets. I do feel the 'ticking of the biological clock' in terms of, if I want my DD to have siblings, I shouldn't wait too long. Like samuelboy, I ideally would want to complete my family by the time I'm 35 (I'll be 32 next month:eek: ). Sometimes I feel old, but I do think having children makes you stay young IYKWIM.

[Bellarose]

I'm turning 32 this year and TTC only recently. (wish me luck !!) I cant say that I feel 'old' but rather I feel ready to be a mum only since turning thirty. I maybe older but feel more settled and wiser than I was in my twenties.
In my twenties I travelled and was more focused on work than having a family. Keep healthy and happy.

[(justme)]

:wave: i had my second baby at 31 and feel that i have a lot more patience and common sense with her than my first baby at nearly 23.

[Aquamarine]

I had my third bub at 31.

We have three but would like one more.

I want to have our last bub by 33.

I think it suites everyone at different ages and stages of their lives.

[pkbub]

I think this is a perfect time of life to be pregnant! I was worried to start a family too late because I know of others who, once decidecd, had difficulties with conception. Then there's the risks you face the longer you wait past 35...all played a factor for me. And we all got to have lots of "me" time in our 20's! :smiliedance:

So, even though I am so completely, boringly statistically average for having my first baby at 30.9 yrs, I think it is the right time. Thankfully DH was ready with me - it must be really difficult for women with partners who are not ready for kids the same time as them.